Is she into me and what should I do?

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She reminds me of a nymphomaniac girl I dated years ago for few months, who was horny all the time, she was even used to call me at night when she's horny for a sex phone.

She wanted sex in a hotel on the second date, when I declined, she went dramatic right after, starting to accuse me that I am "like all guys, just wanting sex from her" lol, we dated few times after but she went all dramatic on me.

She also suspiciously had tons and tons of guy "friends".

She even had one picture on facebook which was very exposing, an open shirt showing off bra, with load of comments from guys drooling over her, I asked her to take it off from there and so she did.

I broke up with her the moment I knew she's shagging another guy.

The thing is, that I was radically monogamous and one-to-one commitment-oriented back then which conflicted with the ways she behaved, today I wouldn't care about the photo, and I would have acted differently and just shag her too. lol

I'm not monogamous, but I wouldn't tolerate if a girl went out with several guys at the same time. For me, polyamory doesn't include "dating" several people at the same time. I would only tolerate them meeting new people when already in an established relationship.

She has just apologized for yesterday through IM. I don't know if I should see her or not, in case she would like to. She didn't say anything about that, but it's clear that she's still feeling very depressed.

We've been exchanging messages while she was at work. She asked about my work, how I slept, etc. I guess she wants us to stay friends (or maybe even more). It could be that the other guy is out and I'm #1 bf candidate now.

I have passed on several girls that had a bunch of other guys hanging around. If she's sleeping with them, while she is trying to "talk" to me, she's definitely out. This is one of the biggest turn-offs for me.

She's (probably) not a nymphomaniac, she's just "love deprived". Most guy friends are from her faculty. She's a mathematician, but software engineers study there too and it's a male dominated field. I know this because I study there too.

It's probably over, but I'll have to hear what she has to say before making a final decision.

Ok that was interesting. She called me today (actually twice, I was busy with work so I dropped first call) and offered me to see her in her hometown. It's not far, less than an hour drive and I'm going to drive there after work because I have to know what is my current position. She makes too much effort communicating with me for this to be a friendly only thing. We'll see how it goes.

Aaaand she canceled. Her reason was probably valid and the fact that she is so anxious to meet is a good thing overall. I guess...

Women are seriously confusing and this post is exactly why I can't maintain friendships with them. They're always incredibly fickle. It's always the NT women. She was acting so lovey in your first posts that I thought for sure: "This dude is crazy for not knowing! She obviously likes him." Yeah, I guess I was wrong. So wrong.

I think she was definitely interested in him, but it's hard to tell if she just wanted sex, or something more. He didn't pick up on her signals (like when she asked him into bed with her), so she probably thought he wasn't interested, and moved on to the other guy she was hanging around with. The other thing, is that it sounds like she is playing the field, and is just looking for the first person that will give her what she wants (whatever that is).

I was in almost exactly the same position several years ago. The girl I was with, said she quit talking to me because "I didn't try anything with her", and she thought I wasn't into her. This was the first time I had ever met her...go figure.

I don't mind her playing the field. I'm (kinda) doing the same. I chat online with another girl, but she lives 800km and two countries away from me.

Anyway, she seemed to be very friendly last week and she never invited me to her hometown before. Those are good signs. Today I'm finally meeting her for the first time after that dramatic thing. It'll be interesting to see how it goes.

Have you considered cutting the analysis and just telling her point blank that you have feelings for her and would like to date her? At this point you are both being very indirect and non-communicative--which could be resolved in a conversation. I know it's very intimidating but as a NT woman, she is probably waiting for you to ask her out (stupid cultural norms...).

Ok, here's what happened:

She likes you; she thought you liked her; she gave you opportunities to make a bold move; you didn't; she thought 'oh, i guess he doesn't like me then'; she hung out with another guy (maybe she likes him too? idk; he stood her up; she is thinking 'why don't either of them like me, I was sure they did??'; she got confused; confused leads to angry; she fell out with you to avoid further confusion; now she's talking to you again; because SHE LIKES YOU!

Please put her out of her misery! Tell her you have feelings for her, ask if you can kiss her! Good luck!

What Inle said.

Thanks I will. Who knows maybe it will work out.

Keep us posted!