17 Nov 2015, 11:37 pm
AspieGuy96 wrote:
Alright guys, here's the scoop:
The day after, I texted, no reply. Then the next day, I called, no reply. Nothing from her since that day at the mall. GAME OVER.
What I learned from this experience is: Getting a girl's number means only half the battle is over, after I get it (if I'm lucky enough to even get it) I should seize the moment and converse as long as possible (if she's open minded enough) and establish a date with a specific place and time. In other words, simply getting a number doesn't always mean you've won the girl. http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2011/11/g ... age/all/1/
Btw, for those of you who are confused, I said she works at a concession stand. You know, those little mini-shops inside of malls where a person sells gifts, souvenirs, and other novelty items to the shoppers. We weren't on a bus.
As much as I want to go back to meet her at her concession stand, I won't, it's not worth it. It might come off as creepy/stalkerish. I missed my chance and I didn't seize the moment. Now I'm planning on going to a different nearby mall this Friday to push my luck again with some more girls. I'm gonna do it, but I just don't feel up to it much. I barely have any motivation left. I've lost faith in humanity and I can't trust people, especially females.
Every time I try to take one step forward, this doggone syndrome pushes me two steps back. I can't believe I still keep going after so many years of getting played countless times. I keep going because sometimes I get so close to the dream I can almost taste it. I know the right person is out there somewhere hiding among the millions of b.s.-ers. Whether it be the mall or a dating site as a last resort, I'm gonna make it one day. I know because I've had an actual, legitimate girlfriend once as a freshman.
someday I will
Someday, somehow
I'm gonna make it alright but not right now http://www.lyricsfreak.com/n/nickelback ... 92423.html
The day after, I texted, no reply. Then the next day, I called, no reply. Nothing from her since that day at the mall. GAME OVER.
What I learned from this experience is: Getting a girl's number means only half the battle is over, after I get it (if I'm lucky enough to even get it) I should seize the moment and converse as long as possible (if she's open minded enough) and establish a date with a specific place and time. In other words, simply getting a number doesn't always mean you've won the girl. http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2011/11/g ... age/all/1/
Btw, for those of you who are confused, I said she works at a concession stand. You know, those little mini-shops inside of malls where a person sells gifts, souvenirs, and other novelty items to the shoppers. We weren't on a bus.
As much as I want to go back to meet her at her concession stand, I won't, it's not worth it. It might come off as creepy/stalkerish. I missed my chance and I didn't seize the moment. Now I'm planning on going to a different nearby mall this Friday to push my luck again with some more girls. I'm gonna do it, but I just don't feel up to it much. I barely have any motivation left. I've lost faith in humanity and I can't trust people, especially females.
Every time I try to take one step forward, this doggone syndrome pushes me two steps back. I can't believe I still keep going after so many years of getting played countless times. I keep going because sometimes I get so close to the dream I can almost taste it. I know the right person is out there somewhere hiding among the millions of b.s.-ers. Whether it be the mall or a dating site as a last resort, I'm gonna make it one day. I know because I've had an actual, legitimate girlfriend once as a freshman.
someday I will
Someday, somehow
I'm gonna make it alright but not right now http://www.lyricsfreak.com/n/nickelback ... 92423.html
Idk, that seems kind of pushy. I know I wouldn't want to decide a date with someone like within 10-15 however many minutes we talked for.
The getting a number thing is a good buffer so she doesn't feel pressured into doing something/saying something.
Females often feel put upon because most males don't understand the word "No." I guess it's one of those male-female Cultural boundaries, just gets lost in translation.
Somehow men think NO = I have no idea what I'm saying, keep trying to talk to me and convince me of things, but definitely don't take what I say seriously!
Wait- so ONE GIRL doesn't text you back (a girl you randomly met at a mall and talked to briefly..) and you've "lost faith in humanity"? Isn't that a bit... melodramatic?
Overkill?
No? What am I missing here
Definitely try again, but don't get down on yourself!! It's not that huge of a deal. Can't let one meeting in a mall make you feel that badly.
17 Nov 2015, 11:44 pm
Venger wrote:
Probably gave her number to avoid awkwardness in the moment(common reason). I have a better question, so how does a girl politely get-out of giving a guy their number when they don't want to?
