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10 Apr 2016, 4:57 pm

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I'm not great at this, but honestly I think she is interested, is trying to suss out if you're interested, and if you like her you should try asking her out.

Or you could ask her if she has a boyfriend. If she says she does, either she really does, or she's telling you she does because you misread her interested and she doesn't want you to ask her out.

But I do think she's trying to get your attention and is waiting for you to take the plunge.

So you think that after the lesson i should just ask her: "Do you have a boyfriend?" then what?

Just coffee - for now.

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10 Apr 2016, 5:04 pm

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Can't you setup to meet her at some other place after the lessons are done? That seems to be your primary priority right now.

Sure i probably could, i just wonder how i whould suggest it and where i would meet her if she says yes.

That will be up to you to figure out. :wink:

Also, don't limit yourself to discussing a place verbally. Sometimes it's possible to setup these things without talking, especially if you are at the same school.

It's not a school, the classes are held in a kulturehouse. Probably in conjuction with the school system but not a part of regular school. It is a an open acting class for anyone of any age.

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10 Apr 2016, 5:44 pm

Molin wrote:

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Can't you setup to meet her at some other place after the lessons are done? That seems to be your primary priority right now.

Sure i probably could, i just wonder how i whould suggest it and where i would meet her if she says yes.

That will be up to you to figure out. :wink:

Also, don't limit yourself to discussing a place verbally. Sometimes it's possible to setup these things without talking, especially if you are at the same school.

It's not a school, the classes are held in a kulturehouse. Probably in conjuction with the school system but not a part of regular school. It is a an open acting class for anyone of any age.

Ok, but isn't there follow-ups or other classes that naturally follows where you both can continue? If not, your only option is to ask for some information about her so you can keep the contact. One possibility is to ask for some online information, like email or Facebook. If there are lists of participants, you might even be able to figure that out without asking her too, but asking her would be best.

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10 Apr 2016, 6:19 pm

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You're thinking too much and taking too long, if you don't make some sort of move soon she will lose interest.

I'll just disagree with that. That's not likely to happen here.

From what I've read they've had three flirtatious encounters, that's about the time some type of direct interest should be shown on the male's part. The infamous "friend zone" tends to crop up right around the same time.
A lot of females will move on if nothing develops fairly quickly, they're on a biological timer-- speed is a concern for them. They're also programmed to have males chase them, not the other way around, thus if he doesn't make a move at some point chances are she won't either.

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11 Apr 2016, 2:11 am

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Just one problem here. This doesn't appear to be a typical female. She reminds me more of the NDs I've flirted long-term with. They will not move on quickly. But I could of course be wrong, since I've not observed them IRL. If she does move on, she is likely NT, and then it probably won't go well anyway.

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11 Apr 2016, 3:31 am

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I can tell it's suppose to be funny. Are you telling me that it's obvious that she's into me?

No it is not obvious, there are several explanations why she may had came closer to you (maybe she really just wanted to ask you about the pages?), and smiling and stuff is something a friendly person would do with anyone.

None of the signs you described are obvious signs of sexual/romantic interest.

My point is that you really can't tell.

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11 Apr 2016, 3:50 am

people are just so @#$% mysterious! :huh:

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11 Apr 2016, 5:54 am

auntblabby wrote:

people are just so @#$% mysterious! :huh:

Mystery is so exciting. Without mystery, why bother? :lol:

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11 Apr 2016, 6:02 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

To say "you really can't tell" is not useful. As an Aspie, I want to know the probability that she is interested or the probability that something she did was not by chance. Then I let all these happenings add-up to get a total probability score that she is into me. If this score is better than by chance, then I assume she is interested and no longer ask the question "is she into me?". If the score is too low, I continue the game and try to make her reciprocate more or do new things that are not by chance so I can make a decision.

Black-and-white thinking has no place here because there is never a 100% chance it is interest no matter what happens.

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11 Apr 2016, 3:14 pm

rdos wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

people are just so @#$% mysterious! :huh:

Mystery is so exciting. Without mystery, why bother? :lol:

because hidden motives are dangerous. there be dragons, beware.

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11 Apr 2016, 3:36 pm

auntblabby wrote:

rdos wrote:

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people are just so @#$% mysterious! :huh:

Mystery is so exciting. Without mystery, why bother? :lol:

because hidden motives are dangerous. there be dragons, beware.

But mystery is not about hidden motives. Mystery is all about not knowing much about somebody, and not having an easy way to figure it out (like making a conversation and ask). Obsessing about somebody requires mystery, because you won't obsess about somebody you know fairly well.

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11 Apr 2016, 3:48 pm

IMHO obsession is one of the lairs in which dragons hide, waiting to pounce.

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12 Apr 2016, 2:17 am

auntblabby wrote:

IMHO obsession is one of the lairs in which dragons hide, waiting to pounce.

I'm fairly comfortable with it. It's one of the best things in life, so I wouldn't want to be without it, and it never really went wrong for me. It's like a strong special interest, and I wouldn't want to be without those either.

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12 Apr 2016, 2:24 am

^^^you're a brave man :wtg:

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12 Apr 2016, 6:34 pm

Molin wrote:

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So you think that after the lesson i should just ask her: "Do you have a boyfriend?" then what?

Ask her if she wants to go someplace with you. To get a coffee, if you want to start easy

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13 Apr 2016, 5:49 am

It is difficult to figure out. Let her confirm first other wise ask directly..
It will give you solution.

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