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18 Oct 2016, 12:38 am

So many hypocrites in this thread acting like they've never been obsessed with anyone.


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18 Oct 2016, 1:56 am

We have never crossed the line to stalking someone



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18 Oct 2016, 1:59 am

Stalking someone shows no respect for their privacy.

When I list what I think are desirable features in a partner I come up with stuff like Kind, Friendly, Interested in the same stuff as me. It wouldn't occur to me to list Respects my Privacy because to most people that is an unwritten fundamental required feature. Like being Non-Violent.

If you need a list of these unwritten rules then people here might like to suggest some.
I'll start with. ..

Respect Privacy -and that means you must not follow people.


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18 Oct 2016, 2:37 am

Well said mended



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18 Oct 2016, 12:02 pm

mended wrote:
Stalking someone shows no respect for their privacy.

When I list what I think are desirable features in a partner I come up with stuff like Kind, Friendly, Interested in the same stuff as me. It wouldn't occur to me to list Respects my Privacy because to most people that is an unwritten fundamental required feature. Like being Non-Violent.

If you need a list of these unwritten rules then people here might like to suggest some.
I'll start with. ..

Respect Privacy -and that means you must not follow people.


I was holding back from this thread because it's 'guys only', but one thing I would say to OP:

Why do you ask how the boyfriend would feel about the stalking, rather than how the girl herself would feel? Surely her opinion on the matter is more significant than his to your situation?



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18 Oct 2016, 2:00 pm

wowiexist wrote:
Stalking is illegal is most jurisdictions. Besides there have been quite a few murders that started with stalking.


This was my first thought and I strongly urge to OP to back off... Also Cyber Stalking is big deal these days, so don't try to take a lighter approach this way either.



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18 Oct 2016, 4:26 pm

No, OP!
That's a bad OP!
Seriously, find another girl.


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18 Oct 2016, 5:12 pm

In what way you are 'obsessively following' her?

Are you actually going around her house, following her to her workplace, following her footsteps...etc? (which is a real stalker action)

Or are you simply virtually "following" her like checking her new photos on Facebook, checking her tweets, or even glancing at her whenever you see her coming in, attempting to message her...etc? (which is something a lot of people do actually - and it's harmless to the target but psychologically harmful for you)

There's a world of difference between the two fellowship scenarios.



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19 Oct 2016, 3:58 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
In what way you are 'obsessively following' her?

Are you actually going around her house, following her to her workplace, following her footsteps...etc? (which is a real stalker action)

Or are you simply virtually "following" her like checking her new photos on Facebook, checking her tweets, or even glancing at her whenever you see her coming in, attempting to message her...etc? (which is something a lot of people do actually - and it's harmless to the target but psychologically harmful for you)

There's a world of difference between the two fellowship scenarios.




I saw her for the first in 3 years recently and followed around the bar all night. I do check her Facebook constantly and have cycled near her house.