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29 Jan 2016, 3:58 pm

LMAO


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29 Jan 2016, 6:18 pm

I had things I would of liked in a partner but I never really had any standards persay cuz I was desperate & mostly just wanted someone who would give me a real chance & try to make a relationship work with me. My current girlfriend did & still does plus she had things I liked in a partner.


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01 Feb 2016, 2:01 pm

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Interested to know your thoughts or experiences (male or female)

I've been steadily lowering my standards over the years, a good example of just how far I've fallen :roll: would be from three months back.

Normally I'll have sex with a man/woman within the first day/night of meeting them, and if I don't, then it's either because I've lost interest or because their worth the wait. If I don't bed them by the second night, then I usually stop trying. Three days is a rarity, and almost unheard of, but for this woman I invested a full four days of effort into making her open up to me.

A couple of years ago, I would never have even entertained the idea of investing three days into one woman, let alone a full four days. The idea that there are men/women out there that adamantly refuse to have sex on the first date makes me weep for how far modern society has fallen. :cry:

Considering that things are only likely to get worse in regards to this, I suppose it's just as well that my standards of tolerance are starting to slip. :|


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01 Feb 2016, 3:24 pm

wow... I don't even.... I am a virgin, and you can't stand to last more than 1 date without sex? LMAO, as much as I want sex to ease my urges just looking at that....just.. no


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01 Feb 2016, 4:05 pm

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wow... I don't even.... I am a virgin, and you can't stand to last more than 1 date without sex?

I don't usually go on dates.

When I mentioned dating, I was just using it as reference point for how some opinions have started to shift.

When I talk about having sex with people on the first (second, third or fourth) day of meeting them, I mean that these people are total strangers that I've approached for the first time i.e. no prior history.
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LMAO, as much as I want sex to ease my urges just looking at that....just.. no

I'm not sure what you're trying to say here...


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01 Feb 2016, 4:29 pm

Idealist wrote:
zzaspergerzz wrote:
Interested to know your thoughts or experiences (male or female)

I've been steadily lowering my standards over the years, a good example of just how far I've fallen :roll: would be from three months back.

Normally I'll have sex with a man/woman within the first day/night of meeting them, and if I don't, then it's either because I've lost interest or because their worth the wait. If I don't bed them by the second night, then I usually stop trying. Three days is a rarity, and almost unheard of, but for this woman I invested a full four days of effort into making her open up to me.

A couple of years ago, I would never have even entertained the idea of investing three days into one woman, let alone a full four days. The idea that there are men/women out there that adamantly refuse to have sex on the first date makes me weep for how far modern society has fallen. :cry:

Considering that things are only likely to get worse in regards to this, I suppose it's just as well that my standards of tolerance are starting to slip. :|

Four days and she still didn't give you sex, what a prude! I reallyhave no idea how you could wait for so long. :roll:



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01 Feb 2016, 4:46 pm

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Four days and she still didn't give you sex, what a prude!


True enough, we didn't have sex, rather we made passionate love together.

Sometimes waiting can be good, if the thing your waiting on is worth it.

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I really have no idea how you could wait for so long. :roll:


She's 48, mother of five, grandmother of three, has over two dozen hobbies, lots of interests, drinks in moderation, doesn't smoke, is drug free, has a stable income, excellent fashion sense, uses make up sparingly, but to full effect ect. I could go on and on about how attractive she is, but suffice to say, she was well worth the wait. After all, You don't meet women like her every day, so when you do, you have to seize the opportunity and never let go.


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01 Feb 2016, 4:51 pm

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She's 48, mother of five, grandmother of three, has over two dozen hobbies, lots of interests, drinks in moderation, doesn't smoke, is drug free, has a stable income, excellent fashion sense, uses make up sparingly, but to full effect ect. I could go on and on about how attractive she is, but suffice to say, she was well worth the wait. After all, You don't meet women like her every day, so when you do, you have to seize the opportunity and never let go.

I was being sarcastic about the fact that waiting 4 days it not really a big deal, at least to me. To each his own I guess.



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01 Feb 2016, 5:02 pm

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Four days and she still didn't give you sex, what a prude!


True enough, we didn't have sex, rather we made passionate love together.

