For those of you who are virgins

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26 Jan 2016, 8:27 am

It's what i've been thinking and trying to say all along.

I honestly think it's just his sense of humor.

His personality is very aggressive, yes, but I find him to be ironic, tongue-in-cheek, and his posts have a certain satirical sarcasm in them that I can only laugh at.

His misogynistic, self-depreciating attitude feels like a parody to me. He's doing it for fun.

"I'm back from the dead bros!" XD I can't take most of his posts serious because irregardless of how aggressive he is, he's ludicrously satirical.



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26 Jan 2016, 9:32 am

What age? I'm not sure. I'll need to take a look into my crystal ball again. Last time I asked it about that all I got was some kind of demonic giggle out of it. Not sure if that's a good sign?



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26 Jan 2016, 11:23 am

Honestly, I don't see any point in playing guessing games. I don't have any evidence to suggest it's any more likely to happen this year, next year or the year after than it was to happen in previous years, so why guess?



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26 Jan 2016, 12:36 pm

I don't know. It happens when it happens.



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26 Jan 2016, 1:09 pm

Honestly i think i will be a virgin until the day i die of old age (unless something grabs me by my life line and ends me off sooner).
I don't really care all that much about this aspect of life, experiencing the sexual part, i can see how it probably is a nice experience to share with someone you love/ grow a bond with (whatever that is varying from person to person), but i don't really see it as a big let down if i never get to experience it.
What i am afraid of though, is living a whole life, never having been in a relationship. I do think that i might be destined to this faith though, as i don't think i'm relationship material to be honest, so i think i should at least try to focus on other things whilst alive, find a way to feel happy about life, whether i end up alone or not.



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26 Jan 2016, 1:48 pm

It's as obvious as anything can be that I'll never lose it, no matter what I do, unless, of course, you count being ass-raped as losing my virginity.


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26 Jan 2016, 2:36 pm

Outrider wrote:
Agreed. Feyokien doesn't even seem like he has Aspergers, that or he rarely speaks of his actual difficulties with it.

Really intelligent, and I assume hardworking/focused/determined guy. Both of you are and I said something positive in another thread that I think got buried...

EDIT: viewtopic.php?t=304083


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I just don't speak of my direct issues with it often, I do have a formal diagnosis. Really high functioning in most aspects would be my description, more so now than I used to be. You flatter me too much though. I have not seen that thread yet.

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I don't have "no experience". I dated some. Had a couple of girls obsessed with me at one point or another. I tried tinder, it's worthless right now. I'm in my hometown of 80,000 people in Iowa. Not a lot of prospects, either too young or small town country girls who I'm not interested in. I'll see how it goes when I get back to the university I was attending. 15,000 people, all around my age. Starting a new program in the fall, new people to meet department wise as well. I know what I'm looking for in another person.


If you have your s**t together as much as you seem, I'd be surprised if it doesn't happen.


Lol me having my s**t together, that's funny. I'm just trying to dig myself out of a very deep hole I've put myself in. It's a very big IF on college in the fall btw. I'm not there now because I got academically dismissed. Taking some community college classes to try to get myself some good cred again so I can get back into the University I was going to. Now I just have to get a grip and hold it for more than 6 months this time.



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26 Jan 2016, 3:14 pm

Feyokien wrote:
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I'm going to say when i'm 22. But hopefully it's this year. I definitely don't wanna be a virgin past 22 then that's weird.


It's not that weird. After 25 it might become stigmatizing though and that's if you're wearing it on your sleeve. I figure if I reach 27 and am still alone, then I'll just dedicate my life to peace corp work or something else that might be considered dangerous to ones health. At that point I'll just stop caring about living a long and sedentary lifestyle.


I turn 28 next month :(


Sly you're fine. Don't wear your virginity on your sleeve...I slightly recall someone maybe it was Kraft that said you're not actually still a virgin. You'll find someone if you keep looking. I've got some weird life plans.

Depends I've seen a few people say your still a virgin til you've done it w bunch of times and gain experience.and women can tell.

I don't really count the sort of one time.

As for carrying it in my sleeve. I'm not Capable of lying, so when they ask have you had past sexual relationships or gfs I have to say no.

Why am I fine but if you're in my boat , you'll going go off and die somewhere 0.o



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26 Jan 2016, 3:17 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Sly is not a virgin.