Well, I never decline- you know just in case they are f*****g nutso- I just try and cut the convo short and if I can't get away before they insist on trading numbers then I give them a fake number and jet. And avoid that place for a while.
This is extremely inconvenient when it is like my local supermarket or favorite starbucks
I don't know about politely declining... my female friends just give out a fake number or say they have a boyfriend even if they don't.
Omfg, if a girl says she has a boyfriend- don't be that as*hole that insists to talk to them (Like: "Oh yeah? Well call him! I don't believe you!") or see pictures OR says "So, I'm better" or stupid s**t like that- it's infuriating, and just take a hint.
I had someone tell me that they literally said: "So what."
I was so annoyed! Like if I was dating someone you just wouldn't care and would want me to cheat on them?! wtf! Ultimate Nope.
18 Nov 2015, 2:59 am
Unfortunate_Aspie_ wrote:
AspieGuy96 wrote:
Alright guys, here's the scoop:
The day after, I texted, no reply. Then the next day, I called, no reply. Nothing from her since that day at the mall. GAME OVER.
What I learned from this experience is: Getting a girl's number means only half the battle is over, after I get it (if I'm lucky enough to even get it) I should seize the moment and converse as long as possible (if she's open minded enough) and establish a date with a specific place and time. In other words, simply getting a number doesn't always mean you've won the girl. http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2011/11/g ... age/all/1/
Btw, for those of you who are confused, I said she works at a concession stand. You know, those little mini-shops inside of malls where a person sells gifts, souvenirs, and other novelty items to the shoppers. We weren't on a bus.
As much as I want to go back to meet her at her concession stand, I won't, it's not worth it. It might come off as creepy/stalkerish. I missed my chance and I didn't seize the moment. Now I'm planning on going to a different nearby mall this Friday to push my luck again with some more girls. I'm gonna do it, but I just don't feel up to it much. I barely have any motivation left. I've lost faith in humanity and I can't trust people, especially females.
Every time I try to take one step forward, this doggone syndrome pushes me two steps back. I can't believe I still keep going after so many years of getting played countless times. I keep going because sometimes I get so close to the dream I can almost btaste it. I know the right person is out there somewhere hiding among the millions of b.s.-ers. Whether it be the mall or a dating site as a last resort, I'm gonna make it one day. I know because I've had an actual, legitimate girlfriend once as a freshman.
someday I will
Someday, somehow
I'm gonna make it alright but not right now http://www.lyricsfreak.com/n/nickelback ... 92423.html
The day after, I texted, no reply. Then the next day, I called, no reply. Nothing from her since that day at the mall. GAME OVER.
What I learned from this experience is: Getting a girl's number means only half the battle is over, after I get it (if I'm lucky enough to even get it) I should seize the moment and converse as long as possible (if she's open minded enough) and establish a date with a specific place and time. In other words, simply getting a number doesn't always mean you've won the girl. http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2011/11/g ... age/all/1/
Btw, for those of you who are confused, I said she works at a concession stand. You know, those little mini-shops inside of malls where a person sells gifts, souvenirs, and other novelty items to the shoppers. We weren't on a bus.
As much as I want to go back to meet her at her concession stand, I won't, it's not worth it. It might come off as creepy/stalkerish. I missed my chance and I didn't seize the moment. Now I'm planning on going to a different nearby mall this Friday to push my luck again with some more girls. I'm gonna do it, but I just don't feel up to it much. I barely have any motivation left. I've lost faith in humanity and I can't trust people, especially females.
Every time I try to take one step forward, this doggone syndrome pushes me two steps back. I can't believe I still keep going after so many years of getting played countless times. I keep going because sometimes I get so close to the dream I can almost btaste it. I know the right person is out there somewhere hiding among the millions of b.s.-ers. Whether it be the mall or a dating site as a last resort, I'm gonna make it one day. I know because I've had an actual, legitimate girlfriend once as a freshman.
someday I will
Someday, somehow
I'm gonna make it alright but not right now http://www.lyricsfreak.com/n/nickelback ... 92423.html
Idk, that seems kind of pushy. I know I wouldn't want to decide a date with someone like within 10-15 however many minutes we talked for.
The getting a number thing is a good buffer so she doesn't feel pressured into doing something/saying something.
