Why can't I find someone who isn't heartless?

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This situation is that they consider their bad luck with women to be the fault of those women, and not their own fault.

Why ask them to mess up the lives of other men when they can't even get their own lives in order?

These are times that require drastic measures.

Serial fornication.

AKA: "Conga Line"

I wish I wasnt an easy target and it sucks you hit the nail on the head. How do I avoid having such monsters like that seek me out because 9/10 they seek me out they destroy me within and it hurts, maybe I should either become mean and cold hearted myself or just avoid them altogether, maybe let the hatred and evil manifest within my heart and become evil myself? I don't know anymore I prefer just avoiding everyone because I don't want to be an evil heartless person.

Go out with them, and get them really really drunk at least three times, before determining anything. Almost no one can hide their true colors after that. They will tell you what they want, and like.

Sleezy salesmen get the gold.

Be extremely hip, and social. Make them laugh alot. Give them warm fuzzy feelings of fulfillment, and ecstasy.

Be all you can be, and more.

Get a farrari, and make at least 750,000$ a year.

Take a shower.

Use deoderant.

Brush your teeth.

Get adopted into an extremely rich family.

Be a dink, own everything! Like Dave Mustaine said in a song "whats yours is mine, what's mine is mine". That way there isn't any confusion.

Stay away from the confusion.

Find one that is willing to accept ALOT of alone time.

Poke a bunch of holes in your bubble.

Put a protective coating around your private parts.

Just kidding. I have no good advice, I choose to be single most of the time. most relationships actually require spending a required amount of time with someone? So I hear? In fact most people on here, you probably should not get advice from. They are single too.

Appearantly there is something "off" about the way you interact with women. You need to critically evaluate yourself when it comes to interacting with ladies. Perhaps ask your friends for feedback.

You're single too.
Just proving my point.

Uhm, what was your point exactly? Your posts are rather vague. And I have no problem interacting with men. They don't look at me weirdly when I open my mouth, or anything like that.

I interacted with them many times by approaching them in the right time. I talked with them and guess what? They lost interested of me real quick (or rather avoid me) after having a discussing. Most times, i can't even talk about what i like. I don't want to pretend to like something that i have little to no interested in what that person likes. I really don't see the point anymore.

Yes, I know. I'm vague. I like to leave things kind of open, so the wind can blow it around under these circumstances.

My point was that the OP probably should not get advice from this place, because most of the people are single. Like you. And me.

I think that is a ridiculous thing to say. I don't see why a currently single person could not give others advice on this topic.
As a psychologist I help my clients with all sorts of problems.

Giving someone advice about something you do not have, or have not attained, is rather ridiculous. It is not much different than a blind person giving advice on how to see.

Psychologists don't exactly raise the relationship bar, or lower devorce rates either.

Sorry if I may have made you erupt.

You didn't cause any emotional reaction with me, but I think what you are writing is a flat out load of crap. You can give someone advice on something you don't have. Your comparison is bad as well. You sound quite frustrated to be honest and are blurting out nonsensible things.

O.k. thank you.

I am sorry, but nonsensible is not a usable scrabble word. However, nonsensical.... absolutely hilarious
nonsensical

adjective
1
conceived or made without regard for reason or reality <the idea that we could counteract global warming by opening all of the world's refrigerators at once is nonsensical at best>
Synonyms absurd, bizarre, crazy, fanciful, foolish, insane, nonsensical, preposterous, unreal, wild
Related Words implausible, inconceivable, incredible, unbelievable, unimaginable, unthinkable; extravagant, grotesque; bizarro, curious, eccentric, far-out, funny, kinky, kooky (also kookie), odd, outlandish, out-of-the-way, outré, peculiar, quaint, queer, queerish, quirky, screwy, strange, wacky (also whacky), way-out, weird; farcical, laughable, ludicrous, ridiculous; Alice-in-Wonderland, Kafkaesque, nightmarish; dreamlike, surreal
Antonyms realistic, reasonable
2
showing or marked by a lack of good sense or judgment <your plan to lose weight through total starvation is completely nonsensical>
Synonyms absurd, asinine, balmy, brainless, bubbleheaded, cockeyed, crackpot, crazy, cuckoo, daffy, daft, dippy, dotty, fatuous, featherheaded, fool, half-baked, harebrained, half-witted, inept, insane, jerky, kooky (also kookie), loony (also looney), lunatic, lunkheaded, mad, nonsensical, nutty, preposterous, sappy, screwball, senseless, silly, simpleminded, stupid, tomfool, unwise, wacky (also whacky), weak-minded, witless, zany
Related Words airheaded, birdbrained, boobish, brain-dead, chowderheaded, chuckleheaded, clueless, dense, dim, dim-witted, doltish, dopey (also dopy), dorky [slang], dull, dumb, dunderheaded, empty-headed, fatuous, feebleminded, gormless [chiefly British], idiotic (also idiotical), imbecile (or imbecilic), knuckleheaded, lamebrain (or lamebrained), mindless, moronic, oafish, obtuse, opaque, pinheaded, simple, slow, slow-witted, soft, softheaded, thoughtless, thick, thickheaded, unintelligent, vacuous, witless; fallacious, illogical, invalid, irrational, nonrational, surd, unreasonable, unreasoning, unsound, weak; farcical, laughable, ludicrous, ridiculous; notional; buffoonish, clownish; ill-advised, unconsidered, unreasoned
Near Antonyms brainy, bright, clever, intelligent, smart; logical, rational, reasonable, valid; well-advised
Antonyms judicious, prudent, sagacious, sage, sane, sapient, sensible, sound, wise

What do you say when you talk to women? Do you talk in a very monotonous way? Do you come of as enthousiastic and real? Do you pose things in such a way that you come of as arrogant? Is your body language open and inviting or do you come off as aloof and insecure? Do you crack weird creepy jokes that hardly anyone but you understands? Do you only talk about yourself or do you also ask questions about them? What kind of questions do you ask? If you are obsessed with trains and have a monologue on trains you can't expect the average women to be interested in that.

And perhaps you are just not meeting or surrounding yourself with the right women. If you are looking for a goofy nerdy women with interests such as yours, a bar or a miss pageant might not be the best place to find a woman that suits you.

Try to reflect on these things and be honest with yourself. Ask others for true feedback. A self defeatist attitude won't get you anywhere.