Which of these rejection services do you like the best?

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I think those numbers are a good idea, if there were any in my are I would use them. I get guys I don't know asking me out or asking me for my number at the bust stop, or while I'm out for a walk sometimes...and it's not only stressful because...I have a boyfriend, and I have trouble trusting men in general...but even if I didn't, I also have a bit of a phone phobia. The idea of a man I hardly know calling me scares me to death. I would like to be able to give him a number to get him off my back

If there are no numbers in your area you can always use the other ones, too. If asked, you might simply say you just moved and changed your area code. Besides, the third option (rejection hotline) has one for every single state, so if it is in the same state but not in the same area code this might still be believable. But personally I always use West Coast one even though I am in MI simply because I find it a lot funnier, and no one ever wondered why is there different area code.




I know this is a different topic, but this is a question I wanted to know the answer for SO LONG time. GIven that it is impossible to rape someone over the phone, why are women afraid of giving out a phone number? WHat are some of the concrete things they are scared of? I am just trying to understand the logic of it, because once I do I would feel a lot less angry at some of the potential girlfriends who ended a contact with me.

I can not give an answer that would be suited for all women. As I stated I have a phobia of talking on the phone. It makes no difference who is calling...I go into panic-mode when I am having phone conversations. Of a man had asked for my MSN contact info, I would be *much* more likely to have future conversations with him. I just cannot communicate via telephone.

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Oh yes, and where does the real fear of even giving out my number come from? I had a guy who insisted on calling me every hour or so. This is if I did pick up. If I didn't, it was every 5 minutes until I did pick up....leaving a new message on my voice mail *every time. That is, until I put a message on my voice mail, telling him if he didn't stop calling...I'd be calling the cops.

Maybe you're hanging out at the wrong places if you don't want to be hit on.

I agree in one sense, just a typical way for a NT to get rid of an Aspie if you ask me.

I understand the reason to not give a real phone number but the messages are very cruel, I am glad that I don't ask anybody for their phone number.

Anyway, if those hurtful messages are not heard anymore, I am so sure it is because people were complaining, and to avoid legal problems these were removed.

I don't find anything funny about these jokes, those are for steorotyping and hurt someone's feelings and lower that person self esteem.

And the word "Rejection" implies that, wouldn't be better to use the word "Safety" instead?

No it isn't. Typical way for NT to get rid of aspie is a polite excuse. On the other hand, this whole rejection phone thing is a blatant honesty, which is why, as an aspie, I like it so much.



So in other words you are saying that you have no problem with the concept of not wanting to give out a phone number but AT THE SAME TIME you do have a problem with cruel messages? I am the other way around.

If someone would be giving polite excuses just to avoid talking to me, I hate it the most, because I don't even have an apportunity to defend myself and I am left wondering just WHAT was it that they chose to ignore me and keep waiting for them to at least tell me SOMETHING. So I have to disagree with you when you said you understand when someone doesn't want to give out phone numbers. Because I just don't understand how can I possibly hurt anyone over the phone? Not giving a phone number is the same as not giving another person a chance, and thus make me feel "hopeless".

ON THE OTHER HAND, I see absolutely nothing wrong with these "cruel messages". Even if someone told me hurtful messages to my face, I won't be nearly as pissed as if I am ignored. Why? Because I have an apportunity to defend myself! Plus, if they aren't walking away, they always have time to re-thing hurtful things they just said.

But anyway, thats besides the point because the hurtful messages on that phone thing aren't even said by real person, and they are clearly a joke. At very worst it would be blatant honesty which I so crave. But I seriously doubt it, because like I said they look like a joke. I can't imagine anyone who is trully pissed off at you giving you one of these numbers. The most likely reason for giving htem out is just to make you laugh and then ending up giving you the real number.

And by the way, even if you insist they aren't a joke, why would anyone get offended anyway, if they weren't designed for any particular person who calls that number and most likely ppl who recorded them don't even know you.



The one rejection line that removed them is New York one and I doubt they were sued becaues if you go on their website they were highly publicised: http://www.rejectionline.com/press.html
In some of these publications they quoted the creators of that website and I emember them saying that they viewed it as a combination of humor and "social experiment" and I don't think they ever mentioned trying to be mean or hurtful: http://www.alternet.org/story/12276/



But they aren't serious!! ! So why would anyone take them seriously?

Okay lets imagine the worst, suppose they WERE serious. Why would they lower your self esteem if ppl who recorded them don't even know you.



I have n idea what it has to do with "safety"? Can you spell out what are you getting at?

I am an aspie girl and I like the idea, and I would use the service...to get ride of pesky, sex-obsessed NT guys who harass me! Have you ever met a person who literally just wouldn't leave you alone? I have...been harassed for like, 15 minutes...said "no, I won't come home with you." several times. It would be so much easier to get them to go away by saying "I'm busy now, call me."

I'm rarely gutsy enough to stand up to guys that harass me like that...

NTs are such p*****s

Inmortal,
You are so right, and have a good point and good reason if you want to use the reject service, the people who harass for sex are very stupid jerks, I am disfunctional when it comes to socialize and very unable to ask a woman out, but I do know there are things very innapropriate that I know offends and many times scares ladies, I would never try to do that, although I am always afraid that it could be interpreted that way.

The thing that got into my mind when I read the thread the first time was this: one day I finally try to ask a woman out and she says ok and all that, later I call her and I get a message like the one mentioned, I would be very upset and hurt. Either she hated me for my odd behaviour or thought I was harassing her.

Roman,
The problem with me is that I am extremely sensitive, and I know that is a big problem, I really try to not be that way, and another problem is that I take things very literal, probably there have been times when some people were only joking and I took it like they really meant it, I am realizing that now when I observe other people.

Greenblue, I wouldn't worry so much The men I am referring to...well, I'll give you an example. One came up to me, literally slid his arm around me and asked what he could do to get me to come home with him....he smelled of alcohol and cigarettes and I could hardly breathe well enough to get away from him-I didn't know him. I doubt you'd come on that strong...that is scary...and intimidating.

She is good, she is cute. I don't know about other women, but I like shy. It's much more safe feeling that the men who are more aggressive in trying to peruse us...much less intimidating.

I hope you don't mind me asking, were you in a public place like in a bar? it sounds like that.

I guess I don't have to worry about the alcohol and cigarrettes smelling cause I don't drink and smoke I never understood smoking

No, waiting for a bus...I don't go to bars. There seems to be more drunks on the bus on any given day than in a bar, though. Only they're smellier.

Well then how come the girls on dating sites avoid me all the time even if I am not doing any of that.

I cannot answer that for them because I cannot say I would ever sign up for a dating service.

So does it imply that in the "real life" women won't be as willing to block someone out as in dating service? I wouldn't know because due to the fact that I am shy I never ask out anyone in "real life"

I remember this idea on the radio.
The radio program gave out a phone number.
People would give the number to some girl/guy that they pretended to be interested in.
Than all the voice messages got played on the radio and were made fun of.
Alot of them seemed like they were really interested and hoping the person wanted to be with them.
It was pretty sad really.