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Cockroach96
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30 Jun 2015, 6:16 pm

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When I was a teenager and girls showed interest in me more often than not I would try TOO hard and end up ruining the whole thing.. It took till about 18 to realise that I was actually a creep and coming on that strong scared 'em all away.
You think maybe you're afraid of doing the same thing?

WikiHow recommends "being playful without being creepy". Obviously, this only applies to NT guys. If an Aspie man tries to seduce a normal woman, she will certainly reject him. Then she will hate him for the rest of her life. An Aspie cannot hide his weirdness. No matter how hard you try not to be a creep, you will always be a creep. Creeps don't get girlfriends. You do the math.
Now I think it's a good thing I ignored that girl. If I had dated her, it would have been a disaster.


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01 Jul 2015, 2:57 am

I have done this several times. Feels bad man.



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01 Jul 2015, 9:23 am

Cockroach96 wrote:
I did this stupid thing a while back.
When I was at the beginning of 9th grade(15 years old), I fell in love with a girl in my school. It turned she was also interested in me. She repeatedly tried to reach out to me(in a warm, friendly way), but I ignored her and walked away every time. I have never talked to her.

I don't know/remember exactly why I did this. I guess I was shy or felt intimidated. My lack of empathy prevented me from realizing that I was hurting her. However, I've never been sadic or masochistic. She later realized that I am a socially ret*d weirdo not worth dating, and lost interest in me forever.

I eventually regreted the fact that I ignored her, but now I'm over it and I don't care anymore. I've never had a girlfriend and I'll probably never have one, but I'm OK with that. I hate interacting with people.

Have you ever done something similar(avoiding or rejecting a crush that is interested in you)?


The real question here should be.....How would you like it if someone did this to you???



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01 Jul 2015, 2:23 pm

It would hurt, but probably not as much as being treated like a piece of crap by your peers all the time. After all the pain I've been through, being rejected by a crush would be nothing.


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01 Jul 2015, 6:10 pm

Cockroach96 wrote:
It would hurt, but probably not as much as being treated like a piece of crap by your peers all the time. After all the pain I've been through, being rejected by a crush would be nothing.


It makes sense when you put it that way. People suck sometimes. :(



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02 Jul 2015, 12:42 am

Cockroach96 wrote:
If an Aspie man tries to seduce a normal woman, she will certainly reject him. Then she will hate him for the rest of her life.


My wife didn't, she married me instead. She is about as NT as the come.



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02 Jul 2015, 2:20 am

ProfessorJohn wrote:
Cockroach96 wrote:
If an Aspie man tries to seduce a normal woman, she will certainly reject him. Then she will hate him for the rest of her life.


My wife didn't, she married me instead. She is about as NT as they come.

you are so lucky.