Do you think you would make a good spouse/partner?

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Not no, but HELL NO! Nobody can stand me, once they get to know me.

No, I don't think I would make a good partner. I don't want to put all the work in that I think is required. Trying to really "see" the other person, I can never be as good as an NT, and therefore I imagine they will feel some level of loneliness in my company. I don't have much to give, and relationships is a balance between giving and receiving. I also feel that I loose myself in a way, when I'm in a relationship. My experience from the two relationships I have been in, is that I go from idealizing to devaluing after a few months, and then I breake up before the other person gets to see my evil side.

You are a person who seems to value independence, Froya. Why not continue on that path?

Unless, of course, you want a partner.

If you don't want a partner, there's no law saying that you must have a partner.

Yes I think I would. I think I have reasonable expectations. I think I'm easy to be around.

I think communication is important otherwise how do you know what's going on, What's to be done round the house, what plans you have?

How you handle problems us important. Can you work through things together.

I do intend to continue on that path. I fall in love very easily, but that just makes me feel more alive for as long as it lasts, I don't want it to go anywhere. Usually it's impossible anyway because it's a rockstar or something lol.

You yourself have a long happy marriage behind you?

It's good and it's bad. Many times, I still want my freedom.

Well, that's probably normal. I still think you represents hope for those who wants what you have.

> "Do you think you would make a good spouse/partner?"

I think so, yes.

No, I would make my partner feel lonely.

I'd make a good spouse/partner for some people, and a terrible one for other people.

I was a bad partner in my 1st two relationships. My anxiety & OCD caused me to worry about things alot & believe things were going on that probably weren't. I got controlling & really clingy as a result which contributed to those those relationships ending. I started anxiety medication before my 2nd relationship ended but it was too little too late. I started OCD medication shortly after it ended because I was having a hard time getting over things & realized my OCD was part of the problem. I haven't had those problems in my current relationship too much. I do think I'm a good partner to my girlfriend because I'm very devoted, caring, loving, protective & always try my best. She's also on the spectrum & I understand her depression & anxiety some because I've been through a psychotic depression that my 1st relationship ending contributed to. She has been having these issues sense she was a teen & had never tried to get psychiatric treatment till I encouraged her too. She still has a long ways to go but she has made some improvement & is able to be more functional, do stuff she wants to do or has to do better, & seems happier. I do think I am a bad partner for the wrong girl thou because I'm disabled(I receive disability) & very dependent due to my disabilities & Aspie issues & I had lots of communication problems trying to get in relationships with NT women so I think an NT would get very frustrated with me very fast.

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how does one define a "good" partner?

If a good partner is the genes you pass on, the money, the social network then probably not

emotionally I feel like I could because the desire is there but I guess I have some unresolved issues that that damn me to a life of solitude

When I was 18, I thought I'd make a great husband/boyfriend/partner. Mostly because I was a nice guy (or maybe a Nice Guy(TM)) who would treat a girl like a princess, and make her feel special and loved. That's what I tried with my first girlfriend. It's also how I marketed myself to girls in general. As I learned, they were repulsed by that. 15 years later, I lost all interest in relationships of any kind, and instead consider them to be a source of misery. I can now honestly say that I probably would not be a good husband/boyfriend/partner.

if you don't mind, I think you'd be just right for me

judging from my one and only "GF experience" I can say that there is probably next to nobody alive that could handle me. it taught me things that are global in nature because it taught me about my essence which is that of an orphan puzzle piece from a long-forgotten puzzle.

Depends on what the other person is looking for. I'd say I'm loyal, responsible with money, and funny (according to a decent amount of people). I probably don't communicate well (I'd like a partner that would know how I feel/think without me having to say it), don't like PDA or going to social events all that often.