Where to find independent or low dependency types like this?

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And from me thank you. I searched it too!

I think the issue of finding such a mate is similar to how to find other asexual people. The tactic is to check them for persistence over longer time-frames, and then additionally make the contact less frequent than usual. That should do the trick.

I see no similarity between this and friends with benefits, as I'm sure these people desire a strong connection and not sex without commitment.

I also think this might work very well with polyamory. After all, if you are in a polyamory relationship, you are not expected to spend all your time with the same partner, rather you have an option of getting additional partners. Or you might just desire more time alone, which is kind of similar.

Also, if you are polyamory, but in a regular relationship, you could seek an additional partner with low dependency requirements.

^ agreed

Dating sites are like porn, there's one for every type.

I don't really relate to that, typically when I have been single it wasn't because I was enjoying all the 'independence' that comes with being single. Those tend to be lonely times granted some 'relationships' I've attempted proved to be just as lonely but in a different way like me being into what I thought was a serious relationship only to find out its not really mutual but that they don't regret at least getting some sex out of it.

I certainly don't like the thought of being completely dependent on someone else, or having someone else completely dependent on me, I prefer somewhere in the middle. Basically my current relationship seems to be a good balance me and my boyfriend can function apart, and we aren't miserable anytime we're not together, but we still have feelings of caring deeply for each other and needing each other. I wouldn't say there is any lack of 'personal freedom' both of us know we can't boss the other person around, or control each others lives in any way that violates that.

But yeah there is some level of dependence, not sure how I'd deal with it if he broke it off with me or how he'd deal with it if I broke it off with him like not sure either one of us would cope with that scenario too well. I guess that can be the potentially scary part of a bit more dependence rather than say complete independence where perhaps a break up wouldn't be as devastating. Luckily though neither one of us are interested in going our separate ways any time soon.

this is me. i think that i don't feel romance in relationships in the same way as most people, which in no way means i don't understand intimacy. i have found intimate but not dependent relationships through my interest in kink because the community in general is really open to atypical relationships. i realize this is something which doesn't interest a lot of people but i figured it was worth a mention. happy hunting!

Thanks, I'm interested in it but more in how it manifests. It doesn't do anything for me, but you are right they are more welcoming of atypical relationships.

I am afraid you are seeking for a needle in a haystack, ducky.