Married and asked out

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Every one is a stranger first.

Are you planning to cheat on your husband secretly or in public?

if secretly, then it's better to do it with someone who doesn't know your social circle.


Why am I advising you all this?

Not planned anything
Just this guy was showering love, attention
So felt attracted due to loneliness and isolation
Alone whole day

So you cheat on your husband because he is busy with work and you are bored? You also seem to imply that love=gifts and stuff.
Still, find a job and then divorce if you really want to, it is really low to live off someone and also cheat on them.

Also wow at the guys who are giving advice on how to cheat on her husband and then they complain about women in other threads. Seriously...

I know that's directed at me.

Well, it seems her marriage is dead for some reason, she said there's no physical intimacy at all and she said she can't divorce and nothing is improving- so what else do you suggest? how can she get sex/romance?

No one is forever busy, 24/7.

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 04 Jul 2016, 5:04 am, edited 1 time in total.

I agree its low to cheat and use his money
Thats what even i feel

But divorce is not possible
I dont have confidence nor.guts to.pursue it

Anyway Peacesell, she will cheat on him eventually, she set it in her mind, she wants that and she needs that.

So telling her this is morally wrong won't work.

The most moralist way for this is to marry another working man and to divorce this one, since she needs a man's income to live.

No sh*t, Sherlock.

Well I think she said they do have sex. It just seems to me that her husband is often at work and she's bored and alsohe doesn't give her gifts often gifts or takes her out on dates.
The whole "gifts for sex" deal she talks about is quite degrading, to my mind.
Also what is this abuse you are speaking of, if I can ask?

Anyway if you are bored find a job. Then you can buy stuff by yourself and even leave him if you want, because you'd be economically independent. It seems to me that this is a better solution than cheating on your husband.

Go back to school. Get educated in a field that is in demand. Get a job.
You are not getting what you need from this relationship and you will not feel fulfilled with casual sex from a friend who doesn't love you. He may even make your life miserable by blackmailing you after with threats to tell your husband. That path leads to problems not solutions.
With a useful education and a job you will gain some confidence. This is where you have work to do. This is the path to solutions and not problems.

I have education and qualification
But get thrown awah from jobs
Bcos im tongue tied, introvert, low confidence and.low.self worth
I live in isolated area so no social circle
My relatives cut.off when.i.was small
Father drunkard and mother abusive

How is she gonna pay for education?

Right now, she's stuck.

She's totally financially dependent on her husband, her best solution is to marry someone who's willing to pay for her education so she can find a job in order to become independent/less dependent.

Regardless whether she's right or not, she doesn't seem to love her husband much.



Well, she obviously sees sex as a currency. and I think it's too late to change that at that age.

Even if i go to work and any guy at work shows remotest interest in me i will get attracted to
Bcos i dont.get attention from anywhere
No one listens to me
No one.gives me intimacy

Whatever the reason is, it doesn't really seem appropriate to cheat on him while having him providing for you. I don't see how you people are trying to justify this...
Also apparently you are too interovert and low-confidence to have a job but enough to cheat on your husband.

Anyway I wonder where all of the emancipated feminists are, I didn't see any of them in this thread.

^ Yeah, I agree with you.

Ya low confidence for job
And earning
But foolish enough to cheat and get cheated
Gud thought
I need to ponder

Let me add that I don't hate you and my heart is not made of stone, I am just trying to help because I don't think that cheating is the solution here, that's what I think.

What do you mean with "get cheated", did your husband cheat on you?