Liking someone but not in that way

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I do need some sort of physical attractiveness, but it's mostly if someone is fit/healthy or not. Like if someone had rotting teeth, are obesed, have strong body ordor all the time from not showering, or has a wiener, ain't no way I'll ever be attracted to them.

I've had relationships before that were strictly physical but they lasted at most a week. Sex without love feels wrong for me. I know there is nothing wrong with casual sex, alot of people enjoy it but I just can't.

Had a girl upon seeing my picture block me, but after i emailed her, said you're really cute but not my type.

Contradiction to what I've been told here, that cute equals attraction. If so how can you find so one cute but not attractive?

O.o

Personally speaking, I can find someone cute (or good looking, or pretty, or beautiful) and still not be attracted to them.

Not to be a Debbie Downer, but given you emailed her after she blocked you, is it possible she was trying to let you down gently and avoid a scene/outburst?

LOL Okay, perhaps I should have been more specific. Yes, they have to be also well groomed, not smelling like a barnyard animal, be of the correct jender, which for me is male, and be fairly fit and healthy. Though I'm not going to be a stickler on that, I don't want someone who is over 300 pounds, since I'm barely breaking 100. I'm only 96 pounds, so below 300 would be nice. LOL. I just meant that looks isn't a major thing for me, but smell sure as heck is. I'm also the same way. I can't do casual sex, and never could. I have to have formed an emotional attraction to that person first. I was never turned on by superstars for that reason either really. I never understood how you could feel turned on by someone you never bonded with, let alone never talked to or never met.

Is there a distinction, albeit small, between fancying someone and being attracted to them?

For instance, I find lots of females attractive but that isn't necessarily to suggest I would like to be in a relationship with any of them. However, if I were to say I "fancy you" to a woman, would this infer that I would like to be their boyfriend?

Romance is still a difficult thing for my mind to comprehend. The amount of times I overhear groups of men berating their wives is staggering. Yet curiously they seem content to remain in their marriages despite their overt indifferences towards their partners. I surmise that females are just the same, but perhaps not quite so crude and inflammatory about their men.