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26 Jul 2016, 4:41 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
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hurtloam wrote:
Oh my goodness Face of Boo stop being so negative with everyone!



-He told them he never had a kiss before.
- The girl said I will give you this first kiss.


This is a pity kiss, what else you would call it?

Hmm...ok, let's get so extremely optimistic:
An opportunistic kiss? She liked him so she decided to grab the opportunity? ....it could be, but so unlikely.

if so then they should be dating very soon, otherwise it was a just a pity kiss....but let's wait and see.

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DID SHE MESSAGE YOU? DID SHE SHOW INTEREST AFTERWARD?

I guess to me, a pity kiss would seem more along the lines of something you'd give to someone begrudgingly. Like you don't really want to do it, but you do it to make the person feel better.

In this situation, she didn't seem terribly hesitant, and she propositioned me rather than the other way around, so I'm not sure you could put that under the same class. Maybe you could, but it still seems a fair bit different than someone giving into the will of someone else as opposed to volunteering.

And I don't think it's going to turn into anything more, no. I added her on Facebook. She accepted my request. No messaging has taken place, and I assume we'll resume as friends.


Do you like her?



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26 Jul 2016, 4:45 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
Oh my goodness Face of Boo stop being so negative with everyone!



-He told them he never had a kiss before.
- The girl said I will give you this first kiss.


This is a pity kiss, what else you would call it?

Hmm...ok, let's get so extremely optimistic:
An opportunistic kiss? She liked him so she decided to grab the opportunity? ....it could be, but so unlikely.

if so then they should be dating very soon, otherwise it was a just a pity kiss....but let's wait and see.

The Grand whatever:
DID SHE MESSAGE YOU? DID SHE SHOW INTEREST AFTERWARD?

I guess to me, a pity kiss would seem more along the lines of something you'd give to someone begrudgingly. Like you don't really want to do it, but you do it to make the person feel better.

In this situation, she didn't seem terribly hesitant, and she propositioned me rather than the other way around, so I'm not sure you could put that under the same class. Maybe you could, but it still seems a fair bit different than someone giving into the will of someone else as opposed to volunteering.

And I don't think it's going to turn into anything more, no. I added her on Facebook. She accepted my request. No messaging has taken place, and I assume we'll resume as friends.


Do you like her?

I don't know her all that well. I would probably have to get to know her better to provide a more decisive answer. Like I said, I don't see this going anywhere though.



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26 Jul 2016, 5:49 am

It counts. She consented to kiss you.

"Pity kisses" are rare.

Why do you think this "won't get anywhere?"



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26 Jul 2016, 5:51 am

Have you contacted the girl since the kiss?

I hope you pursue this, you Wolfman you!



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01 Aug 2016, 10:18 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
In this situation, she didn't seem terribly hesitant, and she propositioned me rather than the other way around, so I'm not sure you could put that under the same class. Maybe you could, but it still seems a fair bit different than someone giving into the will of someone else as opposed to volunteering.
That's what I think happened. Think of it as "goodwill kiss" than a "pity kiss". A girl who respects you as a person, even though she isn't sexually attracted to you, gave you something she knew would make you really happy. Heck, it might have even felt as good to her as it did to you. So don't come down on yourself over it. While it would be unreasonable to expect her to kiss you again, let alone let you practice with her, the fact that she volunteered to give you your first kiss speaks very highly of her. She also trusted you not to start acting weird after the kiss, which shows respect toward you on her part, and in many cases, respect is more important than romantic interest. Are you two still friends?

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Mr Grand Inquisitor look on the brightside. At least you'll look back and remember that first kiss was with a friend whom you like and respect. I look back on my first kiss and wish it had been with a nice person. I don't even like him as a person at all.
My first kiss was more "crazy" than how you're describing yours. I was 20 at the time. It was in the middle of a dark dance floor in a bar, while completely wasted. She started making out with me within minutes of first meeting; I didn't even know her name. Maybe it was the novelty of getting my first kiss or maybe it was the alcohol in my brain, but I almost passed out from the good sensory overload. To this day, only one lady could match the easygoing passion (weird combination of words, I know) of my first kiss, and she was an escort.