Want to ask a woman out, but don't know if I should

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I would say for men's sake, not to try to ask a woman out unless you think you know her. Don't get offended by my true caring intention to help you guys. I really want to say that..the first rule of asking a woman out should be based on that you know her to some extent already. Her personality, her interests, her issues, her ex..If you know this kind of things from her own mouth, there is a possibility that she has some interests in you because she shared these personal things with you in person. Other than that..it's possible that the woman is only being nice and kind to you, which is her pure caring personality..there are people who were born with warm caring personality. They are not liars, they are not dishonest, they are not fooling you. They are just being themselves.

Don't feel bad. Pretty much every halfway decent girl that I have been interested in lately, is either in a relationship, and/or has about 20 other guys chasing her. I won't even waste my time anymore with them, unless they show enough interest in me, and/or let me know that they are single.

I'd have to partially disagree with you here. Yeah, in general, it's better to ask a woman out whom you know, but you don't always have the luxury of personally knowing someone to whom you are extremely attracted. With that said though, your chances tend to be much less favourable when asking out someone you don't know well, so if you can't deal with the rejection, don't ask the girl out. It's risk vs reward really.

@OP: I'm a bit surprised you had this girl's Facebook and didn't do more with that. You could have tried chatting to her online to get to know this girl further, and have more to talk about in person at yoga, but you didn't. Why not?

Another thing I would say is in my opinion, opera is a terrible first date. Aside from the fact that there are many people out there who don't think very highly of opera (a girl would have to be very attractive to rope me into going to an opera show with her), there's barely any interaction between you and your date at a theatre performance of any kind. So assuming she was fine with opera, after your first date, you'd still know next to nothing about this girl.

I disagree with what I said too, as I realized my advice was based on my bad experiences in the past. What I can tell is I am very careful of accepting the first date because from my experiences men are easy to be obsessed with women and they wouldn't easily let the woman go for that reason I prefer to choose a man to date with after observing for a while rather than being picked by a man. Means again I need time to build friendship first to get to know him better before dating with him. I believe there would be many women who happened to be like me. And only for those women my advice will work.