goldfish21
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31 Dec 2014, 3:11 am
Klowglas wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
AspBite makes some very good points. I just thought I'd share a couple things of my own.
When I was a younger, I used to think and feel like you do.. until after I got laid. And then did so again.. and again. While I haven't ever really had a "relationship," yet at 32, I have had more sex than a retired porn star. So, these things can and do change in peoples' lives. I'm on the cusp of actually being interested in dating now & eventually finding a partner and having a real relationship in my life as I finally feel ready to let something like that happen vs. intentionally avoiding it because I felt I'd be a burden vs. an asset to someone in the past. Bringing this all back to what AspBite wrote, a part of how I know I'm ready to consider entering into a relationship is that I'm pretty happy solo and don't Need someone else to make me feel whole and happy. Adding someone else into my life will be a bonus vs. something I feel I'm lacking and need to try to force into my life. Make sense?
P.S. I'm gay. It's a bit of a different life/relationship/sex life progression than heteros. Also, it's probably a whole lot easier for me to get laid than most straight guys, especially since I live in the suburbs of the city with the highest gay population in the country.
When I was a younger, I used to think and feel like you do.. until after I got laid. And then did so again.. and again. While I haven't ever really had a "relationship," yet at 32, I have had more sex than a retired porn star. So, these things can and do change in peoples' lives. I'm on the cusp of actually being interested in dating now & eventually finding a partner and having a real relationship in my life as I finally feel ready to let something like that happen vs. intentionally avoiding it because I felt I'd be a burden vs. an asset to someone in the past. Bringing this all back to what AspBite wrote, a part of how I know I'm ready to consider entering into a relationship is that I'm pretty happy solo and don't Need someone else to make me feel whole and happy. Adding someone else into my life will be a bonus vs. something I feel I'm lacking and need to try to force into my life. Make sense?
P.S. I'm gay. It's a bit of a different life/relationship/sex life progression than heteros. Also, it's probably a whole lot easier for me to get laid than most straight guys, especially since I live in the suburbs of the city with the highest gay population in the country.
Honest to god, I sort of wish that I was gay because you get the logical side of a relationship on both ends, "hey we both have the same interests, we both enjoy each other's company, might as well become a couple!".
Not too long ago I believe somebody made a post complaining about not being able to get into a relationship with one of his female friends, whom he shared a lot of similar interests with. The logical male brain would have done it, but when you add that emotional aspect, everything goes straight to hell and the relationship takes on this hidden sphere that depends on the male's intuition and ability to read between the lines, this promptly pushes out the younger males in favor of old veterans that have played the game for a long time. Aspie males are at an even stronger disadvantage.
You are in a good spot, enjoy your life.
lol two guys at work both recently said that they were jealous of me being gay because it's infinitely easier for me to go get laid than it is for them. And it really is - to the point that I'd rather read a book or research an interest or project.. which is a part of why I'm ever more open to dating or a relationship, so that at some point in the future sex actually has some meaning vs. momentary physical gratification.
Don't think that sort of thing doesn't happen to us homos. I've had a crush on a gay friend for years, but, I'm not his type. We have mutual interests and all sorts of things in common.. except he's my type and I'm not his. Such is life. But yeah, that sort of thing still happens for us, too.
Also, many guys over the years have wanted to date me.. but I haven't been interested in them. Maybe I'm really picky, but it is what it is and I'm attracted to the aesthetics and personality types that I am. Eventually I'll meet the right guy with a mutual attraction to me. In the meantime I'm not going to spend too much time and energy looking for dates, but will spend some. Instead I'll mostly be working on myself and my various goals and then whenever it's supposed to happen I'll meet someone.
Oh, I do enjoy my life.. thanks.
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31 Dec 2014, 4:24 pm
01 Jan 2015, 9:51 pm
06 Jan 2015, 9:53 pm
CynicalWaffle wrote:
MXH wrote:
CynicalWaffle wrote:
You mean, "the older you are, the harder it becomes....if you're a guy." At least, that's what I hope you meant, Boo. 
It gets harder for both. Women get tons of competition from the younger ones
Not really so much for women, because they can still find love well into their 60s.
The only way men can still find it that late is if they are: 1. rich, or 2. handsome. This goes for all (legal) age groups of women that men can "choose" (lol) from.
The next question is, why on earth would you want to find love that late? By then, your "equipment" won't work and you'll be only a few years away from needing Depends.
There are plenty of non-handsome, non-rich me who get lots of dates, have long relationships and/or have been happily married for years.
(If you don't believe me, go look at the engagements/wedding announcements section of your local paper... there'll be ample evidence of this, on a weekly basis!).
