Women make your move

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Um, nope not in my experience, or in the experience of other women I know. Theres been a couple of occassions where I found out years later that a man had liked me and it wasn't obvious at the time. But then people in the uk can be reserved regardless of gender.

^ Not a very classy choice of cloth from Emma Watson, I am a guy and yet I never wear a deep v-collar shirt revealing half my chest in an interview, so yuck

I wonder if it works to get more attention from the English guys.

Maybe that's where you're going wrong Boo.

Let's go back to the 70s.

Well I live in the US, where many, MANY women tell me stories about guys that hit on them in public places(or private parties)because the man is *supposed* to make the first move in my culture. If you're a man, being reserved is looked down upon in the USofA as being passive. It is acceptable here for women to be passive but men are expected to be assertive. Also, many NT women tell me they can pick up on a man who has the hots for her even if he doesn't make any moves whereas even NT men have a hard time picking up on women's body language. So men in general are non-verbally much louder than women.

Yes, such rules are enforced and encouraged by women, not by men.

English guys, I salute you for being Hard to Get and bit 'mean' with your prospect girls, keep it on. The English way all the way.

It seems like the reflection on the app here is that it's better for women to do the talking so men don't dripple jizz all over themselves in 3 messages' time. I switched my sexuality to hetero on Okcupid once. With zero browsing it was creepville automatically.

I am all in favor of women making the first move, because it saves me (and most men) a ton of grief. For some odd reason, we're expected to be the initiators in almost every area of life...including relationships. But in all honesty, I'm tired of the games. I've only been in one relationship, but it was fraught with constant arguments about me supposedly trying to change her, and me not having anything to offer, while simultaneously telling me she didn't expect anything. It was frustrating as hell, and caused a lot of depression which I still wrestle with.

Here's a tip, ladies: if you like a guy, TELL HIM. Don't make him guess, and don't rely on silent signals or body language. Open your mouth, and speak to him. That approach may mean nothing to you, but it means a lot more to most men. We get so aggravated by the mixed messages and expectations; tell us what you want, and why you want it. If you don't know, tell us that as well. We aren't good at reading anything non-verbal...and this is even harder for men with Asperger's.