Having less the. 5 sexual partners,or
Having had sex less then 10 or more times or however long it takes to become good, or
Lacking past relationships is considered just as bad as being a virgin.
So I'd rather tell people I am the. Have to explain the event and that I'm not sure I actually had sex.
Sure they'd only make fun of me or relate it to hiring s hooker or something :(
I already feel used and wish it'd never happen.



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26 Jan 2016, 3:21 pm

Does it really matter when you will loose it? "Virgin" is just a label, designed to shame those who have not taken place in the act of sex.


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26 Jan 2016, 3:23 pm

sly279 wrote:
Feyokien wrote:
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I'm going to say when i'm 22. But hopefully it's this year. I definitely don't wanna be a virgin past 22 then that's weird.


It's not that weird. After 25 it might become stigmatizing though and that's if you're wearing it on your sleeve. I figure if I reach 27 and am still alone, then I'll just dedicate my life to peace corp work or something else that might be considered dangerous to ones health. At that point I'll just stop caring about living a long and sedentary lifestyle.


I turn 28 next month :(


Sly you're fine. Don't wear your virginity on your sleeve...I slightly recall someone maybe it was Kraft that said you're not actually still a virgin. You'll find someone if you keep looking. I've got some weird life plans.

Depends I've seen a few people say your still a virgin til you've done it w bunch of times and gain experience.and women can tell.

I don't really count the sort of one time.

As for carrying it in my sleeve. I'm not Capable of lying, so when they ask have you had past sexual relationships or gfs I have to say no.

Why am I fine but if you're in my boat , you'll going go off and die somewhere 0.o


Because we want different things out of life. I don't know what I want, and I'm only speculating what frame of mind I might actually be in by 27. I never said lie, do people really ask that often about virginity?



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26 Jan 2016, 3:32 pm

It's not just a label; it's the fact that you've never done it. And, for this fact to persist over time, you need to keep not doing it. The problem is that some of us who have never done it, if not most, do want to do it, so we don't exactly look forward to keeping our virginity forever.


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26 Jan 2016, 3:43 pm

Spiderpig wrote:
It's not just a label; it's the fact that you've never done it. And, for this fact to persist over time, you need to keep not doing it. The problem is that some of us who have never done it, if not most, do want to do it, so we don't exactly look forward to keeping our virginity forever.


It is just a label, and a meaningless label at that. There is no shame in "never having done it". Nor is there pride to be had in "doing it".


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26 Jan 2016, 3:48 pm

Feyokien wrote:
do people really ask that often about virginity?


That's a funny question. I think, last time I was asked that, I was still too young for the possibility that I wasn't a virgin to be taken seriously. I think I wasn't even sure what "being a virgin" meant (if I recall correctly, I doubted whether you needed a hymen to be a virgin).

Now, as an adult, there are two very convincing reasons to explain why I'm not asked that question:

1) Few people talk much to me.
2) Those who do, either have known me since I was a little boy, and therefore are perfectly aware I've never had a chance to lose my virginity, or could tell I'm a virgin---among many other things---from a mile away as soon as they first saw me.


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26 Jan 2016, 4:08 pm

I want to buy a crystal ball to find out if that guy is interested in me & want to get to know me.


It's hard to say when I will lose it, I don't even have a boyfriend.



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26 Jan 2016, 4:34 pm

When I'm out and about on my own in a place no-one knows I have a wife or kids, I don't doubt I'd come across as a virgin.

That said, I very much doubt anyone other than virgins (and possibly the recently first-time laid) go around dividing the world up into 'virgin' and 'not virgin'.

Most people are too busy worrying about what other people thinks of them to think about other people, and when they do it's in terms that matter to them. The characteristics we search for in others are the ones we are concerned about in ourselves.

Feyokien wrote:
Lol me having my s**t together, that's funny. I'm just trying to dig myself out of a very deep hole I've put myself in. It's a very big IF on college in the fall btw. I'm not there now because I got academically dismissed. Taking some community college classes to try to get myself some good cred again so I can get back into the University I was going to. Now I just have to get a grip and hold it for more than 6 months this time


To someone who has spent much of their adolescent and post-adolescent life not having their s**t together, that's some remarkabley together s**t. Good going, and good luck!


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