How do I know if I like a girl or if I'm just lonely?

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12 Jul 2015, 12:52 pm

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The good old practice girl scenario.

Why would I want to put anyone through being a "Practice girl"? Why string them along? T

It doesn't sound like you are doing that.

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12 Jul 2015, 5:15 pm

Just live life and keep hanging out with her.

If you enjoy spending time around her, then you like her and enjoy being with her, even if it's just as a friend.

Maybe this is just your problem?

You don't know if you only see her as a friend or want a relationship with her.

You feel lonely and unsure if you could actually be in a relationship with her considering how you describe you feel about her.

Just let things happen naturally and let time do its job.

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12 Jul 2015, 5:41 pm

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Actually, This may ll be in vain anyway. She hasn't responded to my texts in like a week.

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13 Jul 2015, 5:32 am

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Actually, This may ll be in vain anyway. She hasn't responded to my texts in like a week.

I take it this isn;t usual for her?

What was your last interaction like.

Also since this is happening, maybe you should think about just how this situation is making you feel.

So, you ARE upset she hasn't responded to your texts? Why? Do you MISS her, want to see her again, etc.

I'd say try to think if this genuine wish to speak to her and see her again is just like missing a friend, or you love her and want to contact her again.

This situation doesn't have to be in vain and can be used to your advantage. Sometimes time away from others can help us figure things out equally as or even better than when we are with them or spending time with them imho.

I'd say last text you send her put the ball in her court. Just something like 'Hey, it's been a bit and I'd like to see you again, but maybe you are busy, but next time you want to meet up again just call me (don't have to copy this word for word, just a generic statement).'

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13 Jul 2015, 6:19 am

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Actually, This may ll be in vain anyway. She hasn't responded to my texts in like a week.

I think it's OK if you keep texting her once or twice a week—just not every day.

If she doesn't wish any further contact, she can at least say so.

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13 Jul 2015, 2:29 pm

Why bother telling someone you don't wish any further contact when you can just charge him with harassment?

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13 Jul 2015, 2:40 pm

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Relationships with girls I'm not attracted to were the only relationships I knew, so your situations is not unique.

I had that problem for quite a few years, and I could never really make those relationships work for very long because I wasn't attracted to them. It was pretty easy to find something else I would rather be doing than just hanging out with them.

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13 Jul 2015, 2:55 pm

Doesn't that mean you can't be bothered to have friends?

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13 Jul 2015, 2:58 pm

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Why bother telling someone you don't wish any further contact when you can just charge him with harassment?

Because that's so much easier?

I'm afraid I don't know about legislation in OP's country, but if they have been meeting, sending a few messages seems OK to me, provided that the content is not creepy and that he stops after a month or so, if there hasn't been any response.

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14 Jul 2015, 12:06 pm

Outrider wrote:

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Actually, This may ll be in vain anyway. She hasn't responded to my texts in like a week.

She's done this before. The last time I talked to her was because she had to cancel a date due to an injury. (I saw pictures and stuff so I know she's not lying.)

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14 Jul 2015, 12:08 pm

Vectorspace wrote:

Spiderpig wrote:

Why bother telling someone you don't wish any further contact when you can just charge him with harassment?

I think Spiderpig is joking

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