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The_Face_of_Boo
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20 Apr 2016, 7:47 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Ahh that's a so typical behavior I have seen from overseas single moms (or foreigners who work here) on dating sites, the ones who suddenly become in note* so 'crazily' attracted to me and even in love with me, I got those too..... I wasn't aware that there are single dads who do exactly the same thing.

Block' em.....block' em all.

* in no time.

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20 Apr 2016, 6:29 pm

I don't know if this guy is lying or Really Think I'm the one (that is very sweet) I asked him about his self, he ignored my question.

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20 Apr 2016, 6:30 pm

He ignored you?

A weird reaction from a guy who thinks you are "the one."

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21 Apr 2016, 3:52 am

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Maybe he's not "lying." Maybe he has feelings of lust at the moment when he speaks to you.

Lust sometimes translate into feelings of momentary love, which includes wanting to marry the person so "loved."

Or maybe he just wants that green card. Who knows?

I wouldn't exactly trust an expression of "love" after "knowing" somebody online for a few minutes or hours.

Pick the guys who enjoy talking about their families or their hobbies without expressing any sort of lust for you.

He never told me he love me

he told me he cares & adores me. Maybe it is lust, I know I'm lusting after him & we do have things in common, like he paints & write poems.

He may ignored my question earlier, but he did answer my question later.

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21 Apr 2016, 7:09 am

It's beautiful to have those sorts of feelings.

But always be careful.

Has he shown you any of his poems?

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21 Apr 2016, 5:38 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

It's beautiful to have those sorts of feelings.

But always be careful.

Has he shown you any of his poems?

I'm very happy! We email each other & texts. I know what he do for work, I know his daughter name & how old is she. And he send some poems to me, I think he wrote them for me.

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21 Apr 2016, 5:45 pm

Kitty4670 wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

It's beautiful to have those sorts of feelings.

But always be careful.

Has he shown you any of his poems?

I'm very happy! We email each other & texts. I know what he do for work, I know his daughter name & how old is she. And he send some poems to me, I think he wrote them for me.

Well, the guy sounds like a "player" to me...but I haven't met him and seen him operate so I can't really make that call based off of second hand evidence. That being said you've already voiced some concerns, so I'd pay real close attention to make sure his actions match his words. If they match he's probably genuine, if they don't he merely a "player" with a smooth delivery.

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21 Apr 2016, 7:18 pm

I would not invest my whole heart in him.

I would get to know the guy gradually.

Your enthusiasm is contagious--but, in this state, you could really become hurt. And you're a sensitive person, so the hurt will affect you greatly.

On at least your first few dates, you should not meet in your homes; you should meet in a restaurant or movie house. And you should not let him know where you live for a good while.

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21 Apr 2016, 7:18 pm

Aristophanes wrote:

That being said you've already voiced some concerns, so I'd pay real close attention to make sure his actions match his words. If they match he's probably genuine, if they don't he merely a "player" with a smooth delivery.

What do you mean actions match his words? I was being scared, cuz a guy been talking to me for 5 days & seems really interested in me, & said I'm the woman for him. And I was also scared, cuz my last relationship was over 20 years ago.

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21 Apr 2016, 7:24 pm

Kitty4670 wrote:

Aristophanes wrote:

Well if he goes on and on about how beautiful you are and you're the one, yada yada, and then he can't bother to return a call, or show up when he says he will, then you know that the actions aren't matching the words he's giving you.

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21 Apr 2016, 7:48 pm

Aristophanes wrote:

Kitty4670 wrote:

Aristophanes wrote:

He never told me I'm beautiful & he told me I'm the one once & we haven't called each other yet or dated. We been texting ALOT & when he said he have to go to work, he always kept his promise about talking to me later, he even told me he will be there for me. But I found it weird, he don't want to know about how disabled I am & about my aspergers & psoriasis, he told me he don't care what I have, he wants me.

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21 Apr 2016, 7:51 pm

I would really hold off on seeing this guy as a potential lover until you actually meet him in person.

And, I reiterate......please meet at a restaurant rather than each other's homes.

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21 Apr 2016, 7:56 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

I would really hold off on seeing this guy as a potential lover until you actually meet him in person.

And, I reiterate......please meet at a restaurant rather than each other's homes.

+1

Also, Kitty, I know you're anxious and excited, but realize you also need to be thinking safety first until you've actually met said guy.

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21 Apr 2016, 8:10 pm

And keep us informed about what's going on.

And don't give out your address, or even the name of your neighborhood.

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22 Apr 2016, 1:53 am

I know about meeting a guy at a coffee place or a restaurant.

Thanks guys.

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23 Apr 2016, 11:16 am

It's over with that guy (I think it's over, haven't heard from him in 2 days) I really think something was wrong, he told me he love me.

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