Be careful with your words

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Usage of euphemisms have long been theorized by sociologists as a balance between being honest with decency in one's verbal conduct and being painfully honest. Although, I attempt to steer clear of controversy altogether if it is possible.

"Sorry, I don't think we are a compatible, so let's stop seeing each other." would have been much better.

OMG, is that the state of dating in 2015. Tinder, texting and selfish thinking. I am glad I am a man of few words.

Wow, while I didn't find anything too offensive about this letter, it's a ridiculously long-winded way of saying:

"Sorry, you're not my physical type, so it's not going to happen. We can still be friends, if you're cool with that."

That looks dangerously close to what I might write if I somehow believed the woman truly liked me and wanted a serious relationship with me, and I thought I had to provide a detailed explanation, as I've often believed was socially required. I'd have done it sincerely and ignorantly thinking that was the best thing I could do.

Fortunately, that situation would have always been extremely unlikely to arise, even if I had somehow managed to enter the dating market, because I'd never assume she is attracted to me in the first place, certainly not for my achievements in life or my income, and most likely not for my body, either. I wouldn't even bother to think whether her body is good enough for me, because I'd never expect to be up to her standards. I surely wouldn't mind receiving a detailed explanation of how I fail miserably to turn her on and how she needs a real man. I like knowing the truth, and whatever can be destroyed by it, should be destroyed. If it's my self-esteem, so be it. I think, however, that it'd be much more realistic to expect her to decide she has already wasted more than enough time with me and I don't deserve taking the trouble to write the explanation.