Done Wasting Time I Quit Dating

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At least you have some sort of talent. I've accepted my lot in life as a mistake. Just a matter of time to eat a gun.

but not in this way.

For people like me, there's no point even trying to find a girlfriend. I don't like being alone, but I have no choice in the matter. If you can be happy single, then good for you.

time to make more lemonade.

Ive decided if I havent found someone by time I turn 40, Im gonna kill myself on my 40th birthday. I cant be alone. Theres no reason for me to be alive.

A little under 2yrs and counting.... august 2018 here I come...

pardon me for my density but I thought you had already had a mate. even if it was in the past, at least you had the experience.

Yep. While Id not trade my experience, I suspect the having what you wanted most and then losing it is worse than never having had it before... especially when you're left to realize how little you appreciated it when you had it and now live with crushing regret.

I suppose for someone whos never had that, theyd disagree with what may be worse and would rather be in my position, which is the fallacy of comparisons. When you love somene the way I did, and are now back out there seeing what other women are actually about its a shock. I just dont think anyone I can find will compare to my wife.... plus any idea how few single women there are in their 30s that dont have kids? Not very many it seems.

So, Im giving it two years and then checking out. Living alone is useless and not something I have any interest in at all in learning how to do. I cant conceive of how people wake up everyday... how anyone cares about anything... its just a very alien way to think or feel for me...

Bottle of sleeping pills in one hand, liter of vodka in the other... drive to the woods, empty both bottles, and drift off...

i'm sorry you are hurting. but I must caution you that few self-termination methods are 100% foolproof- the consequences of failure can be dire.

Finally, someone who admits being alone is one of the darkest hells.

Too many people try to say 'You've got to be happy on your own first'.

It's B.S. An effin' lie made up by most Normies (normie - someone with a normal amount of friendships and relationships). Most normies can enter another relationship within 6 months after a breakup, they don't know true loneliness. Few/no friends, no girlfriend, not a good relation with family.

A lot of normies who are 'happy' on their 'own' coincidentally have a group of 4-6 good friends, one long-term romantic relationship at least once every 2-4 years, and a supportive and caring family.

The reality is money doesn't really buy happiness, all the success in the world is nothing without true love, true friends and wonderful family to spend time with, support and always be there by your side and you for them.

It is one of the only purposes in life, to enjoy it with others and make it the best you possibly can and they for you before our time is up.

Personally I don't give one single damn about being a success.

I don't want to change the world at all. I don't want to be rich, famous, I don't even want to do what most normal people to and get the degree and have a successful career.

I seriously don't care.

Even most humanitarian efforts I find are completely pointless, we'll all just end up dead in the end anyway, but I can still find the value in volunteering for some paradoxically odd reason.

At least when you volunteer for a good cause it does help make the lives of other's better before they meet their fate.

But yeah. It's the people that matter to me. The people in my life, of which I have very few right now to none or we're too separated by distance for me to really see them and spend time with them.

There's already multiple studies that show love is the key to happiness for most people.

A 75 year comprehensive study (the Grant Study) of thousands of men revealed love is the key to happiness.

All forms of love, whether it be supportive friendships and family, etc.

http://www.businessinsider.com.au/rober ... ss-2015-12

Yeah, I know I'm only 17.

Well, I'm actually 18 next month.

For most of my childhood I had little to no good friends and very few acqauintances, very much a loner. Age 10 I met my best friend who i still talk to today.

In 6th and 7th grade we had a great time.

Then we both moved to different places come high school.

High school, 8th-11th grade was a long string of loneliness or brief friendships that came and went, but no true good friends were made. No girlfriend.

11th grade, met two good mates, but I ended up moving once again at the end of the year.

12th grade, new high school, fresh start, made no good friends all year. Ended the year on a high note with at least a girlfriend and chatting to another girl who dropped out and moved away a few months earlier.

Girlfriend dumped me not long after, and as usual I went back into my typical state of solitude.

I was use to solitude by now, but not like this - at least I had school to go to, now it's complete and total isolation, day-in day-out.

Also, I'm probably wired very similar to you regarding my need for an LTR.

FFS, I've always been a hopeless romantic.

Yeah I can't conceive of much worse things than loneliness. Some people are just better equipped for it. Some actually crave it, but don't call it loneliness because being alone is what they like. Not me.

I enjoy sharing experiences. Discussions. Even watching things is dumb alone to me.

So at 40... off I go. f**k it.

There are some activities I enjoy completely solitary and like to talk to myself and be with my own thoughts, but obviously not everything, and some things can only be enhanced with others.

Truthfully, most people don't like to do things alone, I'm sure you've noticed this.

There are even many places where you look like a weirdo or it's socially unacceptable to be alone.

worse than loneliness is enforced association with people not of one's wavelength and hostile to one. at least being alone I am not having to put up with such obnoxiousness 99% of the time. being with somebody around which one must constantly be on guard/walk on eggshells, is IMHO not as pleasant experience as being alone. all my life I've had to do everything alone, and while it is akin to eating bland unseasoned food it still is better than starving. to dwell on feelings of loneliness is a futility, and also it elevates other people ["company" or "companionship"] to a position they, per se, don't necessarily rate. I hope the lonely people can ponder this now and then.

living out in the sticks, it is more socially acceptable to do things alone, mainly 'cause there's so relatively few people out here.

Id say don't be all or nothing, spend a little bit of time looking for a gf anc spend most of your timv building your life. While being detached to the results

To me it's not about how I look because I'll do things my myself. I went to a concert alone on Saturday. But it's just not enjoyable to me to do things alone. I'm just wired that way and it's really hard to articulate logically, because when I do, I realize how irrational it is, yet, it's so deeply ingrained. Self awareness only takes one so far...

So trying to go and 'find someone' is more or less compulsory.