How do i talk to women?

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Guys, no offence but im being serious. I am feeling really lonely, and was just looking for some constructive advice.

Well, that's what I gave you. I am not a savant at this but I have been dating on and off for almost forty years and have eleven years of marriage on my resume.

You have to be patient, number one. A lot of my peers seem to think they can wake up as adults with hardly any social experience and just go out and find a girl friend. It is not that easy. Depending on what your maturing has been like, you probably have to retrace a lot of the normal social progression that you missed out on. You start with acquaintances, move on to friends of the same gender and then to dating. It takes time but it is worth the effort.

Jerry Newport

TheWhale, your advice is good, and i thank you for it, but posts like 'dont talk with your mouth full' are whats not what i asked for

hey, mine was serious too. A good jacket is vital in all situations. Car keys, house keys, wallet, money, all best put in inside pockets. and Also, breathmints, for obvious reasons on the way to a date, just pop one in and ymmy breath.

That apparently doesn't help you but unfortunately, I have some real slobs in this community who could use that advice. I don't think dinner is a good option for a first date for that reason. If you are going to eat out with a new date, at least pick food that is easier to eat so you can converse and not look like an idiot by the end of the meal.

Jerry Newport

My advice to you is this-
All women want to feel special. It is hard work trying to look your best, to be thinner, prettier, and better dressed than all the other gals out there! So tell her what you like about her EVERY time you see her- your hair looks so soft, your eyes are sparkly in this light, is that a new outfit? it looks great on you! Eavesdrop on women complimenting each other. You'll get the picture. But be real. And don't make any sexual references too early in the relationship. "Nice ass" is cute when you know each other very, very well and she knows how much she means to you, but it is very rude coming from a stranger.

Getting to know her likes and dislikes, etc. will make her feel special, too. But don't be obsessive about it and find out stuff about her behind her back. Ask her lots of general questions to show her that you are interested. And don't ramble on about yourself! She won't even care until she decides that she is into you, which doesn't happen over night. She has to trust that you are interested in her and only her first.

Also, plan, plan, plan. If you're asking her out, don't say, "Uh, what do you want to do?" Say, "I was thinking that since you like romantic comedies, you might enjoy going to the movies to see _____ sometime next week."

And don't drop the ball when you are in a long relationship. She still wants to feel special every day for the rest of her life. It's a lot of work, but she is worth it! And if you love someone enough to do that for her, you will have a very special relationship for the rest of your life. Best of luck.

I totally agree. Taking the lead when it comes to dates shows the woman that you are confident in yourself, and can take lead. A lot of women like that.

I second this with great enthusiasm. Several ex college dates told me that the main reason they dumped me was because I wasn't decisive enough about stuff like this.

Jerry Newport

I agree with jerry, but just be sure you are not too agressive or domineering with the ladies. That can also be a put off. Think of it as a balance.

Believe me, it's good advice. I've been a woman for ____ years and I know what I'm talking about!

Balance is still a work in progress for me. But I wager most women would rather try to civilize an overassertive man than have to constantly jumpstart a wuss.

A little unbalance helps chemistry. Guys: if you want into their pants, get into their head first. Once they wake up at 2AM, wondering "why did he do/say that?", you are at the free throw line.

Jerry Newport

I'm guessing you're asking about how to talk to someone you just met or someone you don't know well at all. It's usually a pretty good bet to comment on the immediate surroundings. It's okay to talk about the weather! Of course, don't drop a bombshell like, "Nice weather we're having," and then just stand there. But try something like, "It's really been a hot day! I'm glad to have something cold to drink after being out in the heat, how about you?" or "I'm really getting tired of all this rain, aren't you?" or comment on what a big crowd has turned out, or how there aren't many people out, and end it with some opening to encourage the other person to say something in reply. Listen attentively to what they say in reply, and hopefully they will give you an opening for something to say. Avoid one word answers. If they ask, "Do you live near here?" don't just answer, "no," but say, "no, but I used to, and I came back to visit some friends. Do you live nearby?" Try to get an idea of what the other person is interested in and get them to talk about it so they will feel comfortable, rather than worrying about what kind of impression you are making. It becomes easier to find something to say once you find someone who shares some interests, but of course first you'll have to work through some general small talk.

Hey, incoherence can be a turn-on, it makes us feel needed!



I have improved my eye contact considerably over the last year. Last year, a GUY told me "I'm up here."



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How gallant.

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OK, my serious advice, as a woman, but an utterly abnormal one: If you want a date, get contact information by the end of the conversation. E-Mail is easier to give out because you can block the person later. That's the best advice I can give as a woman, and I only know this because it worked on me.

OK, so it took three or four months, but it did eventually!! !!

To talk to women,this what I can say:be yourself.Don't watch that piece of crap VH1 reality show "The Pick-Up Artist".Why would a guy want to waste their time on a 'pick-up artist' who wears a bandanna a goggles,and emulate his success with women.Most of all,very demeaning!