I give up, im meant to be alone till i die!

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Hmm, if I am not mistaken, I think it means that rejection is common for everyone. Dating can be a numbers game and we can all experience varying degrees of rejection.

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you look like that wolf heart fellow.

Writers also know the meaning of rejection, until the right publisher happens along.

Never give up. Love and relationships are funny things. I never knew I'd find someone. I also knew someone who was an entomologist: a real nerd and confirmed bachelor/ asexual eccentric character who found a girl who liked him when he was in his late 50s!

A more positive attitude, not tinged with desperation, will achieve results. Girls want you to approach them as if you're the only guy left on Earth and that they should be the ones to feel lucky to have you!

If at first you don't succeed try, try and try again.

Yeah, try and try and try ..

one of the ways i look at things is from taking a lesson from sword making. i know it sound strange but i thinks its good. the best swords in the world are not always made of the best quality stuff. as a kid i loved and still do love katanas. now back to what i was saying in forging a piece of art such as the katanna the raw metal must be brought to breaking point usually in whats known as a forge. which puts it under huge amounts of stress now think about this situation with the girl as the forge alright. now after wards the sword shaped through hits with a hammer on an anvil or another too; again going back to the forge now after the sword is quenched in special oil to temper it and to strengthen the blade. the final part is the sharpening. know i know how does forging a katanna have to do with this well il tell you through out life you will hit bumpy parts and a few walls these are just the strokes of the hammer. the really bad parts where we feel like we are done are the forge. all of these events come together to temper your will and to strengthen you like the blade. i know its confusing but if i may suggest something if you are looking for a film to pick you up a bit may i suggest the newest robin hood. A fair way through there is a saying that could be useful to you in this situation and at any rate the film is very good

I have never been good at approaching women, Ill just do like I have before and be oblivius and let them apprach me like I have in previous relationships.

Just be yourself do what you enjoy and you will run into someone who is into the same things. I recently met a girl who I like, and it is not an akward does she like me or not. I am worried about having fun and letting it go where it goes. Last week as we were hanging out, there were three of us and we were just chilling. She rested her head on my shoulder as we were watching tv. This has never happened before. Now is it a sign she likes me, no it does mean that she feels compfterble with me. Which is a huge step for me as I can be a bit weird when it comes to girls. So I would say have fun look for common interests and just be yourself, the person you are not who you want to be. Aproaching girls is like aproaching anyone you start of with a statement or a question, then you wIt for a reply and it goes back and forth. Always wait for a reply or it could end up being a one sided conversation. Good conversations fow naturally and don't feel forced. Anyway I hope this helps don't give up.

Ill find someone I had a feeling this was to good to be true, I am not that good of a seeker anyway so its best that my other half finds me, being shy sucks bad!

I have but it is not the same as getting in a real relationship with someone. Flings are not emotional to me they are just flings this is different I want to get in a serious relationship and not just a fling and casual sex because it grows tiring, yeah it feels good but in time when you are feeling down you wish to have someone hug you and support you and let you know everything is going to be alright and do not be afraid etc. You dont get any of that from FWB relationships.

i can get what you are saying there mate my reasons for wanting a serious relationship are some what similar but different. one of them is to have a family as when i grew up i didn't really have a family so its some thing i want out of the relationship. the other is actually boiled down is the same as yours acceptance, you say you want some one to be by your side to accept you.
look mate i am going to be a bit blunt some people in this world chose either to look for some one your other half in a manner of speaking. the other choice is to remain alone to go through life alone people chose either of these choices at moments in their life and by the way there is not age limit to meeting some one my parents were in their teen when they met I've known friends whose parents got together in their 20's, 30's or 40's. the point i am getting at is this you told this girl how you feel that shows that you are very brave and you have the drive to go out there and get what you want.
now i don't have all the answers i don't think any one does here. the only one that does is you we can help you advice you on what we think is the right thing to do but at the end of the day its your choice.

Yes..There needs to be a certain level of depth and emotional connection for it to matter..otherwise it just a means to an end, just feeding a hunger that will come back.

Don't take that she has a boyfriend as a negative, take it as a positive that you were able to approach her and ask her out as that in itself is a step away from your timidity - there are so many women on this earth and rejection is going to happen. I used to have major issues with approaching girls I liked and something I always told myself was regarding these situations, I'd rather regret something I did than something I did not do. I found out a few years ago that a girl I was very good friends with and had a major crush on in the 9th grade had been in love with me and still held feelings for me to this day - it really killed me to hear her say that she was sure that if we had both known how we each felt back then that we'd still be together today. It won't happen over night, but if you don't want to be as you called it "a timid freak", take the steps to change that - you won't win every time but I guarantee you'll feel better and more confident for trying when these situations arise as opposed to thinking "why bother, she is just going to reject me anyway..."

these are my beliefs, i sometimes felt like the odd one for choosing to spend a night talking to one i care about and maybe watching a film under some blankets, over a fling. i feel this desire stems from never having experienced any of that as a id with very few friends, so just a guess. this is what i still have to know about myself.


how did you get to find out, did you ever tell each other this?

i had to piece together evidence (some VERY obvious) by myself, that the person who i had major feelings toward did in fact feel similarly towards me, and this wasn't realized until she had already given up and moved on. it hurt, there was no "closure".

whether we would have ended up together or not, she still lingers, and stares, here.

at you.

ya, oh well, life is not meant to be fair, not all of us are attractive