Guydyke because of Aspergers Syndrome (Advice needed)

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I'm so glad I saw this today. I think this might describe what's going on with me and the guy I've been "seeing" for the past three years. He is admittedly effeminate (considers himself a 1 or 2 on the kinsey scale) while I am very masculine energy (for some reason I got an F on the kinsey scale). While I am not attracted to women I have never been more attracted to anyone but him but he also happens to be the only effeminate male that was also "heterosexual" that I've come across. I wonder if he feels the way you feel. It's odd because he's been telling me since the day we met that we wouldn't work out but we've been "seeing" each other (not committed and very casually) for three years now.

May I ask exactly what "being the woman in a relationship" means to you?

I think I know what you mean. I felt a bit like that when I was younger - though from the other side - I'm female. My son has often commented said that I am like the man and his dad is like the woman. I don't think that's actually true, but I understand why he says this. But we are all subject to a lot of gender stereotypes, but gender is much more fluid than people think (as opposed to biological sex). I am much older now and this bothers me less. I tend to be attracted to men now who are quite manly, but very open minded.

You may find yourself more attracted to more 'masculine' women - and believe me they would be happy for the attention. She doesn't have to be a lesbian. Just a bit more 'male brained'. But you may have to overcome the gender stereotypes that you set for yourself. It's not your fault, you just need to unpick your thinking a little.

But if you are attracted to typically feminine women they may wish for a more masculine guy. So you need to adjust your expectations and be open to women who you may not have found conventionally attractive before.