Is it weird that I have an imaginary wife and daughter?

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16 Sep 2015, 9:39 am

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It's only maladaptive if you don't care to try (or have not tried to) find a real partner.

How so?



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17 Sep 2015, 3:31 pm

Man, just ignore the haters and the hurtful, Trumpful (ha, get it, Trump-ful, Donald Trump-ful) comments that you have received about this. I guess that maybe you are lonely. If so, this is, technically speaking, OK behavior. You are just lonely. You should, for your own health, reach out to people for friendships, like us here at WP, . . . . . as long as you are connecting with friends and not scoffers. I, in my life, have done something similar to you. I still long for a relationship with another human except for my horrible family. Now, I am not to the same stage as you are, but I have, and sometimes still do, talk to myself for company. A lot. Full, animated conversations. So don't feel bad. I understand.

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17 Sep 2015, 7:04 pm

This sounds like a really good idea, how do you do it?



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18 Sep 2015, 12:28 pm

I don't think it's weird. I help myself fall asleep by imagining great love stories for myself and my celebrity crush of the week and I've never felt weird about it. I think that's just what happens when people with a lot of imagination get lonely.



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18 Sep 2015, 12:31 pm

I had an imaginary family, once. But I figured it was unhealthy, so I slaughtered them with an imaginary chainsaw.


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18 Sep 2015, 12:58 pm

Maybe you should get real ones so you don't have to pretend anymore.


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18 Sep 2015, 1:07 pm

Getting married at 16 is illegal and a bad idea anyway. :roll:


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18 Sep 2015, 2:15 pm

No, it's not weird, nor even unusual, for a 16 year old to fantasize about his adult life.


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18 Sep 2015, 2:29 pm

It is a little strange to me, since I simply do not experience anything like that really. I have had past reoccurring dreams with some of the same 'characters' but that's different. But in the grand scheme of things its really not that weird...I mean I talk to myself and meow at my cats or really any cats. If you're doing this out of loneliness though I would advise maybe trying to reach out some....or at least if someone interacts with you perhaps put the imaginary world on hold rather than that person or they could get the impression you mostly like to be left alone and not bother trying to socialize anymore(I know I've probably wrecked my chances at potential friendships that way) like being too caught up in my own head...and thus seeming stand-off ish and like I didn't want to interact.


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18 Sep 2015, 7:01 pm

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I often pretend in my jmagination to have a wife and a daughter, I'm 16 and a guy. I have really elaborate conversations that feel almost real, but deep down I know they're not real. Sometimes when someone interrupts my imaginary conversation I tell them to hold on cause I'm " busy thinking" is this too strange?


I had an imaginary sister who sometimes doubled as my wife. I still "see" her and talk to her sometimes, but not as often as I did before. It's strange, yes, but I don't think that it's that usual for men who are already wired differently like us, especially if we are socially isolated and lonely, and we often are due to our condition. So long as you KNOW they are imaginary, I wouldn't make too much of a fuss about it.



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19 Sep 2015, 6:15 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:
It is a little strange to me, since I simply do not experience anything like that really. I have had past reoccurring dreams with some of the same 'characters' but that's different. But in the grand scheme of things its really not that weird...I mean I talk to myself and meow at my cats or really any cats. If you're doing this out of loneliness though I would advise maybe trying to reach out some....or at least if someone interacts with you perhaps put the imaginary world on hold rather than that person or they could get the impression you mostly like to be left alone and not bother trying to socialize anymore(I know I've probably wrecked my chances at potential friendships that way) like being too caught up in my own head...and thus seeming stand-off ish and like I didn't want to interact.



Well, cats don't meow at each other. Meowing is a way for cats to communicate with humans not with other cats so meowing at your cat is not weird. Its what they want.

Agreed for the most part but for man we often come off as stand offish anyways or different even though we actively try to fit in but can't figure it out. I guess that's the only great thing for being a female who is on the spectrum men who want female companionship often look beyond the faults or awkard traits to get to know you guys.



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20 Sep 2015, 9:43 am

Hell, I don't even have a good enough imagination to imagine such a thing.

Sounds pretty cool.



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20 Sep 2015, 11:21 am

Cockroach96 wrote:
Getting married at 16 is illegal and a bad idea anyway. :roll:


I think that Alex meant for him to get a girlfriend, or even to just get more friends in general in real life. Which I agree with.



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20 Sep 2015, 11:59 am

Feyokien wrote:
Try to have more tact people...
Was 'Yes' the wrong answer?

Regardless, I'd rather lack tact than pander to political correctness.



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20 Sep 2015, 12:02 pm

MonsterCrack wrote:
I often pretend in my jmagination to have a wife and a daughter, I'm 16 and a guy. I have really elaborate conversations that feel almost real, but deep down I know they're not real. Sometimes when someone interrupts my imaginary conversation I tell them to hold on cause I'm " busy thinking" is this too strange?


I think it's very strange. I also learned long ago that I am nobody to judge strange because often what's strange to me is normal to many other people, and certainly whats normal to me is often quite strange to the world at large.

The oddest part to me is fantasizing about having a child. This to me it quite literally the worst thing that could ever happen to me. I'd in total honesty rather get cancer. At least that misery would end in a few years... but again that's my personal views.



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20 Sep 2015, 12:31 pm

Single people will fantasize being married to specific people they know of the opposite sex. For a 16 year old to fantasize about having a child old enough to talk - that along with an imaginary spouse (and both the spouse and the child are woven out of whole cloth)-strikes me as bit unusual.