Why do American men have it so bad in America?

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Joke? I hope. Or else the contradictory statement of the week.

Every woman is beautiful, each in her own way.

Except for the ones who are bug-ugly.

Like you?

I am not a woman.

I do not believe men in America are getting shafted by a real or imagined epidemic of obese women -- given that 1/3 of American women AND men are obese, a non-obese man who prefers not to date obese women has the remaining 2/3 of American women (the non-obese ones) to choose from.

If a man can't find a date among 2/3 of the American female population? It isn't due to a lack of options!

This sums up the thread perfectly. Someone edit this reply into the OP and close the thread.

I'd judge them on all of the above - it's about the whole of attraction, not just aesthetic or personality - but everything. I don't find it shallow for someone who's sexually attracted to skinny people to be turned off by overweight people. There are others who are specifically attracted to overweight people - let them connect with each other. Everyone likes what they like and can't help whatever it is they're attracted to. Kind of a bit of a rude assumption to call people shallow for having specific aesthetic criteria they're into.

I think it's unreasonable to expect something of a partner that you're unwilling to do yourself -- so, if you're a super-fit gym rat, expecting to date only super-fit hottie girls is reasonable.

A shlub who expects to date only super-fit hotties? Isn't reasonable and, unless he's really lucky or has a super-duper great personality, is unlikely to get many (or, frankly any) dates with super-fit hotties!

So, Mr. Turned Off By Non-Skinny Girls, are you at least as fit as the girls you're trying (and clearly failing) to get to date you?

Even if I was a "super-fit gym rat," I wouldn't necessarily look for a "super-fit hottie."

My personal tastes in ladies do not lean toward extremely "buff" women.

In general, I agree with you on this in almost all instances. People typically have to be of similar fitness levels to those they want to attract - it helps in terms of matching active lifestyles, too, vs. just body types.

A "shlub" could date super-fit hotties.. especially if he had a lot of money. The other possibility is that a super-fit hottie is attracted to "shrubs" and finds him. Stranger things have happened.

I'm in pretty good shape right now @ 6'2" ~200lbs ~13%bf or so, fairly strong, w/ my cardio decent enough that I could stop whatever I'm doing and jog 10 miles at pretty much any moment. However, I'm gay, so I couldn't care less about trying to date anyone but non-skinny girls. I don't have too much difficulty attracting fit/slim/athletic boys, though. For the sake of this thread, yes, in general, the fitter I am the easier it is to attract others who are also fit.