05 Sep 2016, 1:25 pm
green0star wrote:
You have to find someone who has very low standards which is alot of females these days 
Lets put it this way, if chicks can dig a guy who's behind bars and literally go to the jail every day to visit then that same chick can take her chances with someone who lives off a check every month.
Lets put it this way, if chicks can dig a guy who's behind bars and literally go to the jail every day to visit then that same chick can take her chances with someone who lives off a check every month.That's not lowering standards, that's going after alpha males. Who well tend to be the dangerous hot types. Which tends to get them in trouble with the law(fights, stealing etc) my ex friends are that type. They are super confrontational, enjoy getting super drunk regularly. Never had problem finding girls. Guys in jail tend to send off a mysteries edgy vibe and trigger that I can fix him response from women. There was one prison that had tear tattoos (means he killed someone per tear) and women went crazy for him and started petitions to have hi, released. I don't get it. Why do so many women go after the edgy dangerous guy who's likely to hurt them? Why not change the calming nice guy to be more edgy.
Basically it's seen as meeting their standards so not lowering them, while dating a aspie on ssi would be send as lowering and not accepted by their family and friends.
This one lady I tried messaging said she would date sensitive guy but he can't be a sissy. What's that mean? I dont know but alpha guys always made fun of me and called me a sissy, because I don't take risks. I have anxiety. I do fight with others , I don't do stupid stuff like jump off a house onto a trampoline. So I guess it won't work with her or most women.
05 Sep 2016, 2:13 pm
sly279 wrote:
green0star wrote:
You have to find someone who has very low standards which is alot of females these days Lets put it this way, if chicks can dig a guy who's behind bars and literally go to the jail every day to visit then that same chick can take her chances with someone who lives off a check every month.
Lets put it this way, if chicks can dig a guy who's behind bars and literally go to the jail every day to visit then that same chick can take her chances with someone who lives off a check every month.That's not lowering standards, that's going after alpha males. Who well tend to be the dangerous hot types. Which tends to get them in trouble with the law(fights, stealing etc) my ex friends are that type. They are super confrontational, enjoy getting super drunk regularly. Never had problem finding girls. Guys in jail tend to send off a mysteries edgy vibe and trigger that I can fix him response from women. There was one prison that had tear tattoos (means he killed someone per tear) and women went crazy for him and started petitions to have hi, released. I don't get it. Why do so many women go after the edgy dangerous guy who's likely to hurt them? Why not change the calming nice guy to be more edgy.
Basically it's seen as meeting their standards so not lowering them, while dating a aspie on ssi would be send as lowering and not accepted by their family and friends.
This one lady I tried messaging said she would date sensitive guy but he can't be a sissy. What's that mean? I dont know but alpha guys always made fun of me and called me a sissy, because I don't take risks. I have anxiety. I do fight with others , I don't do stupid stuff like jump off a house onto a trampoline. So I guess it won't work with her or most women.
You and I have very different definitions of what an alpha male is. In my experience guys in jail are followers which lead them to jail in the first place. An alpha male has his own mind.
Theres a fine line between sensitive and sissy. A sensitive guy to me shows empathy and sympathy to the people and issues he cares about while a sissy requires empathy / sympathy from the people who care about him.
Did you ask her if you would be a fit for her or did you see that and leave her alone?
05 Sep 2016, 3:07 pm
Empress83 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
green0star wrote:
You have to find someone who has very low standards which is alot of females these days Lets put it this way, if chicks can dig a guy who's behind bars and literally go to the jail every day to visit then that same chick can take her chances with someone who lives off a check every month.
Lets put it this way, if chicks can dig a guy who's behind bars and literally go to the jail every day to visit then that same chick can take her chances with someone who lives off a check every month.That's not lowering standards, that's going after alpha males. Who well tend to be the dangerous hot types. Which tends to get them in trouble with the law(fights, stealing etc) my ex friends are that type. They are super confrontational, enjoy getting super drunk regularly. Never had problem finding girls. Guys in jail tend to send off a mysteries edgy vibe and trigger that I can fix him response from women. There was one prison that had tear tattoos (means he killed someone per tear) and women went crazy for him and started petitions to have hi, released. I don't get it. Why do so many women go after the edgy dangerous guy who's likely to hurt them? Why not change the calming nice guy to be more edgy.
Basically it's seen as meeting their standards so not lowering them, while dating a aspie on ssi would be send as lowering and not accepted by their family and friends.
This one lady I tried messaging said she would date sensitive guy but he can't be a sissy. What's that mean? I dont know but alpha guys always made fun of me and called me a sissy, because I don't take risks. I have anxiety. I do fight with others , I don't do stupid stuff like jump off a house onto a trampoline. So I guess it won't work with her or most women.
You and I have very different definitions of what an alpha male is. In my experience guys in jail are followers which lead them to jail in the first place. An alpha male has his own mind.