Females often feel put upon because most males don't understand the word "No." I guess it's one of those male-female Cultural boundaries, just gets lost in translation.
Somehow men think NO = I have no idea what I'm saying, keep trying to talk to me and convince me of things, but definitely don't take what I say seriously!
Wait- so ONE GIRL doesn't text you back (a girl you randomly met at a mall and talked to briefly..) and you've "lost faith in humanity"? Isn't that a bit... melodramatic?
Overkill?
No? What am I missing here
Definitely try again, but don't get down on yourself!! It's not that huge of a deal. Can't let one meeting in a mall make you feel that badly.
Totally pushy. If I guy I just met who got my number tried to set up a date/time then and there, I'd tell him to lose it.
18 Nov 2015, 3:20 am
18 Nov 2015, 6:12 pm
18 Nov 2015, 6:18 pm
18 Nov 2015, 6:36 pm
Unfortunate_Aspie_ wrote:
Venger wrote:
Probably gave her number to avoid awkwardness in the moment(common reason). I have a better question, so how does a girl politely get-out of giving a guy their number when they don't want to?
Well, I never decline- you know just in case they are f*****g nutso- I just try and cut the convo short and if I can't get away before they insist on trading numbers then I give them a fake number and jet. And avoid that place for a while.
This is extremely inconvenient when it is like my local supermarket or favorite starbucks
I don't know about politely declining... my female friends just give out a fake number or say they have a boyfriend even if they don't.
Omfg, if a girl says she has a boyfriend- don't be that as*hole that insists to talk to them (Like: "Oh yeah? Well call him! I don't believe you!") or see pictures OR says "So, I'm better" or stupid s**t like that- it's infuriating, and just take a hint.
I had someone tell me that they literally said: "So what."
I was so annoyed! Like if I was dating someone you just wouldn't care and would want me to cheat on them?! wtf! Ultimate Nope.
I still say honesty is the best policy, as long as you are polite and respectful about it. The only time you have a right to be rude, is if they get pushy, or rude themselves. When those guys figure out you gave them a fake number, or lied to them about having a boyfriend, they are gonna be pissed for sure, and if they see you again, it might not be pretty.
18 Nov 2015, 6:56 pm
18 Nov 2015, 11:31 pm
SilverStar wrote:
Unfortunate_Aspie_ wrote:
Venger wrote:
Probably gave her number to avoid awkwardness in the moment(common reason). I have a better question, so how does a girl politely get-out of giving a guy their number when they don't want to?
Well, I never decline- you know just in case they are f*****g nutso- I just try and cut the convo short and if I can't get away before they insist on trading numbers then I give them a fake number and jet. And avoid that place for a while.
This is extremely inconvenient when it is like my local supermarket or favorite starbucks
I don't know about politely declining... my female friends just give out a fake number or say they have a boyfriend even if they don't.
Omfg, if a girl says she has a boyfriend- don't be that as*hole that insists to talk to them (Like: "Oh yeah? Well call him! I don't believe you!") or see pictures OR says "So, I'm better" or stupid s**t like that- it's infuriating, and just take a hint.
I had someone tell me that they literally said: "So what."
I was so annoyed! Like if I was dating someone you just wouldn't care and would want me to cheat on them?! wtf! Ultimate Nope.
I still say honesty is the best policy, as long as you are polite and respectful about it. The only time you have a right to be rude, is if they get pushy, or rude themselves. When those guys figure out you gave them a fake number, or lied to them about having a boyfriend, they are gonna be pissed for sure, and if they see you again, it might not be pretty.
What does that even mean "might not be pretty" this is exactly what women worry about- potentially psycho men getting aggressive or angry and doing whatever because "oh, you didn't give your REAL phone number out to some total stranger f**k you" sort of reaction.
Why pissed?
That's asinine. I'm not obligated to give strangers my real true and personal information if they ask for it. No one is. No matter how nicely they ask. That is just a personal safety issue. I'm going to give my SSN to the super polite well dressed man down the street just because he asks(**fake example** I'm not serious about the SSN).
