How to be attractive

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Hey, Tegh!

Here are a few pointers:

• Posture: When standing, shoulders back, spine straight (imagine that something is gently pulling up on your ponytail), chest out, buttocks tight. Yes, it seems silly, but it is much more attractive than slouching. When sitting, feet on the floor, elbows at your side, and the same posture I just describes from the waist up. When walking, relax your posture a bit, but keep your head up (don't stare at the floor). Walk like you own the place; this shows confidence.
  
• Hygiene: Clean hair and skin. Deodorant and light perfume. Brush and floss. Hair pulled back from your face implies an open personality; have it trimmed and lightly styled by a professional, and ask that professional to show you how to maintain it yourself. Nails need only be neatly trimmed.
  
• Expression: Smile. Just a slight lifting of the corners of your mouth, that's all.
  
• Clothing: A tricky subject ... Clothes that fit look best, even when they aren't revealing; and by "revealing", I mean exposing too much skin and fitting too snugly around your curves. Leave something to the imagination.

So much for appearance ... now for attitude ...

To acquire interest from men, you need only be interesting to men. This is hard to achieve, because every man has different interests (aside from sex). Read up on technology, sports, and automobiles. Play video games, chess, pool, and poker. Learn to dance, play an instrument, paint, or draw -- artistic expression is very interesting, unless it's rambling emo freeverse. Be able to express your own opinions without anger, but don't let a man impose his ideas on you -- if his ego seems threatened by an intelligent woman who can think for herself, then he is not worth your time.

Above all, ignore those bastards who verbally abuse you and those who insult you for wanting to better yourself and become something other than a life-support system for two breasts and a vagina -- THEY are the losers, because they will never find out what it is like to have a relationship with a real woman.

Single aspies are probably not the people to get advice from, unless you are looking for another aspie. At the moment, I don't know what I am. I could give you all kinds of advice, but that would be like a part time solution for a permanent problem. Everything comes and goes for me. I just had one. It was a great 4 weeks. If I get over a 3 month relationship, it will be a record. I have no shortage of screwing up a relationship either. You're attractive. I'm single. You seem very nice. A relationship between us would probably be like trying to roll a square ball.

happy hunting.

You need to hang out where the aspies are, as you are much more likely to get along with them , obviously you are not going to get along with all of them or even half.

If you can spot male aspies they should be at the grocery store like everyone else.

If you can't then...dunno maybe the library, video game store, computer store, 2nd hand book store.

You seem to like Star Trek TNG going by your username, wear a flattering star trek T-Shirt?

On the physical side men like healthy looking women, as in not too skinny not too fat. There is a large margin within those 2 boundaries. Also toned muscle looks better than none.
Personally I dont like shaved heads, try wearing a wig?

You're attractive already. All of us on this spectrum need to be patient with ourselves to figure out how we're really trying to live. You've got a good start - certainly my favorite username anywhere here!

You called it hunting. Does this mean I require a shotgun?

Everything is subjective, especially how to be attractive since that varies depending on who you're trying to attract.

She had it right the first time lol

If you want to attract a duck hunter sure!

I good hunter baits, and waits. It takes patients. All of it.

Seriously. Just be you. That way you will be baiting the right animal. And wait.

Again, this advice is coming from an very avid, and unsuccessful hunter.

You could always go on a dating website, and troll too. Women have good luck with that so I hear.

In your pic it looks like you are frowning and are not happy. Smiling or at least having a less unhappy looking expression would help. I had to work on this. It is hard, but I think people react to me differently since I have worked on this.

Agreed, but don't be afraid to hunt also. You're not unattractive, but you just need to find the right person to click with.

I suppose that's one way to do it.

To capture a specimen with minimal damage, consider using shotgun shells filled with sand. They'll stun, but won't cause (much) permanent injury. (Replace the barrel every so often if you do this; sand abrades the interior of the barrel and can dangerously weaken it after a while.)

It's not really you anyways. It's a trick.

Like this. Say you're a person, and you have an idea of what you are attracted to. You go around out in public looking for it. Only your eyes are not actually taking anything in. They are projecting out. The attraction comes when the projection comes into view. Familiarity has something to do with it.

So I guess it depends.

You need a target first.

This is the most helpful advice so far. Very practical.

You are so right. Women shouldn't feel silly emotions like boredom, concentration, unhappiness, or anger. We should he happy all the time. It makes us prettier, and god know we exist to be pretty.

I don't see what the big deal is about smiling in pictures, half the time it looks fake since people are forcing themselves to smile which looks strained to me. But sometimes seeming 'happy' can attract people, but then again those people might then expect that you keep up the happy appearance and be disappointed if you don't.