Being very attrattive ad an aspie is stressing

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Dillogic:

Yes sometimes I do question if I misread females but other times it doen't seem this way. Once walked to mcdonald's a mess, was tired and walked fast/in a hurry looking. Once I'm actually in the shops, girl my age with her family kept looking at me and I exchanged eye contact back a bit. Maybe she was actually thought I looked very creepy and for this reason was staring, maybe was actually checking me out. I don't know but I know she kept looking at me and no, I was not the one who started looking first. It actually kind of threw me off when I realized she kept looking at me.

Happened another time as well. Sitting a few tables across, perhaps she thought I was looking/staring at her when I wasn't trying to. I was looking in a variety of directions and may have accidentally glanced here and there but then stopped. But with the corner of my eye I could actually see she was outright staring at me. Again, maybe she was trying to catch me looking at her because she thought I was when I didn't mean to, maybe she thought she was 'doing it back' just to make me uncomfortable on purpose, or maybe she was also checking me out (again, I was shirtless as even if I was dry I was swimming just a few hours ago and had that 'rugged' swimmer's look aka scruffy chlorine hair, slightly wet look, etc.)

Another time, went to get the mail, was shirtless, wearing messy boardshorts and my mother's old sandals. Actually got catcalled by some passing females my age. They were clearly catcalling me.

And it's not really simple. Maybe it's just my age (I am judged/stereotyped for being a teen aka suspicious, untrustworthy, troublemaker, etc.) and most teens usually go around in pairs or groups, I do things solo which only intensifies my suspicious appearance. How I dress, how I walk and facial expression make no difference - I still get funny looks, glares, etc. I can dress like my profile picture, walk tall and confident with chest slightly out and head up (without strutting or looking overly confident) and have a light, calm smile. Or I can dress messy, laidback, and walk fast and pissed-off. I still get looked at by adults like I'm going to rob someone regardless. In this case it's not about misinterpretation - people who look exactly at you and look angry (and I don't mean neutral, I mean aggressive) must be mad at you. I guess I do attract slightly less trouble from adults when I dress like my profile picture, but I'm more likely to be mocked/laughed at by teens my age or (immature) young adult males.

I'm not dismissing what you say, just trying to point out I just have no idea anymore...

Its not that great really. I plowed into a group of women on the ski slope once when I was first learning. I went into slide to protect myself and took three out at the ankles.

I agree with Dillogic, don't go out into public often if it bothers you so much that women glance at you a lot and stuff. Or you know, get over it and just live your life. Make yourself physically unappealing if you really have to if you don't have the mental fortitude to get a grip.

Brah i'm so attractive, I have women yelling and screaming for me and following me around everywhere. And i'm not even famous either.

I'm a God among men bro.














haha jk, i'm pretty ugly.

this is obviously a picture of OP

Interesting.

Looks mean so much to humans.

Still though, this is a common women's issue that they bring up all the time - that they're cat-called, outright harassed, etc. and don't like it.

They usually 'deal with it' as well because they have to but it's still an issue Feminism likes to talk about.

So, there are males who deal with the same thing. If men should be silenced about it, perhaps women should as well?

Women version: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b1XGPvbWn0A

Male version: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=75aX9mlipiY

I agree though people just need to deal with it and toughen up. Tell that to both the man and woman in each video.

And making yourself physically unappealing isn't the answer either because in the small chance you actually meet someone you ARE attracted to mutually, you've got to make a good first impression, especially looks-wise.

I've never had a woman cat-call me.

I've never had a group of woman cat-call me.

Truthfully, I really wouldn't mind it if woman liked me like that.

But I can understand why women don't like to be cat-called, etc. It could, definitely, be threatening.

One time, at work, this cleaning woman grabbed my butt. That was a funny experience.

Nothing happened afterwards, by the way.

Which one was your reaction? Choose one emoticon plz.

A little bit of , a little bit of , a teensy tiny bit of

Over all, a bit confused, but not really unhappy.

Sorry...one emoticon!

Probably mostly

Indeed. Even in the mentioned videos, you have guys following the woman, not leaving her alone - which is not uncommon. Add in the fact that by default most men are stronger than women and it is the difference between wearing headphones to block out the verbally annoying and keeping mace in your hand to protect yourself from a physical attack.

Accept the lolz & run with them...

I'm no Adonis but I've figured out that a lot of women find me attractive. When dealing with unwanted attention, I usually ignore it. If a woman is flirting with me, I don't flirt back unless I am interested in her. If the woman is particularly aggressive and I am not interested, there is always the polite speech, "I think you're a nice person but I don't like you that way" or something like that. Some times when I have been harassed, I simply cut off contact with the person. This is the most hurtful way to deal with it but sometimes it is necessary. Some people don't respect boundaries and won't leave you alone unless you take drastic action.

ti riesco a capire frate' . anche io sono italiano e ho una forma lieve di autismo. sono considerato dalla maggior parte delle ragazze molto attraente e pensa che vivo in danimarca (le ragazze so topeeee ahah). la cosa brutta é essere un ragazzo attraente e non poter usare la fortuna di essere bello a niente perché non tieni skill sociali!

Get yourself some acne and your attractiveness will plummet.