Have you dated someone w/ Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

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I guess narcissists just keep the bad parts while we outgrow the bad parts.

My spouse and I had been online friends since 2000/20001. We kept track over of each other over the years so we had talked a fair bit about things beforehand. When I first visited him I didn't know he was genuine. People put on masks and it is easy to hide their real personality on the internet. But when we met we felt like we had known each other forever. Not to say there hasn't been some cruddy things that he hasn't done and he wasn't completely honest with things. We had our ups and downs and it is all ups now.

Here is the kicker. I had gotten out of the relationship with my ex and because of the situation my fiancé was in (carer for his mum living at home) when I moved here I had to stay with his family. His dad was NPD!! ! It was back to being in hell again and trying to snap my at that time fiancé into realizing that his dad was abusive. We lived there around two years because of the situation and financial abuse my FIL put my husband and I through. Later we escaped and lived with two horrible people that I think both had mental issues. Luckily we just moved out of there this summer.
I blogged for about a year when I lived with the NPD dad as a way to cope with it. Someone shared their blog, so I will share mine as well: https://shitmyfildoes.wordpress.com/

Yes I have, and it wasn't much fun.

-For those that can't handle change, were you able to break up with this person?

Yes I was, the chance was hard, but I've come back to him more than once when I got too lonely. Somehow both being a bit messed up made us click in a special way. But life with him was too hard for me, life alone was easier.

-Do you look back on people from your past and worry that you may be an easy target to these kinds of people?

I know for a fact that I am an easy target for these kind of people. He is the only one that had a Narcissistic Personality Disorder, but not the only boy in life that has treated me poorly. I was in a even worse relationship before (violent) and what he did to me didn't feel too bad at the time, because I was used to worse. But now I have learned to see the signs of and I know when to run away as soon as I can so something like that won't happen to me again. It did break something inside of me that I've never gotten back again.

-Did they ever say or do something that gave you the creeps? If so, what was it?

Not really. I did once date another guy that had a rape/murder fantasy, that was probably the most freaky a guy had ever told me. He wasn't really in his right mind either.

But learning how to love myself and stuff like that has really helped me not getting in those kind of situations anymore, thank god.

This is a helpful way of explaining it. My boyfriend is definitely very childish!

I wish I could remember some of the things he said/did in the beginning that gave me a creepy feeling that something wasn't quite right. One of them might have occurred when he would continuously boast about how he had never had to pay for any of his online games because he always managed to get his friends to buy them for him. But one instance that I do remember happened a few months ago when we were in the car. I had had an embarrassing moment earlier that day and was telling him about it. It occurred to me that I couldn't recall him ever, in our 7 years together, having an embarrassing moment. So I asked him to tell me about his most embarrassing moment and he said "I don't have one. I don't get embarrassed."

A few years ago we were watching an episode of Bones that featured a sociopath. The guy (much like my bf) seemed so genuinely nice/sweet/concerned until they got him to reveal himself. Apparently contagious yawning is thought to be a result of empathy, so if you find yourself yawning several times and a person with you doesn't also yawn, they might not have empathy. For some reason my instincts told me I should test this on my bf (I waited a few days) and since I yawn a lot anyways, it was very natural. Now this may not be fool proof, but I have tried it on him several times since and haven't gotten reciprocal yawns.

Okay I can't type anymore right now, he's coming home soon.

My ex had a Narcacistic personality disorder and was also a sociopath, she was very controlling, manipulative and had a violent streek. After being in hell for two years of her abusing me and causing me to nearrly commit suicide, I am stuck with PTSD and get nasty flashbacks and night mares from time to time.

Wow that sounds awful, I am sorry!