How to tell if teen boys are interested in you?

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Guys like that(confident, extroverted, and socially skilled) will make it pretty obvious when they are interested in you.
Usually they'll make a move and ask you out. Or at the very least they will take initiative and try to talk to you + hang around you often. And then there are guys who will catcall you or whistle at you(believe me, men do not do this to women we think are ugly). That is certainly very rude but it often happens to women. Another way you can tell that a guy likes you is if he often looks at you(including staring at your chest and your behind :p); particularly when you're looking off in another direction and then averts his gaze when you make eye contact with him(though some guys will keep staring at you regardless).

That's a big difference between men and women: Men are not only taught to make the first move, but we are usually far less subtle about our attraction to someone. Even a stranger.

So whoever these guys are that and wherever you're encountering them, I'm afraid they're just not that into you.

The only piece of advice I can give you is to dress sexy(short skirts and dresses and/or tight fighting clothes) as a way to get guys to notice you.






This is because it isn't really about confidence(an internal emotional state that is often visible externally through words, facial expressions, and body language), it's about social skill. Those "weird" kids lack the charisma of the so-called "extroverts" so when they take initiative they do it badly which is why they are ridiculed.

So if you lack social grace, acting confident generally doesn't help.

That may be.

I don't know if a guy in my school would ask me out because of my reputation. Nonetheless, I'm attracted to people I wouldn't date, so I would feel better if I knew I was attractive to boys who because of social reasons didn't ask me out.

I can but the social skills thing, I always thought I could sense tremulousness in the actions of socially awkward kids trying to be confident, but maybe not.

I do know an Aspie who makes lots of jokes that people laugh at. He wasn't well liked for a long time.

I'm clarifying that I realize my dating in high school is somewhat unlikely, but am curious to know if I am desirable to anyone nonetheless.

(My personality is not very provocative nowadays, I can make people laugh sometimes, I can interact, but I am often alone and isolated. I am nice, but I think one can tell that I lack confidence, which may admittedly make me look unattractive.)

I think the kinda guys you are into can be quite immature at your age . They often rely on the opinions of their friends, I certainly don't thing your looks are the issue.

Also social skills can be learned to a degree so maybe you could teach yourself.

My boyfriend is a very social and outgoing NT but I know he wouldnt have gone out with me when we were 17 because he wouldn't of understood the social awkwardness stuff.

It's great going out with someone confident and social. He helps me out when I'm nervous and speaks for me when I panic and can't speak. Also he talks on the phone for me (something I can't do)

I think people are assuming you like jock types but I get the feeling you just like a bit of confidence.

Also I thing guys gain more confidence as they get older

You have an attractive enough look that I would be willing to try and seduce you if I saw you in-person if that manages to (partially?) answer your question(s). The other thing you could try doing is a lot of meditation-practice each and every single day, for at least two hours worth of meditative-sessions over a period of six months minimum, such that you start to develop seemingly "psychic" levels of sensitivity that simply allow you to feel the mood/thoughts/intentions of others (sometimes even going so far as to seem like it may end up being something like telepathy).

Otherwise it will probably be very difficult to determine for your age-group and lack of experience since a lot of inexperienced youthful people have a lot of difficulty being honest with their feelings (for various reasons, such as embarassment, wanting to prevent any such knowledge from reaching any of their own family members due to a lack of trust in what their own family might do with such information, etc). Have some random flowers by the way.

Guys that age WILL try to date or even shag girls they find good looking. If the girl isn't popular or considered pretty they often do it in secret; but that only applies to the cool kids who are still concerned with preserving their social status and reputation. Teenage boys who aren't part of the in crowd care about looks and not much else TBH.

Beyond high school, men tend to select women initially based on appearance. You really don't need to have good social skills to attract men if you're female, you need to get men to notice you visually and then select the men you want.