19 Nov 2015, 1:34 am
Unfortunate_Aspie_ wrote:
SilverStar wrote:
Unfortunate_Aspie_ wrote:
Venger wrote:
Probably gave her number to avoid awkwardness in the moment(common reason). I have a better question, so how does a girl politely get-out of giving a guy their number when they don't want to?
Well, I never decline- you know just in case they are f*****g nutso- I just try and cut the convo short and if I can't get away before they insist on trading numbers then I give them a fake number and jet. And avoid that place for a while.
This is extremely inconvenient when it is like my local supermarket or favorite starbucks
I don't know about politely declining... my female friends just give out a fake number or say they have a boyfriend even if they don't.
Omfg, if a girl says she has a boyfriend- don't be that as*hole that insists to talk to them (Like: "Oh yeah? Well call him! I don't believe you!") or see pictures OR says "So, I'm better" or stupid s**t like that- it's infuriating, and just take a hint.
I had someone tell me that they literally said: "So what."
I was so annoyed! Like if I was dating someone you just wouldn't care and would want me to cheat on them?! wtf! Ultimate Nope.
I still say honesty is the best policy, as long as you are polite and respectful about it. The only time you have a right to be rude, is if they get pushy, or rude themselves. When those guys figure out you gave them a fake number, or lied to them about having a boyfriend, they are gonna be pissed for sure, and if they see you again, it might not be pretty.
What does that even mean "might not be pretty" this is exactly what women worry about- potentially psycho men getting aggressive or angry and doing whatever because "oh, you didn't give your REAL phone number out to some total stranger f**k you" sort of reaction.
Why pissed?
That's asinine. I'm not obligated to give strangers my real true and personal information if they ask for it. No one is. No matter how nicely they ask. That is just a personal safety issue. I'm going to give my SSN to the super polite well dressed man down the street just because he asks(**fake example** I'm not serious about the SSN).
But some females do give out their real digits and personal information to guys who are "complete strangers". So there had to have been something I was doing wrong. What qualifications must a guy have in order for you to give him real your information and set up a date? What must he do to make that happen? What should he talk about? How should he dress? What would cause you to reject a guy, give fake digits or even lie? How come females like to be so difficult? What's the worst that could possibly happen if you comply?
19 Nov 2015, 2:38 pm
19 Nov 2015, 10:05 pm
Unfortunate_Aspie_ wrote:
SilverStar wrote:
Unfortunate_Aspie_ wrote:
Venger wrote:
Probably gave her number to avoid awkwardness in the moment(common reason). I have a better question, so how does a girl politely get-out of giving a guy their number when they don't want to?
Well, I never decline- you know just in case they are f*****g nutso- I just try and cut the convo short and if I can't get away before they insist on trading numbers then I give them a fake number and jet. And avoid that place for a while.
This is extremely inconvenient when it is like my local supermarket or favorite starbucks
I don't know about politely declining... my female friends just give out a fake number or say they have a boyfriend even if they don't.
Omfg, if a girl says she has a boyfriend- don't be that as*hole that insists to talk to them (Like: "Oh yeah? Well call him! I don't believe you!") or see pictures OR says "So, I'm better" or stupid s**t like that- it's infuriating, and just take a hint.
I had someone tell me that they literally said: "So what."
I was so annoyed! Like if I was dating someone you just wouldn't care and would want me to cheat on them?! wtf! Ultimate Nope.
I still say honesty is the best policy, as long as you are polite and respectful about it. The only time you have a right to be rude, is if they get pushy, or rude themselves. When those guys figure out you gave them a fake number, or lied to them about having a boyfriend, they are gonna be pissed for sure, and if they see you again, it might not be pretty.
What does that even mean "might not be pretty" this is exactly what women worry about- potentially psycho men getting aggressive or angry and doing whatever because "oh, you didn't give your REAL phone number out to some total stranger f**k you" sort of reaction.
Why pissed?
That's asinine. I'm not obligated to give strangers my real true and personal information if they ask for it. No one is. No matter how nicely they ask. That is just a personal safety issue. I'm going to give my SSN to the super polite well dressed man down the street just because he asks(**fake example** I'm not serious about the SSN).
