31 May 2015, 10:48 pm
I think it's because i cannot get used to it :S or i'm afraid to get hurt or other likewise stuff :s
I am at a point in my life to be afraid for the girl who will end up with me :s i overthink everything in a relationship and it drains me
Ow don't act to different when you see him act kind and don't talk about what happened
you can talk to him but first wave at him and then come over if he gets nervous (which always happens to me) try to talk about something to take tension away Look hes going through a rough patch (and he isn't like me nor do i know what he thinks) but showing you support/ want to help him will go a long way
hope to help you even a little bit
He dumped me because...
- couldn't handle the work load and the relationship.
- didn't feel like he loved me as much as his first love.
- felt like he wanted to be friends.
- didn't feel like he had any time for himself.
He is the sort if guy who would overthink things and get drained by it. He doesn't open up to me (or many other people) either. Which is unhealthy for him.
The saddest part is I know he is hurting too and I want to help him and be there for him...but I am part of the problem so I can't.
Thanks for the advice though! Very useful.
He may not be suitable for a relationship an some people on the spectrum choose to not have a relationship for this reason. Or he needs to find someone who also needs to be alone and want their alone time so they can both go days or weeks not speaking. Some people have chosen to live in their own houses despite being married or in a relationship and choose to not live together because it works for both of them.
31 May 2015, 10:51 pm
31 May 2015, 11:35 pm
I don't think any of us really believe the nonsense we might tell ourselves about being perpetually single (or however it might get worded). Usually we're just parroting a bunch of pessimistic drivel we see on the internet or tv in our heads and trying to deal with that independently, lest it affect anyone we care about. Usually I want to convey patience by actions, which takes time. A lot of us (myself included) avoid social networks when we're on uncertain terms because we still recognize that most communication is nonverbal and non-literary. I'm diagnosed AS and I pretty much only socialize face to face.
You did end your thread's topic with an interrobang (?!), I'm pretty sure he wants you each to have a while to cool down in your own ways before reaching an understanding in person. Just be patient with each other and I think you'll both be mighty fine.
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01 Jun 2015, 2:09 am
Could be. Maybe he didn't think this would be a problem for him to begin with, but after he broke up he realized it was not quite that easy.
I know what you mean. We all seem to have different time-scales in regards to that. I'd be comfortable with only seeing somebody once a week, and I can survive with a month or two, but I'd prefer seeing them daily. Being compatible in this area seems pretty important.
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