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03 Apr 2015, 2:50 am

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03 Apr 2015, 3:08 am

:)

I find TED talks and TEDx very inspiring by the way. you can try it, they're on youtube


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03 Apr 2015, 3:16 am

auntblabby wrote:
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problem is i don't want to be in charge of a group and I don't want to advertise that I'm different. i pass as mostly normal and I want to keep it that way.

you don't have to be in charge of a group. nobody has to know you attend an aspie group, in fact our bylaws emphasize secrecy of what is discussed in our meetups. there are people who pass for NTs in our group, as well. in any case, good luck to you :)


thought one had to use real name on meetup.com?



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03 Apr 2015, 3:26 am

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problem is i don't want to be in charge of a group and I don't want to advertise that I'm different. i pass as mostly normal and I want to keep it that way.

you don't have to be in charge of a group. nobody has to know you attend an aspie group, in fact our bylaws emphasize secrecy of what is discussed in our meetups. there are people who pass for NTs in our group, as well. in any case, good luck to you :)


thought one had to use real name on meetup.com?

no rule against using a pseudonym. that has nothing to do with what goes on during the actual meetups.



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03 Apr 2015, 4:12 am

well Sly I don't get what's there to hide.
It's not like you're doing so well in impersonating a "mostly normal guy" since you say you don't have friends.
Besides being different in this sense is good I think.
It's just a crazy belief from my side,made on first glance, but you might be the one who's chasing away people even if you don't realize it.


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03 Apr 2015, 7:59 am

Nice old wiseman advices here...

but let's get pragmatic and not too in philosophy.

OP, first of all, post a photo of yourself; and let the ladies give you tip how look more attractive.

THEN we go into the other matters.



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03 Apr 2015, 1:49 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Nice old wiseman advices here...

but let's get pragmatic and not too in philosophy.

OP, first of all, post a photo of yourself; and let the ladies give you tip how look more attractive.

THEN we go into the other matters.


http://imgur.com/a/vKeK6
http://imgur.com/ZYQUVbK

Here's a few pictures.



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03 Apr 2015, 2:07 pm

goofygoobers wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Nice old wiseman advices here...

but let's get pragmatic and not too in philosophy.

OP, first of all, post a photo of yourself; and let the ladies give you tip how look more attractive.

THEN we go into the other matters.


http://imgur.com/a/vKeK6
http://imgur.com/ZYQUVbK

Here's a few pictures.


I am not a female beauty expert - but i think this color of lipstick doesn't suits you (if its real color what it looks like in photo 4 and 5).

Other than that, you're good looking.



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03 Apr 2015, 2:14 pm

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well Sly I don't get what's there to hide.
It's not like you're doing so well in impersonating a "mostly normal guy" since you say you don't have friends.
Besides being different in this sense is good I think.
It's just a crazy belief from my side,made on first glance, but you might be the one who's chasing away people even if you don't realize it.


people at work and school when I went all think I'm normal. until I told a few not at work i don't want work treating me different or letting me go.

i don't go out much at all and i distance myself from people at work. I don't share too much and try to give little infor in replies to questions. its all about hiding who i am be that a christian, aspie or gun owner. people do seem to like me though o.O I suppose its because I'm funny and nice, and playful. I help whenever I can and work hard.



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03 Apr 2015, 2:17 pm

goofygoobers wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Nice old wiseman advices here...

but let's get pragmatic and not too in philosophy.

OP, first of all, post a photo of yourself; and let the ladies give you tip how look more attractive.

THEN we go into the other matters.


http://imgur.com/a/vKeK6
http://imgur.com/ZYQUVbK

Here's a few pictures.


you're pretty, depending on interesting and personality I'd date you, though in rl I'd never ask you out, just too pretty to think i'd have a shot. perhaps people in your area feel the same.

interesting colored eyelashes how did you do that?



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03 Apr 2015, 2:54 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
goofygoobers wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Nice old wiseman advices here...

but let's get pragmatic and not too in philosophy.

OP, first of all, post a photo of yourself; and let the ladies give you tip how look more attractive.

THEN we go into the other matters.


http://imgur.com/a/vKeK6
http://imgur.com/ZYQUVbK

Here's a few pictures.


I am not a female beauty expert - but i think this color of lipstick doesn't suits you (if its real color what it looks like in photo 4 and 5).

Other than that, you're good looking.


All three lipsticks I'm wearing in that album don't flatter me?



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03 Apr 2015, 2:57 pm

sly279 wrote:
goofygoobers wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Nice old wiseman advices here...

but let's get pragmatic and not too in philosophy.

OP, first of all, post a photo of yourself; and let the ladies give you tip how look more attractive.

THEN we go into the other matters.


http://imgur.com/a/vKeK6
http://imgur.com/ZYQUVbK

Here's a few pictures.


you're pretty, depending on interesting and personality I'd date you, though in rl I'd never ask you out, just too pretty to think i'd have a shot. perhaps people in your area feel the same.

interesting colored eyelashes how did you do that?


I don't understand how I could be "too pretty."

I applied colored mascara. It L'Oreal Miss Manga Mascara in Teal Craze.



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03 Apr 2015, 3:01 pm

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All three lipsticks I'm wearing in that album don't flatter me?

the lipstick stands out in not matching the rest of you, but that is your choice and I can't criticize it. but if it were me, a darker shade would be my preference, or no lipstick at all which would be better. but that's just me.



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03 Apr 2015, 3:03 pm

goofygoobers wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
goofygoobers wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Nice old wiseman advices here...

but let's get pragmatic and not too in philosophy.

OP, first of all, post a photo of yourself; and let the ladies give you tip how look more attractive.

THEN we go into the other matters.


http://imgur.com/a/vKeK6
http://imgur.com/ZYQUVbK

Here's a few pictures.


I am not a female beauty expert - but i think this color of lipstick doesn't suits you (if its real color what it looks like in photo 4 and 5).

Other than that, you're good looking.


All three lipsticks I'm wearing in that album don't flatter me?


I was referring to the one where it looks too pinkish and glossy.



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03 Apr 2015, 3:05 pm

auntblabby wrote:
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All three lipsticks I'm wearing in that album don't flatter me?

the lipstick stands out in not matching the rest of you, but that is your choice and I can't criticize it. but if it were me, a darker shade would be my preference, or no lipstick at all which would be better. but that's just me.


Thank you. Did you see the other photo?



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03 Apr 2015, 3:13 pm

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I don't understand how I could be "too pretty." I applied colored mascara. It L'Oreal Miss Manga Mascara in Teal Craze.

what the "too pretty" comment was about, was that some men will not approach a woman who is so pretty that she immediately seems out of their league of what they rate [deserve]. and IMHO you are just-right pretty :)