Aspie marriages

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Yeah, same here.

Tim

Yeah, but not all non-aspies are normal.

And not all Aspies are non-normal. I am living proof.

Tim

I've never/read seen that story, I'm not married, and my partner and I, while both on the spectrum, are not at the same place on the spectrum.

That being said, I don't see why it absolutely could not work in any case. In individual cases, with individual people, it's quite possible that the traits would clash too strongly. However, I'm quite happy that my partner and I are both on the spectrum; there's no issue understanding withdrawing and being overwhelmed and things like that.

I'd pretty much say that

Criterion A. Severe and sustained impairment in social interaction
Criterion B. The development of restricted, repetitive patterns of
behaviour, interests, and activities
Criterion C. The disturbance must cause clinically significant impairment
in social, occupational, or other important areas of
functioning.

from the DSM rather distinguish
anyone with Asperger's from the
norm.

If you don't mind me asking, what traits got you diagnosed? You're clearly not as affected as some people here (hence the borderline), but something still got the doctor's attention. Was it a recent diagnosis, or one from a long time ago, and you've just improved your interaction skills?

Now that I have been diagnosed and exploring the issues, I am reasonably certain that my parents were autistic. Some of those things in Mozart and the Whale--that's what I grew up with. They weren't the highly-intelligent kind--they grew up at a time when people generally went to high school and that was it.

I was diagnosed in 1996 at age 16, but improved my interaction skills.

Tim

I don't mind the idea, just that it seems like a guy has to be stereotypical cuddly nerd to be likeable around here.

My husband is Aspie and I'm NT. But I am definantly not 'normal'!

My husband and I have been married for 12 years (together for 15 years). We are very happy. We went through a rough patch, but after I realised he had AS I knew how to relate to him.

I've also realised one of my good friends is Aspie. Our children get along really well!

Helen

am aspergers (undiagnosed) and my boyfriend has asd, we have been a couple for 11 months now, we have a really good relationship, but we argue to,because neither one of us can read emotions the other one never knows if there joking or been serious and we argue lol.
but theres ups to it because we understand each other a lot and ive been told aspies and normies sometimes dont work out because they dont understand each other. but no relationship works out if your not meant to be.

I am autistic and my husband is autistic, we met online and we got married in February. Both our families thought we would both be loners all our lives but it is not so. We are both very happy.