Advice on boyfriends best friend

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They can all still get along. It's something your bf and his friend will have to discuss in private, and it's obviously quite awkward for you so it would make no sense airing it all out in front of the other people.

Without wanting to be patronising, I see it a lot that younger people put "being liked" by peers and wanting peers to get along above doing the right thing. I'm going to put my personal disdain for that aside and suggest that you let your bf and his friend sort it out between themselves, and at least distance yourself from the friend. If he's as nice as you say, he won't object and he won't go telling people about it either in your social circle, so everyone can still get along with each other.

It's the friend who messed the things up with him, not you.

You can't fix this, Alliekit. This guy caused this situation, he is responsible for it. You can't control the world and make everyone happy.

Ask any guy you know what they think of a guy who did something like this. I think the guys on this forum are a little bit too much on the understanding side. Ask an NT.

If your bf resents your presence because of this he is not relationship material. That means he will always be dominated by his friend. I know I am harsh but a woman cannot live like that. What happens next?

Listen to Boo, he's got good instincts about these things.

Exactly. If he's worth his salt he will take your side on this. I'd gladly take my girlfriends side in this type of situation, I wouldn't want to be friends with a scumbag no matter how long I'd known them.

*nods* My friend did this to my ex once at a house party round my place, and the guy was never allowed to my parties ever again and I certainly don't call him a friend to this day. He felt he was hard done by but the reality was he is responsible for his own life and actions.

I would never put "being liked" and everyone getting along above the needs of my gf, or my own person liberties and rights. But *shrugs* apparently that's what you're supposed to do if you want to be cool

I feel the guy messed up...and should not be inspired to mess up again.

He's probably a nice guy who had a little too much to drink.

I wouldn't do anything else. Just let the thing run its course.

People make mistakes, and they pay for mistakes.

I hope the friendship survives what happened. I don't like to see friendships broken.

I'm sorry you had to be put in the middle of this. It's not fair to you.

Just let the guys iron the situation out. Don't YOU worry about it.

You have no reason to feel guilty.

Understanding of her or the guy? I don't understand the guy. But I'd never sexually touch a woman who's not. Y gf and even then not without asking her.

Drinking seems to bring out the real you though. My ex friend was very manly and never cried. But when he drank he'd get very buggy and cry. I don't trust people who get drunk.