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06 May 2016, 3:44 pm

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Called her last night and she didn't seem to realize it had happened and I didn't mention it. Crysis averted. The only problem now is that I don't like talking on the phone and she can't skype, and we live an hour away from each other so we can't meet up that often. But, oh well. We'll solve it all eventually.


Oh well. At least she knows that you like her. I guess that she likes you too, that's why you can still talk to each other.

Have you tried texting her or using e-mail? Some people don't like this method because they feel it's too impersonal but I guess you could try.



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06 May 2016, 4:10 pm

Drone232 wrote:
Called her last night and she didn't seem to realize it had happened and I didn't mention it. Crysis averted. The only problem now is that I don't like talking on the phone and she can't skype, and we live an hour away from each other so we can't meet up that often. But, oh well. We'll solve it all eventually.


Yaaaaaaay! Good luck. My bf and I live 3 hours away so don't be discouraged.

Also this is such a cute story hehehe



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08 May 2016, 5:29 pm

I enjoy reading this thread, such a sweet story!



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08 May 2016, 7:24 pm

It's not pwrking out, unfortunately. I have discovered, through conversation, that we share nothing in common. She dislikes pets, gardening, and reading and I like all of those things. She is also only nominally Baptist whereas I am devoutly Catholic. I hoped that we could still be friends, but she has stopped responding to my messages and so I think we are done. I wish our end was more conclusive since I would have wanted to say goodbye first. This is the second person I have tried dating and I haven't even met her in person. I am learning quickly that dating is difficult. :(
But as long as I keep trying, eventually something good will happen. Persevearence breeds success.


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08 May 2016, 7:34 pm

Sorry it didn't work out for you. At least it seemed you were able to click well with her albeit for shared interests.


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09 May 2016, 6:52 am

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Drone232 wrote:
It's not pwrking out, unfortunately. I have discovered, through conversation, that we share nothing in common. She dislikes pets, gardening, and reading and I like all of those things. She is also only nominally Baptist whereas I am devoutly Catholic. I hoped that we could still be friends, but she has stopped responding to my messages and so I think we are done. I wish our end was more conclusive since I would have wanted to say goodbye first. This is the second person I have tried dating and I haven't even met her in person. I am learning quickly that dating is difficult. :(
But as long as I keep trying, eventually something good will happen. Persevearence breeds success.


It is difficult you have to talk to alot of people before finding the person that matches you. I spent a year and a half on dating sites before I met my current bf



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12 May 2016, 7:52 am

Oh boy.....looks like you want the endorphin high of a love relationship without finding things to love and admire about the real person. You can't use people like a drug. I did this throughout my youth - I'm way past 50 now and have known better for the last 35 years. After being used by sociopaths and being actually "still in love" with them, a psychiatrist asked me a very powerful question,"What's to love about these individuals?" I had no answer. My only answers were what I did for them and how loving I was to them. It was NEVER returned. When I became no further use to them or they found a better and bigger "treasure trove", they coldly dumped me and I ended up therapy. If this individual doesn't call you back, consider a safe and good thing. A sociopath will see your need to love without reciprocity right away and clean you out. So beware. If your brother cares, he should help and protect you from bad people instead of making fun of you. What you did is evidence of a social disability. I mean if your brother saw a parapelegic fall out of their wheel chair, would he blame them and laugh?? He'd help them up, wouldn't he?? You're going to need help in order to protect yourself emotionally, physically, and financially. Please take my post VERY seriously.