too AS to date or how do I help a friend (who is also my ex)

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Baconessa
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12 Oct 2014, 1:24 pm

I am actually outside that box very much. And he did not work out with me. Do you think someone like him, who almost never talks, can work out with *anyone*?



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12 Oct 2014, 9:33 pm

I'm reasonably sure I'm too intractably weird to date, but that's a no-fault scenario and I basically live to coexist with anyone who could make use of all the assorted wisdom I could volunteer them. On the spectrum we're as accustomed as can be to harsh, strange realities; this doesn't usually negate our intentions to make the most of our time among friends. We withdraw because we're inevitably conscious of this dynamic however we're intrinsically capable of changing more or less anything upon request.


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12 Oct 2014, 10:13 pm

Baconessa wrote:
I am actually outside that box very much. And he did not work out with me. Do you think someone like him, who almost never talks, can work out with *anyone*?


Not sure, I mean I think that would certainly make it more challenging since talking is how humans communicate...so if he seriously almost never talks even like one on one with them when he gets to know them better I can see that being frustrating. But maybe someone else who also hated to converse even about interesting things would get along with someone else who also does.


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12 Oct 2014, 10:17 pm

With him and talking, it's like this: if you're not telling a story or talking about something, it's dead silence. If you tell him a story, he listens and either laughs or occasionally comments. If you ask him a question, even a mundane like how is it going, he cringes. If you ask less mundane question, like how is his coding going, he will say "not bad" and that's it. And rest of the time, he is dead quiet. He occasionally responds to questions more elaborately, bor ut that obviously pains him. He never volunteers any information except very significant info like being accepted into a program.



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15 Oct 2014, 12:08 am

Find your own means of saying being bored/confused/scared doesn't always get in the way of caring about people. We're all sharing a planet; I see no reason anyone should
feel excluded. Things seem one-sided to anybody I would imagine, we all see our own side.


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15 Aug 2017, 11:01 am

i'm too AS to be dated by anybody & too AS to be approached by NT Women or Girls of my own age that are chubby :x :x :x :x :x :x