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The_Face_of_Boo
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15 Oct 2014, 6:12 am

Yuzu wrote:
^ Come to think of it, the ones who didn't give me the second chance I contacted them first and the ones I did not give second chances to, contacted me first. (sorry for the butchered grammar)
So yeah you might be right.


Yeah, I think that's it. When you make the first contact, you've already kinda approved this person - it's like you are asking for a chance to be approved by him; so you would be in the weaker position while him in the decision-making position.

My impression on this is gender-biased because well....the social expectation in dating of who should initiate is gender-biased itself (men are expected to initiate in most of the cases).



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15 Oct 2014, 12:15 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
(Alert: Sweeping generalization based on my personal observation only)

Based on my personal exp, yes, women tend to either like or not like the guy since date 1 or first meetup, they make up their minds quickly: No attraction at first = never will be.

While men are way more willing to give second chances to develop things even if they're unsure whether they like her or not yet.

That's also due to the difference in options, any fairly attractive woman can have a date every day if she wants (theoretically if she has nil standards), while a fairly attractive man can't do it that much no matter how low his standards are.

That's also why you hear much more of guys falling in love with intimate female friends than vice versa, while you hear much more of female friends complaining about guy friends trying to take friendship further than vice versa as well.


I've experienced the exact opposite. I find men to be much more ridgid when it comes to attraction. If they are not attracted to the girl straight away, then that's a no go and it cannot be compensated by character. Women on the other hand to to be a bit more flexible and are 'conquerable'. Just my experienc though. The truth is probably somewhere in the middle.