Why would I not be compatible with this type of woman?

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In practice, tall guys get to date even very short women--it isn't hard to find pretty 5' 0" women who want guys a full foot taller than them--this effectively reduces the dating pool for tall women to really, really small.

Seems to be that women overwhelmingly prefer guys who are taller than them. And I think it's also true that men tend to prefer being taller than their woman too.

It's not impossible for a 5'8" guy and a 5'10" girl to be interested in each other obviously, but compared to the other way around, the odds aren't in your favour.

If you wanted it to be obvious you would have said 'many women like to wear high heels' not expect to people to automatically know your intention.

Also I would think a weird preference for someone tall over all other traits would be more socially constructed than evolutionary based since height alone isn't any indicator of strength or ability to protect or anything like that.

I don't think your friend can reasonably determine whether or not you would be compatible with a woman he doesn't know, and who doesn't know you, based on her physical appearance alone.

Whether or not another person is attracted to you is for them to determine, not anyone else.

Only if you get to meet them in the first place.

I shouldn't have to, I think it was pretty obvious what my intentions were. I dare say that even if I *had* of said "many women" you would still have posted what you did. That's conjecture on my part, obviously.



RE "strength" you're just repeating your argument now even though I had already addressed it. As for it being social constructs rather than evolutionary I dare say it's probably both. Regardless, the fact remains that women tend to want to go out with taller men.

It is also sexist now to assume that most women prefer taller men despite all the stats and massive anecdotes that demonstrate this tendency?

Well, as I told you, Chichikov - it's too late, you forgot to add 'many'/'some' once before the word women in a sentence therefore you are categorized as a misogynist here for life.

As I said, the only way to make them believe that you are not misogynist is to perform the Seppuku..... or to build a giant Venus statue to worship her day and night.

Maybe....just maybe you might be forgiven then.

It would seem that the vast majority of women prefer to be with taller men. Then again, I am a comfortable six foot something or rather and am definitely not attracting women, so it clearly can't be all there is to it.

I think looking for a specific look in someone to date is an unhealthy attitude. There are plenty of people you will undoubtedly find attractive without restricting yourself to "tall women with blonde hair".

That is true, sort of pretentious for someone to think they know what someone would find attractive based on their looks.

His friend is wise.

Who is his friend to tell me what kind of man I'm interested in or what qualities I will accept or reject in a man?

Women may generally find taller men more immediately attractive, but this is often just a preference and not a requirement for most women. It's much like men may generally immediately find women with larger breasts attractive. That doesn't mean he wouldn't date a woman with average or small breasts.

These things are perks for most people, not deal breakers.

No, no, no no no no no no no no no and no no no no no....and..didn't I say no?

You are not a man who tried to date or dated women taller than you, so you really don't know what you are talking about, you have never experienced this.

Being shorter than the woman is a deal-breaker, in many cases- regardless of anything else. And in many cases, the woman would bluntly say it to the face of the man.


It's funny, because just yesterday when I was in the gym, a very tall girl passed by and she somehow caught the attention of everyone (including the women in the room), she was easily one of the tallest persons in the room - and a (female) acquaintance, out of blue, was like "no way you would have a chance with her" - I was like "What? no, I am not interested in her".
When I asked her why she thinks so, and she said it's the height.

No I'm not a man who has tried to date taller women. I'm a woman who would date not just a short man, but a shorter man.

Why do you deny the existence of women such as myself? We aren't so unusual.

Yes, you are very unusual in that.

and I said: Being shorter than the woman is a deal-breaker, in many cases-

So I think I was pretty clear I didn't mean all, and I am not denying anyone's existence.

But Chronos....you can't also deny my several life experiences, and you can't always assume I am not saying the truth.

You can't assume that I am getting it wrong in my head, and that my height was never a reason for rejection.

You can ask hurtloam how shocked when she was when I showed her a texting from a girl refusing me after first date because of my height, and she was very clear about it. There were more from others, but only this one happened to be English.

Those are real experiences, I am not inventing anything.


You know how you are acting? It's like when an overweight woman complains how many men don't like her and even mock her, and a man is like "No, that's not true, I like fat women, why you are denying my existence?".

or worse, when a woman talks about her experiences of harassment from men and one man is like "I never harass women, why you are denying my existence?" - I am sure he would be smacked. This man sounds like is denying her experiences.


So come on.

I'm not denying that short men, in general, often have a more difficult time finding a mate. How difficult this is will vary from culture to culture and I know very little about Lebanese culture, though I do think maybe you should move elsewhere.

I believe you when you say women have told you you are too short for them, and I acknowledge that must be very frustrating because a person obviously has no control over their height.

But what good does it do you to apply that generalization to individuals you have yet to meet? If you saw me from across the street and were attracted to me, what good does it do you to say "That lady won't date me because I'm short?" People do a lot more damage to themselves with their negative assumptions, than with agnosticism.