Theres a fine line between sensitive and sissy. A sensitive guy to me shows empathy and sympathy to the people and issues he cares about while a sissy requires empathy / sympathy from the people who care about him.
Did you ask her if you would be a fit for her or did you see that and leave her alone?
Alpha males =jocks, musical, dominate, confrontational, believes violence solves everything. They'd fight another guy for talking to their girl or offending her honor.
I don't believe in violence. I was raised by women. I'm not physically strong. IVE never been in a fight and hope I never will. I won't defend a woman's honor by attacking a guy. Honor doesn't need defended. One either has honor or doesn't. Someone can't take your honor with words. If anything I believe fighting over words is dishonorable. I would fight to save a life and that's it. I don't take risks, why risk getting hurt while there's a perfectly safe way. I've never broken any bones and hardly had many injured at all.
Sissy is defined as :wimp, p****, weak cant fight or is scared to do somthing bad.
I don't do bad stuff. That's illegal. As an aspie I don't break the law or polices set before me. I likely am too weak to fight so I carry tools to equalize that.
I'm compassionate, romantic, caring,mind hearted, I feel bad for killing bugs as their a living creature who's life should be respected. Growing up I've been called a baby, sissy or other words by bullies, family or ex friends. Because I don't conform to the stereotype masculine idea of being risk taker, killing things for no reason, getting dirty(I'm germaphobe) etc.
So I doubt she'd like me as most women won't. I am who I am. I won't change these things as they go against my very moral fiber and everything I believe. Violence should only be used under such situations where no other option will prevail to save life's. Ww2 was an prime example of use of violence.
Word sissy or baby just brings me back to middle school horror
that I'm not a real man because I believe in kindness over violence. I don't see how someone could be compassionate or sensitive and not be what people call a sissy.How would I ask her if I'd be a fit without understanding what she means?
When asked what she meant by sensitive she said she wouldn't want a baby,Magen ask what she meant she said a sissy. She's not once defined what attributes she means.
05 Sep 2016, 7:48 pm
Outrider wrote:
Unfortunately for me, I never meet a female version of myself.
My point was if you wouldn't date a female version of yourself, it's hardly fair to expect those you're interested in to be interested in you.
Outrider wrote:
I'm from a lower-middle class/poorer background and every girl I meet in the same position in life as me has 'accepted her fate'.
What I mean is, despite being born with Aspergers, Anxiety and Agoraphobia, and having a family high in substance abuse, unemployment, high school dropouts, untreated mental illness, and general low-lifes of the criminal and/or bogan' variety, etc. I am working my hardest to be fit, healthy, hygienic, well-groomed, well-mannered, social, confident, friendly, positive, hardworking, and successful financially, educationally and career-wise.
I am 'different' from most of my family and friends, and all I ever ask for is an average looking girl who I am emotionally and physically attracted to who is different to hers as well, and is putting even as much as a half-a55ed effort in life as I am.
Instead, most of the other lower-middle class girls have been too influenced by their families. They tend to be bitter, jaded, aggressive, have had traumatic pasts and may still currently have a 'hard life' and bad home life, and don't take care of their physical and mental health or appearance at all (substance abuse, self-harmers, aggressive, sociopathic/cruel, smokers, poor diets, poor hygiene, etc.)
Still, for some reason I naturally gravitate towards these types, and I can't get along with or relate to middle class girls and they tend not to accept me for being disabled/not employed and not in education. The 'messed up' girls also are more likely to accept me for who I am.
The only girl I met in my entire life who was 'different' than her family, I did have a crush on her, and she liked me back, but we were both over each other by the time I contacted her again after she moved far away abruptly.
I seriously doubt I'll ever meet a rare gem like that ever again.
I am in a tiny, rare grey area - not good enough for regular middle class girls, and I feel too ambitious and hardworking to have to settle for lower middle class girls who are negative and would probably drag me down like my family already do.
What I mean is, despite being born with Aspergers, Anxiety and Agoraphobia, and having a family high in substance abuse, unemployment, high school dropouts, untreated mental illness, and general low-lifes of the criminal and/or bogan' variety, etc. I am working my hardest to be fit, healthy, hygienic, well-groomed, well-mannered, social, confident, friendly, positive, hardworking, and successful financially, educationally and career-wise.
I am 'different' from most of my family and friends, and all I ever ask for is an average looking girl who I am emotionally and physically attracted to who is different to hers as well, and is putting even as much as a half-a55ed effort in life as I am.
Instead, most of the other lower-middle class girls have been too influenced by their families. They tend to be bitter, jaded, aggressive, have had traumatic pasts and may still currently have a 'hard life' and bad home life, and don't take care of their physical and mental health or appearance at all (substance abuse, self-harmers, aggressive, sociopathic/cruel, smokers, poor diets, poor hygiene, etc.)
