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The problem is that we never really know who anyone is. Like the river, a person is never exactly the same. So, even as you learn about someone, there is no guarentee that that is the same person whom you will be dealing with in a week, a month, or a century later. So, at some point, you have to identify the person, and decide whether you love them or not. Obviously, the better you know them, the easier this choice.

Same problem, plus I was the guy that parents WANT with their daughters. That killed 90% of my sex appeal in highschool.

maybe she only wants to be friends

Yeah, that never did me any benefit either.

Did you use the word 'like' or 'love'?

"Like" might be acceptable, but if you told a stranger you love here, she is apt to be a bit frightened off. That's because you have to know someone to really love them.

Some people when they are confused just avoid the whole situation, in this case, that situation was - you. That is my best guess.

I'm not sure what you define as "mean".

I wouldn't have told her if a friend didn't open his mouth and told one of her friends, which at that point, the friend of the girl was like "HE'S GOT SOMETHING TO TELL YOU". I guess I could of lied, but that didn't seem like the right thing for me to do.

Damn... too much reading.

EDIT: I forget really.... I could of love or like. My memory isn't very good.

Don't listen to girls' opinion here , asking girls for love advices is useless . They go around and around .........no offense girls

some girls tell you : you waited too long so she saw u as brother that's why she s angry for hiding ur feeling

and others say : if you tell her early she will get mad because you had to wait more to know her .

and some say the both concept ! : don't say it too early but don't wait too long . (and you can never know what's the value they mean of this "too" , how many weeks or months this "too" is ?! hehehe )

hell, but everyones needs to wait bit long to know the other person well , right?



Usually , the only reason of rejection is this : you are not of her type , she doesn't like you or she thinks you are not too good for her .And it has nothing to do of how much u waited to tell .

Why the girl becomes angry in this case ?
Because you are not of her type ....so she feels that her "ego" is hurt so why she becomes mad , she feels like you have insulted her , it's like she s trying to tell you "you are not my type ... you are not too good for me and you insulted by trying to get me you loser , because i am better and I deserve much better than you, you've humiliated by trying to make me your gf " .


I waited 4 months approaching her all during this time before i try to tell the girl that i admired that i love her because I wanted to know her well first ....but guess what? my "friend" just started to approach her for less than 2 weeks and they dated just before 3 days of valentine , the day that i picked to tell her . ...., hell he knew nothing about her , i knew this because of the questions he asked me abt her

When found out this then i didn't tell her anything at Vday but I am 100% sure that if she never met my friend and nothing of this happened and I told her at Valentine about my feelings she will say NO , so i was going to lose in all cases (later i knew that she was never attracted to me but she was attracted to him .....he is of her type , i am not .)

So Monsieur le grand fromage , ce N'est une question de temps ou d'attente (it's NOT a matter of time or waiting ) but it's a matter if she likes you or not:
if you are of her type she will say yes regardless of how long you waited
if you are not of her type she will say no regardless of how long you waited >>.<<



PS: And this anger thingy is just a psychological stupid reaction as I explained above .

Last edited by LePetitPrince on 03 Apr 2007, 3:37 am, edited 2 times in total.

btw where are you from legrandfromage?

Unless they fall for someone else. I stole a girl from someone, by telling her (truthfully) that I loved her a few days before her boyfriend finally told her. Kind of made me feel like a heel, but neither of us really thought that he did.

Discerning the basis of human action is obviously difficult, but from what I have understood, validation is a bigger need than sex. Once a girl feels validated, it won't look the same way at you twice. It's like when I receive a compliment and I feel alone; I have always searched another "tiger" who I can respect before he compliments me. You have to think that women need men who don't flee after having impregnated them, so they have to have the feeling that you "chose" them, but also that you aren't easy in your choices. This is not something that you can tell with words, you have to show it with your actions.

I said 'usually'

Oh crud..... just remembered something.

It was after I told her. I was on my school laptop in class working on an assignment, and a couple of common teenage boys came along and said "NICE LAPTOP, IS IT YOURS?" "DID YO MOMMA BUY IT", etc. And I said "No, it's the school boards" and showed them the school board sticker on it, and they walked away. Then what seemed like another teenage boy came along. My hearing had went weird and I thought I heard another guy saying "Nice laptop, is it yours?". I said "NO IT'S THE SCHOOL BOARDS, SEE, LOOK HERE!" being kind of jumpy. Then there was a pause. So I looked at the figure, and my vision was blurry (when I look at monitors for long whiles, my vision goes blurry, and other times as well). I couldn't tell if it was a boy or a girl, but I remember a small figure with longer hair. They had walked away. So that could of been her, but they had walked away and I couldn't tell and then I was told to go back to work, so I did. Right around there that's when my year of greatness went downhill. I didn't want to be in the classroom with her being there because I was afraid of various things (her laughing at me, which happened one time). And then when I tried to talk to her I chickened out and asked her friend to ask her "If there was one word to describe me, what would it be?" (stupid question, I know), and then she told her friend to reply "A boy...". That's where I turned sad depressed emo guy on everyone and turned into a watered down version of "A boy".. I was named "That Guy Some Guy" (that's what I called myself, no one else did).

Right now I think that I really screwed there. And now she hates me, so even if I found her house online or something, she probably call the cops and call me a stalker or something.

Any suggestions? Sadly I'm not brave enough to do half the things you guys do, so try to make it easy. Please?

i think alot of NT women get annoyed by constantly being asked out or looked at in a romantic light

they seek out the shy types and the gay dudes so they can talk to them without having to think about whether or not this guy is trying to get into their pants

and when she found out you were looking at her that way she decided she no longer needed your companionship

thats hapened to me a number of times and as sh***y as it is you just need to move on because that girl wouldnt have been able to provide the thinmgs you would need in a relationship anyway

I don't believe that is my problem..... but for some reason I don't remember posting this... but I do remember that there's a girl that.. err... I like (apparently where I'm from "like" equals (==) "love" and vice-versa).

So I've tried good ol' "I like pie" to clear my head when I thought about it. Didn't work.. so I tried the "lol" song and The Imperial March and that worked, until I got my medication changed. So now I'm a washed up, crazed lunatic, and no one believes me... and this girl thing isn't helping.

So any suggestions, flames, comments, or spam to try and help me would be greatly appreciated.

Now I'm off to do my civic duty and flame guys on YouTube..

(P.S. being a nerdy guy doesn't help in a romance situation.. so uhh.... yeah).

It means that she liked you. She was waiting for you to ask her out. Maybe she was waiting to exchange phone numbers. Giving phone numbers is the next step. She was too scared to ask for yours, maybe? Or she did not know what to say. When you told her you loved her, she probably got confused, since you never asked her out, am I right? Then she got mad at you, because she thought you were playing games, since you probably never asked her out or gave her a way of getting in touch with you?

Okay, this reminds me of a situation I had. Okay, I was really nice to this guy. And I liked him. When he told me he loved me, it was in writing, not verbally. So I was confused. I wasn't sure if it was for me or if the letter was for another girl, but he was just wanting my opinion? But then he did not ask me out - and then the class was over and I never saw him again. I could only hope that guy didn't think I missed the last day of class just to spite him... I was always waitiing for that opportunity, to exchange phone numbers or something - but then, class was over and I got sick the last day. Then I had to leave town because - well, a psychotic angry ex was after me - and I never saw the guy I liked again! LOL. God has a sick sense of humor! Life sucks! Why does this happen!! !

Darn.... sometimes it sucks being shy....

If my friend didn't leak the info (heh heh) I would have asked her out.... but then he told her friend etc etc, then I chickened out every time I was near her (because of the shyness).

As I said.... darn.