Weird sexual orientation

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I think both men and women often get conflicted in terms of attraction. I think for many of us who don't mix logic and emotion, but rather can maintain logic even in strong emotions, it's easier to be attracted to "what you like". I think often why many women appear to like jerks, is because they either aren't really jerks and just come off that way to others, which is possible because I can be like that, or it's simply a physical only response to the way someone appears. For most people, male or female, confidence is attractive. Theoretically for some. But it is. The idea of someone knowing others want them physically makes people project a certain energy about them which is alluring.

I know I find a flirty, sensuous, confident woman to be very attractive. Theoretically. Of course I know that the ones that are like that will usually carry personality traits that I cannot tolerate. So, I then associate confidence with being a b***h basically. And that's a huge turn off for me even if the woman would have initially turned me on just based on how she looked and presented. So I rather have gravitated toward more shy, introverted types because they don't have that energy.

People with that "energy" to me dont appear to be very faithful in long term relationships.

I'm not sure what the name for my sexual orientation is.

I don't care that much about sex, like I have no interest in porn for example and I don't look at guys who I know nothing about and have a desire to have sex with them.

However, I experience a low level of sexual attraction to people I know a little about. I think if I was actually in a relationship with someone, I'd be interested in sex, but it's not my biggest desire in a relationship. Emotional connection is more important to me.

Also, if I find out someone has a horrible personality, I'm repulsed by them even if I was originally attracted to them, but if I met a guy online and liked his personality, but later found out he was ugly, unless he was really ugly, I may be slightly less attracted to him, but it wouldn't be as strong of a turnoff as an attractive person with an awful personality.