Still, for some reason I naturally gravitate towards these types, and I can't get along with or relate to middle class girls and they tend not to accept me for being disabled/not employed and not in education. The 'messed up' girls also are more likely to accept me for who I am.
The only girl I met in my entire life who was 'different' than her family, I did have a crush on her, and she liked me back, but we were both over each other by the time I contacted her again after she moved far away abruptly.
I seriously doubt I'll ever meet a rare gem like that ever again.
I am in a tiny, rare grey area - not good enough for regular middle class girls, and I feel too ambitious and hardworking to have to settle for lower middle class girls who are negative and would probably drag me down like my family already do.
Your preferences are completely fair. As a person who is ambitious and hardworking, when you move out of home and start working, you may find yourself on par with these regular middle class girls of which you speak. I guess only time will tell.
I personally don't like to reduce people down to labels like "lower class" and "middle class". I feel it strips people of their individuality.
05 Sep 2016, 7:55 pm
The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
Outrider wrote:
Unfortunately for me, I never meet a female version of myself.
My point was if you wouldn't date a female version of yourself, it's hardly fair to expect those you're interested in to be interested in you.
Outrider wrote:
I'm from a lower-middle class/poorer background and every girl I meet in the same position in life as me has 'accepted her fate'.
What I mean is, despite being born with Aspergers, Anxiety and Agoraphobia, and having a family high in substance abuse, unemployment, high school dropouts, untreated mental illness, and general low-lifes of the criminal and/or bogan' variety, etc. I am working my hardest to be fit, healthy, hygienic, well-groomed, well-mannered, social, confident, friendly, positive, hardworking, and successful financially, educationally and career-wise.
I am 'different' from most of my family and friends, and all I ever ask for is an average looking girl who I am emotionally and physically attracted to who is different to hers as well, and is putting even as much as a half-a55ed effort in life as I am.
Instead, most of the other lower-middle class girls have been too influenced by their families. They tend to be bitter, jaded, aggressive, have had traumatic pasts and may still currently have a 'hard life' and bad home life, and don't take care of their physical and mental health or appearance at all (substance abuse, self-harmers, aggressive, sociopathic/cruel, smokers, poor diets, poor hygiene, etc.)
Still, for some reason I naturally gravitate towards these types, and I can't get along with or relate to middle class girls and they tend not to accept me for being disabled/not employed and not in education. The 'messed up' girls also are more likely to accept me for who I am.
The only girl I met in my entire life who was 'different' than her family, I did have a crush on her, and she liked me back, but we were both over each other by the time I contacted her again after she moved far away abruptly.
I seriously doubt I'll ever meet a rare gem like that ever again.
I am in a tiny, rare grey area - not good enough for regular middle class girls, and I feel too ambitious and hardworking to have to settle for lower middle class girls who are negative and would probably drag me down like my family already do.
What I mean is, despite being born with Aspergers, Anxiety and Agoraphobia, and having a family high in substance abuse, unemployment, high school dropouts, untreated mental illness, and general low-lifes of the criminal and/or bogan' variety, etc. I am working my hardest to be fit, healthy, hygienic, well-groomed, well-mannered, social, confident, friendly, positive, hardworking, and successful financially, educationally and career-wise.
I am 'different' from most of my family and friends, and all I ever ask for is an average looking girl who I am emotionally and physically attracted to who is different to hers as well, and is putting even as much as a half-a55ed effort in life as I am.
Instead, most of the other lower-middle class girls have been too influenced by their families. They tend to be bitter, jaded, aggressive, have had traumatic pasts and may still currently have a 'hard life' and bad home life, and don't take care of their physical and mental health or appearance at all (substance abuse, self-harmers, aggressive, sociopathic/cruel, smokers, poor diets, poor hygiene, etc.)
Still, for some reason I naturally gravitate towards these types, and I can't get along with or relate to middle class girls and they tend not to accept me for being disabled/not employed and not in education. The 'messed up' girls also are more likely to accept me for who I am.
The only girl I met in my entire life who was 'different' than her family, I did have a crush on her, and she liked me back, but we were both over each other by the time I contacted her again after she moved far away abruptly.
I seriously doubt I'll ever meet a rare gem like that ever again.
I am in a tiny, rare grey area - not good enough for regular middle class girls, and I feel too ambitious and hardworking to have to settle for lower middle class girls who are negative and would probably drag me down like my family already do.
Your preferences are completely fair. As a person who is ambitious and hardworking, when you move out of home and start working, you may find yourself on par with these regular middle class girls of which you speak. I guess only time will tell.
I personally don't like to reduce people down to labels like "lower class" and "middle class". I feel it strips people of their individuality.
Mr. Grand Inquisitor you seem very wise for your age. (I mean this as a compliment to you.)
05 Sep 2016, 8:09 pm
05 Sep 2016, 10:33 pm
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