I found this on psychology today:
Signs your partner is controlling
Quote:
Criticism, like isolation, is also something that can start small. In fact, someone may try to convince themselves that their partner's criticism of them is warranted, or that their partner is just trying to help them be a better person. Or they may try to rationalize it that it's not such a big deal that he or she doesn't like the way they dress or speak or eat or decorate their house and that they shouldn't take it personally. But ultimately, no matter how individually small a criticism seems, if it's part of a constant dynamic within your relationship, it would be very tough to feel accepted, loved, or validated. If every little thing you do could use improvement in your partner's eyes, then how are you being valued as a true equal, let alone loved unconditionally?"
We can't tell you if he really is controlling. We don't know him well enough. Do some research into what constitutes a "controlling partner" and decide for yourself.
The way you've described it here rings alarm bells for me. The "agreed upon weight" for a start. He's not your personal trainer, he's your boyfriend. Seems a bit condescending to me.
I agree with Sweetleaf. Diet and exercise are a large factor in our health and well being.
Don't do this for your boyfriend, do it for yourself, but there are so so many fruits and vegetables out there and literally millions of ways to prepare and cook them. Have some fun with food. Experiment with new kinds and new ways of cooking. Don't force yourself to eat boring old broccoli if you don't like it, that will just reinforce in your mind that vegetables are yuck. Try something different.
Also, walking is a free and easy way to exercise. Our bodies are meant for moving. It makes us feel good. I don't know where you live. But there may be some lovely places near you that you can explore. You can exercise and enjoy it too. Don't do it with the focus of losing weight, that will make it feel like a chore, do it to enjoy it.
02 Jul 2016, 2:13 am
