I have a crush on another aspie but I'm not sure what to do

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06 Nov 2015, 11:13 am

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So I have a crush on another aspie boy. However I'm not sure what to do. We're already good friends and I don't want to ruin the friendship by telling him about my crush on him. How fast/slow should I take things?

I'm actually the aspie guy you have a crush on. I really like you too. I think about you everyday.

Iv'e always wanted to ask you out but iv'e been to scared of ruining our friendship. We have something special going on. From the day iv'e met you, iv'e had a super crush on you.

So rg456, will you go out with me?

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06 Nov 2015, 12:00 pm

It would be nice if I could find someone...At least I have nice friends!

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06 Nov 2015, 1:02 pm

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It would be nice if I could find someone...At least I have nice friends!

I am sure you will, you are a good person. Everything has a place and time, it is something that needs to come spontaneously and naturally..not contrived or forced.

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06 Nov 2015, 1:11 pm

Aww, thank you! You're nice too!
I might be going to university/college next year, so who knows? It's a new adventure!

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06 Nov 2015, 1:17 pm

Kuraudo777 wrote:

It would be nice if I could find someone...At least I have nice friends!

Have you thought about looking for someone on here?
Few people found each other's here, so it works for some. There's a whole thread full of single aspie men. Well ones naive enough to post anyways. You seem like a cool lady.

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06 Nov 2015, 1:19 pm

:!: Me, cool?
Thanks for the advice!

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06 Nov 2015, 2:27 pm

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I don't know whether you can handle rejection well or not. If it turned out that he did't feel the same way you felt, it's going to be hard for you two to act like nothing ever happened. In that situation, your friendship would face awkward moments at least for a while or long long while. So I think it would be a better idea if you tell him indirect way rather than direct way. For instance, you can give him some hints which indicate your feelings for him such as smiles, body contacts, sweet words..etc. And see how he reacts to your slightly blatant flirts.

Those hints generally don't work too well with Aspies. We assume she's just being friendly.

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06 Nov 2015, 3:56 pm

nick007 wrote:

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rg456 wrote:

Those hints generally don't work too well with Aspies. We assume she's just being friendly.

Because most times they are just being friendly. Every time I've thought otherwise and asked, ended badly.

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06 Nov 2015, 4:25 pm

@ nick 007 and sly279

Okay..I got it..How about blatant flirtings like saying "I like you", batting her lashes, or hugging him like for 30 minutes when it's only needed 3 seconds, or kissing his cheek when there is no reason to kiss? :mrgreen:

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06 Nov 2015, 4:40 pm

Drawyer wrote:

Saying I like you would work, or I really like you, or like like, or have a crush on you.

Hugging or kissing wouldn't go over well if the aspie is one who dislikes touch
I dont know how I'd react. If it was a girl who I liked back I may like it, I love hugs and cuddling. But I've always been the one to start it and asked first,so it may catch me off guard and cause me to panic.

I dont know what batting lashes look like

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06 Nov 2015, 4:45 pm

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I dont know what batting lashes look like

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06 Nov 2015, 4:59 pm

Drawyer wrote:

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I dont know what batting lashes look like

Never ever seen a woman do that.
This particular gif is a bit creepy.

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06 Nov 2015, 5:03 pm

If a woman would do that to me.....I'd be mighty gratified!

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06 Nov 2015, 5:05 pm

I have never seen a woman do that purposely and not in a joking manner. I would be creeped out if a woman did that to me!

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