My girlfriend's too obsessed with me. What should I do?

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To me it sounds positive that she is obsessed with you. It just means she loves you so much and wants to be with all the time. If it was the other way, i would be worried. I hope when i meet my sweetheart she will want to spend time with me all the time. I wouldn't mind.

Yeah man people need their space sometimes. If you stick around with the same person all the time, eventually you get tired of them. Like my dad who takes up the whole god damn living room.

So lets just say you take a week break to go on vacation so that way when you get back and see her, you will miss her even more and you definitely will want to devour her tight little...


poptarts that she bought from walmart while you were gone.

Heh, true dat. A gf is something I have wanted for a very long time. I mean I'm 27 and only got into my first true relationship 7 months ago. Some people might think I'm bringing up the rear here as lots of people I know have had girlfriends come and go since their teen years. If I end this relationship I could end up back in square one.

To be clear though, it's not like I don't care for her and don't want to be around her. I've just been finding it increasingly difficult to enjoy other things I'm fond of, and find getting stuff done extra stressful when I have to divide up my time to accommodate her.

Maybe getting into a routine as others have said is the best course of action, as I can settle into a routine where I spend enough time with my gf but still find time for my favourite things. I for one have a difficult time fully enjoying a videogame if I have to face time my gf at the same time, and I can't say I'm fully immersed in my conversation with her at that point either.

I turn 28'next month and never had a gf and it likely won't ever happen as women get picker as they get older.

Yeah I spent a week with a girl once, and I didn't get to do any of my things. I imaging it's about finding balance. Doesn't she have things she does? Perhaps it's a case of aspie feeling their spending too much time together but it's not really, because a lot of times social interactions exhaust us.

Maybe that's true. No, she currently doesn't have much to occupy her. She has a couple job interviews lined up, but right now she just sits at home and obsesses over me. Well, she has a few TV shows that she likes, but she seems to be one of those girls who doesn't really have hobbies. I don't know, it seems to be a common female thing. I hope she does get a job because I think that would be a positive thing for her, both in terms of self-esteem, and having something to occupy her.

That's not necessarily true. In my experience, obsessing over a crush seems to exclude other activities, so once she gets past that she might find new interests. You might ask her if she had hobbies before you met, and if so, she might very well get involved in hobbies again.

Hey, I just thought I would mention that one of the leaders at my church is in his 30s and he only now has his first steady girlfriend. Don't disqualify yourself, and don't give up.

@rdos: I might try that, but before me she always seemed to be obsessing over a crush or otherwise in pursuit of the idea of a relationship. That she had other hobbies before is a valid hypothesis though, so I suppose I should conduct the experiment you proposed to see what the results are. A true social scientist would do no less.