Am I supposed to be attracted to people? :-/

Post Reply New Topic

Why does everyone think I'm going to hurt someone. I've never done that

I don't think that. I was only using the idea of hurting someone as an example.

Starfoxx, if you don't feel attracted to anyone right now, just accept that and don't worry. You're OK the way you are, I'd say. Later it might change, and it might not. That will be OK too.

Thank you guys

For neuraltypical's? Yes, kind of. I'd say it's 75/25 in favor of oddness.

For people with Autism? It's closer to 50/50.

We're motivated more by intellectual pursuits, and while some of us do want to make personal connections of romantic nature, others do not, or at least it's not an active/primary concern. Sometimes normal friendships are all you need to keep the love bug from biting you.

Last edited by Idealist on 21 Dec 2015, 4:51 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I see. Oh well. Hmm I wonder why that is though... It may seem kinda bad but do you rekon it's nature saying people with autism should not procreate? That's why asexuality is more common in people on the spectrum.

If I'm actually asexual maybe that's nature saying I wouldn't make a good mother so instead I am better at other things but not made to find a partner and have children.

I'm not attracted to anyone either. I've tried having relationships in the past and they never worked out. For me, it was never about intimacy or anything like that, it was finding someone who I could relate to and count on, which did not work.

I'm asexual as well so that probably factored into it.

No....it's not saying that autistic people should not procreate.

You have the right to have kids if you want to have kids.

If you don't think you would make a good parent, then you have no business having kids. There are different ways to figure out if you would make a good parent. Not every autistic person is the same. Some make pretty good parents and some make perfectly horrible parents.

I think I'd make an okay parent nowadays.

When I was younger, I would have been a disaster.

I've learned a lot of things in my life, though.

I still don't think anybody has any right to tell an autistic person that he/she can't have kids. I feel strongly about this.

The way I see it if it happens, it happens and if it doesn't, then don't sweat it. Some people have very specific things that they're attracted to and as such don't tend to feel that desire as often as others. What's important is that you feel good about your life at the moment.

It's natural evolution taken to it's logical conclusion.

Ever since the earliest days of civilization, mating became less and less about instinctual attraction, and was more about securing needs. Either choosing a strong wife that can produce good offspring, or a husband whose skills can support a family, and is strong enough to defend you.

The whole idea of physical attraction is something of recent development in the long march of human civilization.



I think it's nature (genetics) saying "Well this is the way things are nowadays, I think making this trait more predominant will increase the chances of reproduction, if it works, lets keep doing it, if not, well there's always your potential siblings.".



Asexuality is just a more extreme version of what I was discussing above, and despite what you may be thinking, Asexuality is actually a positive trait, as it allows you to make calculated decisions born of logic and reason. To be able to take a step back and ask yourself if a relationship with this person has realistic chance of working out? Most failed couples and broken marriages wish they could have been that objective when they "fell in love" with one another, then they might have realized then and there that it would never have worked out, and they could have stopped themselves from wasting precious years of their live.

Last edited by Idealist on 21 Dec 2015, 5:22 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I think you should be able to choose as well.

I'm just curious though. Like at an evolutionary standpoint why do people have a certain sexuality. For example why are some people gay, even though thats not good from an evolutionary standpoint. I have no problem with people being gay or straight or whatever.

Ah I see. That makes sense

That's a good question: How do people become gay?

Homosexuality really is not that common in the Animal Kingdom. It exists, but it probably is not as prevalent, for the most part, as it is in humans.

I believe there is both a biological and environmental element to why people become gay, with the biological dominating somewhat--though environmental causation is not at all rare, in my opinion.