Sometimes waiting can be good, if the thing your waiting on is worth it.

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I really have no idea how you could wait for so long. :roll:


She's 48, mother of five, grandmother of three, has over two dozen hobbies, lots of interests, drinks in moderation, doesn't smoke, is drug free, has a stable income, excellent fashion sense, uses make up sparingly, but to full effect ect. I could go on and on about how attractive she is, but suffice to say, she was well worth the wait. After all, You don't meet women like her every day, so when you do, you have to seize the opportunity and never let go.


You're seeing a woman 20 yrs older than you?


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01 Feb 2016, 5:05 pm

Peacesells wrote:
Idealist wrote:
She's 48, mother of five, grandmother of three, has over two dozen hobbies, lots of interests, drinks in moderation, doesn't smoke, is drug free, has a stable income, excellent fashion sense, uses make up sparingly, but to full effect ect. I could go on and on about how attractive she is, but suffice to say, she was well worth the wait. After all, You don't meet women like her every day, so when you do, you have to seize the opportunity and never let go.

I was being sarcastic about the fact that waiting 4 days it not really a big deal, at least to me. To each his own I guess.


4 days is long to you? Are you kidding me dude? Nevermind, I don't want to open a can of worms again about how long one should know someone before having sex. Like you said, to each their own.


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01 Feb 2016, 5:25 pm

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You're seeing a woman 20 yrs older than you?

The oldest woman I've ever had sexual relations with was in her late 80's, and she'll be in her early 90's by now.
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4 days is long to you? Are you kidding me dude?

For someone who is used to bedding women within hours of meeting them for the first time, oh yes, four days is really quite a long time.

Angela, I'm a 27 year old man, sure I may no longer be a young man, but at the same time I'm not an old man either, in many ways I'm in the prime of my life, it's not unnatural for men my age to be sexually active or to make sex such a high priority. Though in my case, I do ulterior motives for wanting to sleep with men/woman so soon after I've been attracted to them. I've found that the most efficient way of getting inside someone mentally is to first get inside them physically. That the sex also happens to be both enjoyable and exciting at the same time is just a pleasant addition.


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01 Feb 2016, 6:31 pm

With an average UK male lifespan of 28,835 days, a whopping 4 of them is waiting a long time? I can't help but think this is a joke.


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01 Feb 2016, 6:34 pm

Idealist wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
You're seeing a woman 20 yrs older than you?

The oldest woman I've ever had sexual relations with was in her late 80's, and she'll be in her early 90's by now.
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4 days is long to you? Are you kidding me dude?

For someone who is used to bedding women within hours of meeting them for the first time, oh yes, four days is really quite a long time.

Angela, I'm a 27 year old man, sure I may no longer be a young man, but at the same time I'm not an old man either, in many ways I'm in the prime of my life, it's not unnatural for men my age to be sexually active or to make sex such a high priority. Though in my case, I do ulterior motives for wanting to sleep with men/woman so soon after I've been attracted to them. I've found that the most efficient way of getting inside someone mentally is to first get inside them physically. That the sex also happens to be both enjoyable and exciting at the same time is just a pleasant addition.


First, that's disturbing. Second, for what? That sounds sociopathic.


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01 Feb 2016, 7:09 pm

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With an average UK male lifespan of 28,835 days, a whopping 4 of them is waiting a long time?

Considering how many men/women I've slept with, I haven't been alive long enough to afford each and every one of them a four day investment.
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I can't help but think this is a joke.

While some people on these Forums may like to lol and rofl their way through many a post, I've seen too much heartache and pain on these Forums to follow suit. I'm not saying that I don't make jokes or post lighthearted comments, but when people post that their going to kill themselves, or that the pain of living is to great, that they're genuinely suffering under the weight of their disability. When these things are commonplace, I tend to post from the heart and keep joking to bare minimum.
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First, that's disturbing. Second, for what? That sounds sociopathic.

Seriously? You're going to call my lifestyle disturbing and sociopathic, but not even give a reason why. Troll much?


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01 Feb 2016, 8:03 pm

idealist, I want to know HOW. Even if just once I wanna try this lol


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01 Feb 2016, 8:06 pm

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idealist, I want to know HOW. Even if just once I wanna try this lol

How? Try what? :|


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