Does she like me?The usual question of an aspie male

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Your an aspie so no! Nobody likes aspie males.

I once knew a really pretty girl (probably the prettiest I've known IMO) then I made the mistake of thinking he liked me, so I asked her out and she said she just wanted to be friends. From then on I couldn't stay in the same room as her because I was so embarrassed now I haven't seen her in over a year because of that.

In my experience, a no response to text/fb means there's no interest, regardless of how friendly she facts face to face.

I just found this site having just learned I've been married 25 yrs. to an aspie. Make no mistake that all of her physical cues point to her liking you, or the sight of you. Typical thought process of my wife here in the lack of perception to body language. Her mirroring, posturing and just importantly touching you means chemistry. Take a leap of faith and approach her knowing that in your mind and you'll be rewarded. .

Nope your an aspie male she doesn't like you in any way shape or form! The fact that your an aspie is an instafail!

It does sound like something may be going on, but I would try and know her better. Talk to her and be yourself. Just try and be a friend at first. See how things progress as you guys talk more like are you getting more interested in her and does she seem more interested in you. Don't try and force anything; just go slowly so that way it's comfortable to you both. My first six months of college I had a situation like yours, and it was awkward as well as confusing. At the end of the six months I eventually confessed my feelings to the guy I had feelings for him and it was very scary. He said he liked me as a friend and loved his girlfriend at the time. Two weeks later he confessed that he did infact like me. He actually broke up with said girlfriend to be with me because it was then he realized he wanted to be with me. The entire time before hand I kept getting the vibe that something was up and it was exclusively through body language and gestures. She may be quiet now because she's anxious or in a relationship but is experiencing a crush outside of it. I think something is up, but it will take time to discover if she has feelings for you. Remember that anything is possible.

I have related question: how do I make "him" ask me out?

There is a guy in my school. I liked him since the start so I was looking at him. At first he was just sitting with his friends and ignoring me - one of his friends was responding more to my attempts. But that's another story, not worth mentioning.

But one day, due to some coincidence (I was late so someone took my place and the place near him was free) I ended up sitting with the guy for a whole day. He was joking for the whole time and I was laughing like crazy. And he was doing the same. We were disturbing classes. Teachers were constantly asking us "what's so funny?" but we couldn't answer because it was just some kind of same wavelength conversation between us. There was no specific reason to laugh. We were just commenting the lesson and we found each other comments funny for some weird reason.

Since then I started talking with him and ended up sitting with him a few times. By the end of school year I was already talking with him every school break. I even slipped I have Asperger and asked him if he knows what it is and he said he knows. His attitude towards me didn't change because of that at all. He started to sometimes recognize I have trouble understanding lesson and offering his help since about that time though(he doesn't ask when I don't have trouble yet he recognize when I do).

And after vacation, when his friends dropped school (a lot of people in our group did) he took the spot by my side. We are sitting together since then. We still comment the lesson and laugh, but not as much as during the first time. We talk about exams and job hunting. He seems honest with me, he mentions what troubles him.

Yet as time passes I start to worry that I might lose him soon. He started another school and his new schedule interferes with the school we both attend so he doesn't show up on some lessons and he complains about his busy schedule. I am sad, bored and confused when he is not on the lesson with me, especially since I never know if he is going to show up or not. What if he suddenly drops the school and I will be hoping for him to show up forever? I don't even have any way to communicate with him outside of school. I don't have his cell phone number (I didn't think about that earlier and now I am feeling its too late - how can you ask someone who you are friend with since 1,5 year for his cell phone number? It's awkward - its almost as if I asked him for his name.), he is not on facebook and he doesn't seem to check his school PM account. I only know which building he lives in but I don't know which floor and which door.

Besides, I am not sure what I would do with him outside of school. For 1,5 year we were only talking in school and mostly about school. How do friends hang out? We could go shopping or to a park or to a trip or to a movie but how can I know if he would be happy with that? It doesn't sound too interesting to me since I generally spend my time solo and I don't know if doing things with someone in the city can be any fun. I wish he would take initiative and invite me to do something fun since I really have no idea where I could invite him - I just don't know those stuff.

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Naw your an aspie male she instantly doesn't like you and is playing games with you!