What's the deal with very attractive people on dating sites?

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I had a quick look at site and it seems extremely superficial.Quote"online dating minus the ugly people" holy moly.I know online dating is visual but there are some nice guys who I have chatted to online from dating sites and they wouldn't be extremely attractive but their personality is the best.

While I have never used a dating site myself, I would presume that the very attractive people are simply "plants" used to make people believe that they can date someone very attractive if they use this particular dating web site.

It seems no different than including attractive women (and men) in beer commercials. To make people believe that they will get to associate with attractive women (or men) if they drink "Brand X".

This makes me wonder. Does advertising work for Aspies? Perhaps I should start a thread on this.

I dunno, I've dated some real hotties from dating sites! Though, they are perhaps just hot in my eyes and not "stereotypically" hot.

People look better on dating sites because:

1) They only post their best pics
2) They may not be posting their own pics
3) Some of them are bots/scammers that reply to every message with some excuse for asking for a CC#
4) And Rocket123 mentioned seeded profiles from the dating sites themselves, I hadn't even thought of that.

Perhaps you should. I have long suspected that advertising doesn't work well on me. Most advertising is associative, and not only do I rarely use associative reasoning, I don't care for most advertisers' favorite associations (kids, smiles, pretty girls...).



I've been thinking I need to try online dating. Not like meeting someone online and then dating irl, but actually dating online. Anyone else thought about this?

Being attractive isn't synonymous with 'easy dating'. Like others have mentioned, there are factors that come into play when trying to find someone in real life, whether you are attractive or not. A priori, it might be easier to be noticed, but that might not be something that a woman feels comfortable with in the first place. Then of course, there are those that hate socialising, and wouldn't have a chance of ever finding someone, if all they had was that option. Online dating is a safer and easier way for many. Especially a lot of us Aspies.

A lot of people consider me attractive. I use online dating sites because I'm queer. No clue why attractive straight people would use online dating sites.

Well, it could also be a more furtive reason. Lets delve into my thinking, shall we?

By placing a beautiful picture, some people may assume that it is a false one, and that you are not, in fact, what you seem. As such, you will be approached by people who want to know you not for your looks, but your feelings, your wants, your desires. By banking on people being suspicious of you, you might make it a little easier to find that one nice person who likes you for you.

In short, reverse psychology. Or troll logic, lol ^^

Just because someone is very attractive doesn't mean they don't have social anxiety like everyone else. Also, not everyone has a job that provides opportunities to meet lots of new people. If you work 40 hours a week in a cubicle, good luck on finding dates.


Also..... glamorous selfies can be HIGHLY deceptive. Savvy usage of makeup, lighting and angles can make someone look like a completely different person.

one cannot be good looking as well as socially akward?

THIS!

Amazing how people on here can be so quick to judge a book by it's cover, eh?

Myself included.. I was initially completely flabbergasted at the fact that a friend of mine is a socially anxious person. WTF? He's gorgeous. He looks like a fitness model. He looks like he should be walking a red carpet somewhere. He's been offered modelling and acting jobs over the years but has declined most of them. Get to know him well and you realize he's very much like many of you, and a great lesson in the fact that people don't always think and feel about themselves what you think they must due to how they look on the outside.

This is a very real thing. I also know some other "beautiful people" who are chock full of insecurities, depression, anxiety, and use various methods from meditation to medication to deal with them.

Know what else there is to learn about meeting and getting to know people like that? It means that quite a number of people who you assume are "out of your league,[/i] really actually aren't. Also, just because you think they're beautiful doesn't mean that they have that same self perception of themselves. You may think they're a 9 and they may feel like they're a 6. That's a thing, too. Sometimes that creates the perfect opportunity for you to befriend them, or even partner up with them. It happens. That's how you sometimes see these seemingly mismatched couples and wonder just how it's possible for them to be together if it's not a financial relationship. Some may assume it's pity. In reality, it may be two very well matched people who've found each other despite what outside observers first impressions and assumptions may be.

In addition:

It's also entirely possible that so-called beautiful people may be sapiosexuals and are online seeking intelligent life forms

Maybe they're not attracted to the majority race in the area where they live and are seeking someone from overseas?

Maybe they don't like where they live and would prefer a long distance relationship so they can justify relocating to be with someone they like?

Maybe they don't care for any of those "beautiful people" places?

Maybe they don't care for other "beautiful people" because so many fit the stereotypes we all know?

Maybe they're sick of being hit on at places like that due to their looks and would prefer to chat with someone about topics of mutual interest vs. just be hit on by people looking for a hookup?

Maybe their own moral/religious code of conduct constrains them from desiring to hookup with anyone and they'd rather chat until they find The One?

Maybe they're seeking someone of a particular income level or job title and it's simply easier to filter people quickly online?

Maybe some of them really are there for the ego boost?

Maybe they're there just for the lolz? I know very beautiful people who use dating sites/apps just to see what kind of messages people send them for a laugh/entertainment. I know some who aren't exactly single and they still use these things just out of habit and for a bit of entertainment to see what kind of people send them what kind of messages in response to the type of profile picture they're using at the moment.

Maybe they're there for their own form of interactive pornography? I know people who use personal ads for this purpose. chat, exchange pics etc but never arrange to meet anyone.

Maybe they're pressed for time and prefer to filter out tons of people very efficiently via technology vs. having to meet them all in real life first?

Maybe some of them are truly vile people and they get off on seeing "unattractive" people message them? (unlikely, but possible.)

Maybe they're simply just following the trend of technology and using Tinder/POF etc because everyone else is and that's the modern way to meet people?

So many reasons. Any of them are valid. I do not think "good looking" people should be banned from online dating sites and apps. Hell, it's certainly subjective, but some people might consider me "good looking" and suggest I shouldn't ever use any of these things and to them I'd say GFY.

They are fake in most cases.

Planted by site owners to attract new users.