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15 Apr 2016, 5:17 pm

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15 Apr 2016, 5:23 pm

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It sounds like a possible scam. However one idea you might try is setting the location options to where it just shows you matches that are close enough to meet in person. I really never bothered with anyone that was too far away to meet in person without making a point to travel. For one I have to meet in person early on to decide if I want to pursue a relationship...also though I feel it cuts down on potential scams, since if I require meeting before pursuing things further...then I don't look like someone who will fall for someone 'online' and be willing to send money or something without ever requiring to see them in person.

Does this guy have a profile picture?....Is the whole profile filled out or is it mostly blank?


He has 3 profile pictures & he filled out his profile, I'm not talking to him anymore.



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15 Apr 2016, 5:46 pm

My neighbour actually fell for this scam. She's a welfare single mom. She sold her car to get the money to prove to his officer that *she* was in good faith and sent it by International Money Order filled out by her bank with her there and this "officer" on the phone, identifying himself as Captain Somebody of the Whatever Military. There was nothing the bank could do if she was determined to send and she was. The soldier in question was supposed to arrive the next evening at the International Airport and, to my astonishment, he did! They talked a long time outside but he didn't come in. I didn't intrude; it was too late. Towards dusk I saw another neighbour walking her, sobbing, to our elevators with his arm around her kind of protectively.

I forgot to say: when he got off the plane he would have her $2000 (from selling the car) in cash to give back to her. He would marry her immediately the same day (military law would enable this, she said) and she would become half-owner of his $2,000,000.00, which he had saved from all his years in the military, where they pay your room and board and he just banked his pay. He had "married the army" as they say, was retiring and wanted to share his life.

She absolutely believed all of this, I sat with her and listened and there was nothing I could do - the car was sold, the money was sent to Nigeria and she believed that by noon the next day she would be a millionaire.

I beg of you! Disconnect from this scam!



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15 Apr 2016, 8:30 pm

I ended things with him when he asked for money. My aunt did fell for a scams.

Maybe I should become FWB with a guy.



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15 Apr 2016, 8:41 pm

I'm so glad you didn't fall for that!

I don't recommend going the "friends with benefits" route.

It's good for a guy, not so good for a girl. Guys tend not to be sensitive to ladies in these sorts of situations. They might not abuse the girl--but they, frequently, they don't sufficiently romance the girl.



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15 Apr 2016, 11:49 pm

Hugs kitty4670



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16 Apr 2016, 12:32 am

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I met a man this morning, he message me, I been talking to him all day, he told me he works for the USA Army, he has deployment to Western Africa in Nigeria.

I been on alot of dating sites in the past, they had warnings on scams, I copy & paste it, so I would remember it.

Do all people in USA Army that works in Nigeria, are they bad people? Please tell me he is not bad?


Anytime I hear Nigeria, Senegal, or the likes over the internet I get suspicious FAST.

especially when their English sounds like "Dear sir or madam, I don't wish to bother you but..." just sounds off.

I have nothing against people from those countries, in fact I know a few but I would interact with them in person and not based on some online stuff.

Furthermore I do not know of any US military involvement in Nigeria so that's another alarm bell. Iraq or Afghanistan would be more believable but even then I'd have a personal conversation with the person via skype to make sure.



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16 Apr 2016, 1:26 am

I couldn't do the FWB route either, despite my high sex drive. I've done it before, but I get too emotionally attached to people.


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16 Apr 2016, 1:37 am

Kitty, I hope you'll take the time to congratulate yourself on double-checking this scam. You were probably under a lot of pressure to tell nobody but you are a strong and sensible person to come and ask all your friends. You really deserve a good pat on the back for doing the right thing in a situation that must felt sticky and unclear. Maybe this is a wobbly time for you; take a big breath and relax and know that you are better than FWB. Blessings and sleep well.



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My neighbour actually fell for this scam. She's a welfare single mom. She sold her car to get the money to prove to his officer that *she* was in good faith and sent it by International Money Order filled out by her bank with her there and this "officer" on the phone, identifying himself as Captain Somebody of the Whatever Military. There was nothing the bank could do if she was determined to send and she was. The soldier in question was supposed to arrive the next evening at the International Airport and, to my astonishment, he did! They talked a long time outside but he didn't come in. I didn't intrude; it was too late. Towards dusk I saw another neighbour walking her, sobbing, to our elevators with his arm around her kind of protectively.

I forgot to say: when he got off the plane he would have her $2000 (from selling the car) in cash to give back to her. He would marry her immediately the same day (military law would enable this, she said) and she would become half-owner of his $2,000,000.00, which he had saved from all his years in the military, where they pay your room and board and he just banked his pay. He had "married the army" as they say, was retiring and wanted to share his life.

She absolutely believed all of this, I sat with her and listened and there was nothing I could do - the car was sold, the money was sent to Nigeria and she believed that by noon the next day she would be a millionaire.

I beg of you! Disconnect from this scam!


It is all due to greed for money, from both sides.

I never believed that such naive people exist, but I turnd out to be wrong.



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16 Apr 2016, 4:55 am

There's nothing wrong in going FWB.

It's better than solely masturbation.



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16 Apr 2016, 7:25 am

FWB is an empty dead-end most of the time.



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16 Apr 2016, 8:20 am

^ Being sexless forever is not less empty dead-end.



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16 Apr 2016, 4:01 pm

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Kitty, I hope you'll take the time to congratulate yourself on double-checking this scam. You were probably under a lot of pressure to tell nobody but you are a strong and sensible person to come and ask all your friends. You really deserve a good pat on the back for doing the right thing in a situation that must felt sticky and unclear. Maybe this is a wobbly time for you; take a big breath and relax and know that you are better than FWB. Blessings and sleep well.


I been on dating sites before & read articles about scams, I even copy & paste it so I could remember it. I really liked talking to him. Sorry your neighbor fell for it.



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16 Apr 2016, 5:17 pm

Being ruined financially and relationally is even worse than not getting sex.



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22 Apr 2016, 7:26 am

Just don't give people money. And don't reveal personal information like your last name and address.