Dating Difficulties

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Sequoias are beautiful trees.

I would desire a woman who is as dignified as a Sequoia.

I have dated one girl. We broke up at least 2 years ago. We still talk to each other and aren't as hurt by each other about our relationship. It was an experience to learn from.

Recently, I tried to ask out a girl in my school theater class. She turned me down due to not knowing me well.

I know there are other rules, but they are too much to consider.

@Kraftiekortie, I've never seen the trees, but I have a deep love of words, and sequoia is one of the most beautiful-sounding words I've ever heard in my life, so that's why I picked it as my screenname.

That's sick. I couldn't imagine getting tangled up with someone else's sweat let alone 2 people's!

Besides, God knows what you may come down with. It could be a death sentence.

1) Keep your judgments to yourself. It is no more sick than homosexual relationships, asexuals, transgenders, or standard male female gender binary pair bonding.

2) Just because you don't like the physical aspects of being sexually intimate doesn't mean that the rest of us don't. Studies have shown the same spread of sexual desires in Aspies as in NTs (ranging from asexual to hypersexual). While the concept of being asexual is completely foreign and alien to me, you don't hear me bashing that choice.

3) ACTUALLY... we do know what we will come down with... you see... WE ARE EXCLUSIVE... before we engaged in ANY sexual activity, there was an extensive period of testing. We are all healthy, carry no STDs and as such we are at exactly zero risk because we only have sex with each other.

I recommend that you research before speaking... or ask questions... reactions like this make you seem judgmental in the extreme, rude as hell... and - when nothing you say is accurate - a bit of a fool. If you can't speak with respect, please don't address me in the future.

I think you'll do all right, Sequoia. If you have a good sense of words, that's half the battle.

Words have always been an interest of mine. I used to like for my gramma to read the dictionary to me looking for big words.

Shouldn't this go in the love & dating forum?

You get upset over intolerant attitudes and you live in the US bible belt?

It also seems a bit hypocritical to complain when you resort to name calling.

And remember not to feed the trolls...

No. I live in New Orleans.

I didn't name call... I stated clearly that their reactions made it SEEM that they were those things.

One comment does not a troll make... Until this exchange, I actually had a great deal of respect for ImAnAspie...

It doesn't involve you... thanks

Then if I say you seem like an as*hole its not name calling...

I was once told I need to 'see therapy before I date because the answers to the questions I was asking circumvent actual logic.'


Please, someone explain how wanting open and honest communication with someone who you have mutual trust with, and being able to skip the whole 'flirtation' stuff that has no practical purpose after a relationship has started are 'bad' things.

Also, as for our little 'love triangle', although I would be unlikely to engage in such a thing, as long as all three members agree to everything, nobody is cheating on anyone else and are of the age of consent, there's nothing 'wrong' with it, in my opinion, as nobody is getting hurt.

Moved from General Discussion forum.

Let's please politely agree to disagree. Otherwise this thread we'll be closed.

I could understand one's irritation at all the dating rituals and rules. I've had more than my share of irritations, and I've made my share of mistakes.

However, I do like to flirt. And I like ladies to flirt with me. I like to wink at ladies when I dig them. I like to be winked at suggestively by ladies.

I can't say I'm really into andrygyny, either. I like at least somewhat feminine women (not the really girly-girl types!)

I'm sorry. I was out of line. I get a bit carried away sometimes. I do that in real life still - spit the dummy. I thought I would have outgrown it by now. I hear of other Aspies getting over their meltdowns when they get older but the older and more frustrated with life I get, the worse my meltdowns seem to become. They're draining. They wipe me out. They leave me feeling completely physically and emotionally drained and sad. For hours! And regretful. The regret!

Although Asperger's does afford me some REALLY COOL attributes, I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy!!



Although I'm sorry, I still think about it what I think about it but then, I'm basically asexual.

I just can't stand people touching me, let alone getting nake... You know. Forget about it.

Each to their own!

Heyyy no worries, now let's get back to the subject of the thread please.