"it might not be pretty" doesn't necessarily mean they are gonna assult you. It could mean anything from them giving you dirty looks, to calling you nasty names, or anything else people do, when they feel someone isn't being honest with them. I have met a lot of women (especially online) that are almost too scared to even talk to strange guys. It takes a lot to even get them to trust you enough, to even talk to you. There are weirdos out there for sure, but there are also decent guys, as well. If you read the forums, or anywhere else guys hang around, you will see that their most frustrating issue with women, is that they are not direct, and say what they want, or don't want.
19 Nov 2015, 10:31 pm
Unfortunate_Aspie_ wrote:
SilverStar wrote:
Unfortunate_Aspie_ wrote:
Venger wrote:
Probably gave her number to avoid awkwardness in the moment(common reason). I have a better question, so how does a girl politely get-out of giving a guy their number when they don't want to?
Well, I never decline- you know just in case they are f*****g nutso- I just try and cut the convo short and if I can't get away before they insist on trading numbers then I give them a fake number and jet. And avoid that place for a while.
This is extremely inconvenient when it is like my local supermarket or favorite starbucks
I don't know about politely declining... my female friends just give out a fake number or say they have a boyfriend even if they don't.
Omfg, if a girl says she has a boyfriend- don't be that as*hole that insists to talk to them (Like: "Oh yeah? Well call him! I don't believe you!") or see pictures OR says "So, I'm better" or stupid s**t like that- it's infuriating, and just take a hint.
I had someone tell me that they literally said: "So what."
I was so annoyed! Like if I was dating someone you just wouldn't care and would want me to cheat on them?! wtf! Ultimate Nope.
I still say honesty is the best policy, as long as you are polite and respectful about it. The only time you have a right to be rude, is if they get pushy, or rude themselves. When those guys figure out you gave them a fake number, or lied to them about having a boyfriend, they are gonna be pissed for sure, and if they see you again, it might not be pretty.
What does that even mean "might not be pretty" this is exactly what women worry about- potentially psycho men getting aggressive or angry and doing whatever because "oh, you didn't give your REAL phone number out to some total stranger f**k you" sort of reaction.
Why pissed?
That's asinine. I'm not obligated to give strangers my real true and personal information if they ask for it. No one is. No matter how nicely they ask. That is just a personal safety issue. I'm going to give my SSN to the super polite well dressed man down the street just because he asks(**fake example** I'm not serious about the SSN).
I'd be much more annoyed by the fact that she fooled me, not by a rejection that is fully understandable. Once a girl responded to me on a dating site that she was not interested, I was really happy and thanked her for the nice reply, that made my day, it's so uncommon. One can invent a million excuses but giving a false number seems a bit evil to me.
That been said I'd not be aggressive or anything, I'd just act cold and annoyed, if I meet her again after she gave me a false number.
19 Nov 2015, 10:44 pm
20 Nov 2015, 6:22 am
20 Nov 2015, 10:20 am
Unfortunate_Aspie_ wrote:
Omfg, if a girl says she has a boyfriend- don't be that as*hole that insists to talk to them (Like: "Oh yeah? Well call him! I don't believe you!") or see pictures OR says "So, I'm better" or stupid s**t like that- it's infuriating, and just take a hint.
I had someone tell me that they literally said: "So what."
I was so annoyed! Like if I was dating someone you just wouldn't care and would want me to cheat on them?! wtf! Ultimate Nope.
I had someone tell me that they literally said: "So what."
I was so annoyed! Like if I was dating someone you just wouldn't care and would want me to cheat on them?! wtf! Ultimate Nope.
Yeah I can't tell you how many times I've been hit on while working. Guys can't tell if you're being nice to them because you're interested or because it's your job to be nice. It's just so awkward. And I don't feel comfortable saying "sorry I'm not interested" I try to say it in other ways. and it is possible that the girl gave the number because she felt there was no other way to end the conversation.
I also told a guy before that I had a boyfriend and he said "so, I can keep a secret!" yeahhhh like i'm going to cheat on my imaginary boyfriend for you!
Oh! and the best was once at work this guy ask for my number and the way he asked me impressed me so I gave it to him although I wasn't interested. Later he came to my line to check out with his mom (who he had been shopping with) and she's talking all about how he got some girl's number and she was basically like saying of course he got a girl's number because he's so cute.
it was so funny and awkward hahah.So for any guys reading this--- try not to hit on a woman while she's at work.
