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Kyle Katarn
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18 Dec 2015, 4:49 am

gotta love that cat :heart:



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18 Dec 2015, 8:07 am

I had a cat once who was NT. He had trouble in social situations.



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18 Dec 2015, 1:01 pm

I have noticed this too. Maybe because a lot of Aspies tend to take the topics that that interest us very seriously? When you research on topics for long periods of time you can end up enriching your vocabulary.



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18 Dec 2015, 1:29 pm

^Agreed! I've learned so many interesting words by reading fantasy books and mythology.


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18 Dec 2015, 2:16 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
You know....there really isn't such thing as a "neurotypical."

The term "neurotypical" is used, frequently, merely as a indicator that a person is not autistic, and has "typical" neurology, in general.

Thank you for this clarification. I have trouble using the word, since it seems inaccurate to me. I will not attempt to police anyone else's use of the language but I think I'll continue to use other terms to refer to non-autistic people.

And now the on topic reply:

The main thing I have noticed with most people is that they tend to be more focused on form and/or emotional impact than on content, and they tend to put accuracy and clarity at a lower priority than I do. Also, many people seem to use language and emotional expression to manipulate or get their way, something I struggle to keep in mind when dealing with them. I tend to appear stilted, pedantic, arrogant, or even inappropriately emotional, plus I focus way more on content than form or intent (what is literally said rather than what effect it might be intended to have).

The dumbest thing I have done through most of my life is to unthinkingly assume that everyone approaches conversation like I do, in spite of years of experience which should have taught me that this is actually uncommon outside of structured contexts such as work, school, or other institutions, or interest-based clubs. This tendency runs so deep that I have to literally say to myself (inside voice) "careful here, this person doesn't think like you do" if I want to get it right.



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18 Dec 2015, 8:39 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I had a cat once who was NT. He had trouble in social situations.


That's very interesting Mr. K. Sometimes I think Waldo might be a little bit NT too, he likes to small talk a lot about nothing - just keeps saying "meow meow" constantly. :mrgreen:


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19 Dec 2015, 1:46 pm

nurseangela wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
I had a cat once who was NT. He had trouble in social situations.


That's very interesting Mr. K. Sometimes I think Waldo might be a little bit NT too, he likes to small talk a lot about nothing - just keeps saying "meow meow" constantly. :mrgreen:

Apparently, cat language has something in common with Mandarin Chinese, because "meowing" to Shadow (my owner) can elicit anything from a snuggle to a full on attack with claws and teeth.